you look perfectly fine, anyway my ex-girlfriend was very pretty and considered herself very ugly 
so I guess beauty is really relative!
so I guess beauty is really relative!
Do you love your self?
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vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
you look perfectly fine, anyway my ex-girlfriend was very pretty and considered herself very ugly
You could say beauty is through the eye of the beholder. (anyone?)
exactly vj288, it really is!
it's all about personal taste body chemistry, micro body-language, neurotransmitters physiological and emotional needs
yes Slywire many people will interpret sarcasm as arrogance replace it with a nicer form of humour
replace it with a nicer form of humour
Falkor
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Yes, it's how you feel about yourself, how you see yourself.
Sometimes I wish people could look at themselfes like other people see them.
Because that would have make everyone so much happier.
Tuco, at least you don't have PMS??
((hugs))
To others out there learning to love or at least like or tolerate yourself too!!
vj, nooo!! but you're such an excellent story-teller and thread-starter??
(can't you at least love those bits about you??
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vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
vj, nooo!! but you're such an excellent story-teller and thread-starter??
(can't you at least love those bits about you??
I'm going to use Socrates idea of what virtue is as an example to help explain this. He thinks the virtue is made up of all these things; courage, justice, wisdom, ect... In order for an act to be virtuous it must have all these things, not just a few or most of them.
I am like virtue. There may be "bits" I like, but as a whole I cannot say I do. As an act without wisdom cannot be virtuous, I cannot like myself while there are unavoidably terrible things I see in myself.
On a less depressing note, thanks for the compliment.
lunaticbinge
Well-known member
What means this word, "love"? I've completely forgotten.
If I only could
Hahahaha... no. I don't like to say it, but I do believe that there is no one I hate more than myself. I don't know if there is anything I am happy with. I don't even know that if there was anything I could be happy with that I would feel any differently. I can't really think of one thing I like about myself. I just don't like saying I hate myself though, I don't like saying it.
Hahahaha... no. I don't like to say it, but I do believe that there is no one I hate more than myself. I don't know if there is anything I am happy with. I don't even know that if there was anything I could be happy with that I would feel any differently. I can't really think of one thing I like about myself. I just don't like saying I hate myself though, I don't like saying it.
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Falkor
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I mean if you like yourself, if you got self respect, if you believe in yourself, it's just how you see yourself, if you like the way you are
I don't mean Love like being in love with your self
that would be so weird ::
EscapeArtist
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Hi,
Do you love yourself? I mean, are you happy with the person you are?
The person you show, you person you look like, are you happy with yourself?
For me, NO. I actually don't like myself, I find ugly parts in the mirror all the time
i only like the fact that im a good person.. but in every way i find myself weird strange and ugly. And not attractive at all.. :S
Im sorry for ranting.. but im just frustrated
so how about u guys.. ??
im anxious to post this topic :S
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Uhm, i've learned to see some decent traits in my personality. Unfortunately for me I see the negative traits a lot more strongly. I know that loving yourself is extremely important, healthy people are attracted to healthy people, and it's something I have to learn.
When I was around 8 years old, I remember telling myself "You are only alive to help others, that is your purpose.." Saying this made me feel complete, like I had a purpose, and that purpose was to work as a catalyst and nothing more, helping good reactions in the world as long as it did not have anything to do with me. Around that age I began to take the other side in arguments, when my family would call me slow or stupid, I would simply agree with them, and they'd continue to tell me how stupid it was that I agreed with them, but it would stop the insults. I believe I now have a deep, almost unreachable amount of self hatred, not to mention that I now realize I am part of this rancid nature of mankind and all of it's destructive ways.
Flowergirlie, I can tell you that you are gorgeous but it won't make a difference, you ARE stunningly beautiful, I am jealous! But this won't make a difference, because beauty lies in making the best of a bad situation, and seeing the best in yourself even when you hate yourself relies on YOU. You can be beautiful, and you can feel beautiful and worthy of love if you can believe that you are. This all relies on WANTING to be lovable, if you want it enough, you make it happen. There are so many positive traits about you, you seem caring, as I said you are beautiful, helpful, kind. But once again, these words have to come from you in order to make a difference
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Social_Monstrosity
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The better question would probably be, will I EVER love myself? Because right now, it's not looking like I will. I glance in the mirror and see nothing worth liking, I'm like an insecure little girl in the body of a 19 year old guy.
EscapeArtist
Well-known member
Seeing people like you make me want to love myself. Here's why:
Judging by your profile picture, you have a beautiful face, and I freaking love your hair. Your hobbies include intelligent conversation, that should be enough to separate you from the mindless beings and make you value yourself. You are human, which makes you master at adaption and using your mental abilities to grasp any future you want! And you can see none of these things? The opportunities that await you when you want them? The ability to be aware of ourselves seems to do more harm than good, but it is man's advantage. It saddens me, but encourages me.
lunaticbinge
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I mean if you like yourself, if you got self respect, if you believe in yourself, it's just how you see yourself, if you like the way you are
I don't mean Love like being in love with your self
I just meant that i don't really know how to feel feelings anymore. Love is just a word to me and I live floating in a sea of indifference.
Social_Monstrosity
Well-known member
Thank you for the encouragement, but it is true that I see no positive attributes within myself
I suppose I'm intelligent, but I'm lacking in willpower and motivation. SA has completely exhausted me both mentally and physically. Hell, I struggle to get out of bed like a 70-year old man would! I have problems focusing on even the simplest tasks, for instance: reading your response above...
I just see little hope. I am my own worst enemy, and my enemy is conquering me.