Do you think general people are scared of you?

[Iluv]

I was actually just thinking about this today! Some people say 'you're intimidating' but I hardly believe it I try to look nice. Right now though I see people younger than me in the halls running away when they see me, I have no clue why. I'm assuming because it always looks like I just got into a fight. Plus sometimes I'm so shy I get scared and people just think it's because I'm so rough and tough. I don't know why. ::

 

[ilovenoodles]

No, it's the opposite lol. I hate it

 

[KiaKaha]

No I dont think people are scared of me - nor do I want them to be. I dont feel that fear and intimidation is particularly helpful or kind. I do wish sometimes I had a sense of authority and strength - perhaps via an internal presence - only to protect those who are victims of the aforementioned traits.

I do enjoy it when people try to intimidate me though. I am afraid of people but not in that way. I have the capability of standing up for myself and those that I care about - I dont tolerate bullying nor do I like people attempting to 'put me in my place' if they disagree with me.

 

[Kinetik]

I don't think people are scared of me, but I think I lack a certain social pizzazz which sometimes makes others a little uncomfortable. It can cause them to respond to me in a not-so-favorable way. For example, if I smile and try to be easy going and genial, I notice that it comes across as more nervous and overly ingratiating than anything else. I'd like to get to a point where I can be effortlessly comfortable, thereby putting others at ease too. Unfortunately, it's very easy to pick up on an insecure social vibe, and people will often reflect it back at you, sometimes subconsciously, sometimes not.

 

[MrJones]

Not at all. Maybe they feel pity, but nothnig else. Most of the times they don't even notice I'm there.

Well, I guess some people may be scared for how I look, dark and sad and crazy? I don't know. Anyway if someone is scared that's probably me.

 

[montejocarlo]

I had lived two lives in the past. In my one life, people find me intimidating. They think I'm this smart snobbish person nobody can approach. In my other life, I'm this clumsy anxious girl, easily intimidated by pretty girls or good looking guys and smart people. I don't know which one is worse. But both of those characters were facades because I didn't know who I was. I'm quite sure people aren't scared of me though. I'm scared of them.. Well, not that much anymore. I can assert myself whenever I need to. There are just people who have strong personality that's hard for me to reach.

 

[Kiwong]

My anxiety is a like a mirror I hold up to the world, my fear gets reflected back at me.

 

[ddhamilt]

At times they were because I could be intense into intimidating, but much of the time it was me being paranoid. And usually I did the intimidating act to protect myself so I wouldn't "get hurt" "made fun of" etc. Not necessary, but it was a defense mechanism.

Now if people are looking at me I just assumed there's something interesting about me they are drawn to. Totally belief system shift from doing a lot of work to overcome SA.

 

[Tulicks]

I think people hate looking at my eyes because they often look angry and piercing.

 

[Silentknight]

Yes, but that's my own fault. I'm 6ft and very thin yet the way I dress intimidates most people, it also doesn't help that due to my imperfect teeth I can't smile so I always seem to have a constant angry face even when I'm happy. It really sucks because if people got to know me they would realize that i'm rarely angry and I'm almost never mean, I think my looks are what really contribute to me not having many friends.

 

[recluse]

When i am anxious i find it hard to smile and my face looks tense and i guess that some people could missinterpet it as me being intimidating. I remember going to a store wearing a sleevless t shirt so my tattoos were showing and the lady working on the counter was visibly intimidated ie - quivering voice etc, and i felt mortified that i had made her feel as nervous as i feel with people.

I do find that with sa i tend to act overtly nice with people because i fear people hating me, but then people walk over me::