This thread made me laugh sorry, its that I hardly talk to women I don't know, let alone a date. In my prespective it would be a disaster.
I can relate to that.
I throw myself into weird situations because I'm scared to death of the regret I'll have if I don't. It's not so much loneliness or isolation that makes me look for a sexual partner, as much as a fear of having an empty book of memories to read some day.
Can american women be mail order brides? I think that might be the solution to my problems..lol
Well... 'get a date'... Where I live it ain't about getting dates, it's about hanging out with someone you're in love with, then becoming their boy-/girlfriend, then doing stoof together if you like so. Or if your boy-/girlfriend likes to and you can't say 'no'.
There is only one girl for me. She's perfect in every thinkable view. Analysed from a scientific perspecive, so I'm not just saying it because I like her so much, it is true - non excaggeratedly.
And I am a terrible person. The only good thang is that I am a bit self-conscient. If I got the chance to travel back in time for like 16 years I'd kill my own person laying in the incubator.
The conclusion is that I shouldn't even bother trying to hang out with her, which, as mentioned before, is an early step to getting a girlfriend. If I did bother, it would make me even more of a sickening person. Why would she want me? Why would anyone approve a failure such as me messing with such a divinely-succesful girl? All I can do is sitting here, watching her and thinking about her, without any hope that she will ever feel the same for me. I'm doing the best I can accepting that some people (c'est moi) are just bad people, not entitled to happiness.
But now I'm going off-track. The anser is 'yes, I am anyone who does cannot get a date'.
Also, i'm all about thoughts & logic, not feelings/emotions - and with (most?) women, i suspect they're ALL about feelings .. so i'm doomed then!
Gotta get a Spock-loving woman then.
There was one site I was on quite recently, and one woman actually allowed me to chat to her for a few minutes. However, she definitely wasn't interested, and I think that she was only being polite. It ended up being just smalltalk.
It quickly went downhill, because she asked me a question in such a way, that made me think that she already knew what the answer was going to be.
The question was "Tell me honestly, have you ever been on a date, or had a girlfriend."
I told her the truth, and her reponse was "No, nobody can be that pathetic. Really? You're almost 28 and never even had a girlfriend. OK, you're too pathetic. Stop talking to me."
Now I'm giving up on everything and just wating patiently for the day I die, and all this pain will leave me the **** alone.
i can never get the date right. normally i just guess
Ha ha ha .. thats BANG-ON Pookah! ::
Dude, DON'T let lack of a woman cause you pain - nowadays i'm NOT EVEN BOTHERED IN THE SLIGHTEST that i've never had a g'f or date, it's (& they) are "barely on my radar"!!! I've never really "had a life", but that's fine, as i've only ever been interested in academics & other solitary pursuits. DON'T rely on ANY women/woman for your emotional health - as they WILL let you down sooner or later. AT BEST they might increase your hapiness a BIT (& DON'T believe all the "hype" that the media (and people, and women themselves) expel through their "facial rectum", about a man "NEEDING" a woman, etc, etc - its NOT TRUE - it's BULLSHIT. You've got to LOSE the notion in your head that they are these perfect/wonderful/spiritual/heavenly/etc/etc creatures. They (& us males) are basically just ANIMALS WITH A MEMORY/FOREBRAIN. So, we are a BIT above animals, but for many people on earth the difference is barely noticeable!
Okay, so they have their lovely lumps & bumps & curves, and they often "flaunt" those things, and they are very sensory/sensual beings - but don't get "washed away" by all that stuff, as when you get down to it, women/girls are made of the VERY SAME plain-old bread'n'butter atoms that every other living creature is made of - so nout special in that regard
As for that "excuse" for a woman, she is exactly the same type of woman whom I am repulsed/repelled by - immature, follows-the-flock, no individuality, "common", "superior", full of irrationality, over-aggressive, doesn't think before she opens her "gobby" mouth, etc, etc. They are very very shallow/narrow-minded, and THEY are the ones who are pathetic (& they feel as such, and cover it up by calling OTHERS pathetic). They have never done justice to their existence, preferring to swim in the warm/fuzzy/safe shallows, & not swim out into the wild unknowns of the ocean, and are terrified of even getting their HAIR wet, let alone dive under the surface of life. It's people like us on socialphobiaworld who are the pioneers/explorers of the real "underworld" of life. Most others scavenge/scrap/fight/predate/etc like dinosaur-like wingless vultures up on the surface (of the sea & land)
But keep "chipping away" dude, it's a long slow painful process getting out of the "hole", but when you do get out of it (& you WILL, with lots of perseverance, & a dash of luck) into the light, you will realise that that hole that you were in wasn't really as bad a place as you thought, it just simply lacked "light", and in the darkness your imagination can play dirty tricks on you!