Do you love your self?

Hi,

Do you love yourself? I mean, are you happy with the person you are?
The person you show, you person you look like, are you happy with yourself?

For me, NO. I actually don't like myself, I find ugly parts in the mirror all the time
i only like the fact that im a good person.. but in every way i find myself weird strange and ugly. And not attractive at all.. :S

Im sorry for ranting.. but im just frustrated :mad:

so how about u guys.. ??

im anxious to post this topic :S
XX
 

fife_girl

Well-known member
im happy with the person i am, think im a good friend n stuff but looks wise there are loads of things i hate! have got serious issues about my body, i used to be very over weight and although im 5ft9 and a size 14 which is average i still feel fat n ugly. i think i was a size 20 about 4 years ago!
dnt be anxious to post things, well done for doing so! :)

ps you are NOT ugly, ur a nice looking girl so dnt stress :)
 
Aw, don't be anxious, it's a good topic. :3 As for me, there are parts I like, but there are also parts that I genuinely hate.

Non are physical, though. I must note that most of the time those flaws about me surface when emphasized by others, if I were alone I would not notice these flaws at all. I think it's insecurity on my part, because I'm not exactly what one would call ''designed for the grid''. My desires, philosophy, habits and morals all seem to differ from the normal on most aspects, causing me to feel entirly incompatible with.. well.. everything known in the modern world.

I'm sure there's something more wrong with me then just social phobia, but I wouldn't know where to start to look in order to find out what it is. All help I seem to get is quick-fix psychiatry that never want to evaluate deeper then the painfully obvious. Which is bothersome because most of my ''abnormalities'' are hidden. Hence I don't speak, move much in real life. It has become a habit.

But yeah, I'm definitely not a 100% content with myself.
 
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Not I really don't but I'm very critical, but I don't feel a need for self-love I do have enough self-respect and I guess it's enough for me.

:p but you're probably misjudging yourself sometimes the way we see ourselves is not at all the way others perceive the way we are and we all have parts of us we're not proud of :p so we must try to compensate for these "flaws" that make us human.

Why not try to list the good things about yourself, you might be amazed, don't focus so much on the flaws.
 

KiaKaha

Banned
sometimes. I think I am a pretty good person. I try hard to treat others as I would like to be treated..

I am however a little concerned at how bitter I have become towards others....why try if past experience has suggested I will fail? Why bother opening up to someone if the other people are not interested in the first place? Why talk to people in real life if everyone is afraid of everyone else?...people are weird. Sometimes I am not sure I even have SA because I do try with others. I can talk to strangers, have a conversation and be normal... but I dont seem to be able to get positive reactions from others very often...and that is what makes me anxious.

Which makes me wonder...is it me that has the problem? or is it everyone else..? The thing that annoys me the most about my situation is that despite, what I view as me being a perfectly reasonable person, I feel like I am just not "worthy" enough to know.. at least judging from other peoples reactions.. a lot of my past social experiences have just been unpleasant...and I have had people be downright rude to me for no reason at all..... I do know this though... One big problem I have is that I only feel OK if others like me....and that is a situation I need to sort out fast.

cool topic tho..
 
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anxiety1408

Well-known member
No I wish i did, that would help me tackling social phobia, its one of the main things to love yourself first..::(:
 

Feathers

Well-known member
Well, some good books and some people in RL and some good films even :D or some great forums like this one ;) have really helped me accepting myself in the past.
I had times when I was really happy and yeah, I did love myself. Sometimes it just seems harder.

I think it's related to nutrition and weather and all sorts of things that influence my moods, including thoughts of course..

I don't think that I really love myself at the time, cause I'm a bit angry with myself about (not) doing some things..
I hope that with time of month this will change :) (I have some strong PMS/PMDD sometimes, and the world really seems horrible 'just before' - sorry if this is too much information guys!!)
Just know that if a girl really is 'not interested', she might also just have PMS!! Or too much trouble with herself/her life etc. (Just one of the possibilities, lol!!)

I find it difficult after doing something that I deem 'imperfect' (though I did some really good things otherwise too), or I think I 'should be doing more' etc.. or 'should have a different life' (or my Dad thinks so, and says it loud, sigh!!)
I think I could be quite more positive and upbeat when I lived on my own..
Especially if I did the exercises for 'busting negative thoughts' and such.. and socialized with good friends regularly, or at least had good contact with people, but not too much at a time (then, I crash and burn too.. especially if cookies/sugar is involved, sigh..)

ShyKiwi, I wonder if a social skills/assertiveness or drama/theatre course or something like that could be helpful for you? Maybe it's just tone of voice or body posture or something like that? Or maybe a fashion makeover could help? (For some people, it was all they needed..) Or you just need different people to interact with?

BlackPuma, I wonder if you were ever labelled 'gifted' or such? Or maybe you're just 'different' and need more tolerant people around you? Or such that might share your philosophy etc?
 

Tuco

Well-known member
love is overrated! I like what you wrote Feathers :) Tuco you're not nearly as bad as you think, anxiety1408 are we twins?

Maybe you are right, I have been trying to improve my self esteem but haven't had any success so far; I have to keep trying.
 

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
haha, no. Asking if I love myself is like asking Hitler if he likes the fact that he was part Jewish.
 
Well, some good books and some people in RL and some good films even :D or some great forums like this one ;) have really helped me accepting myself in the past.
?

Hey Feathers, would you mind sharing what kind of books helped you??
I love reading and i'm looking for some nice books to read!!
Please let me know xD!

But ur right, this board is just freaking amazing! :D all the people are so nice!
U people rock :cool:
 

arsenalwa

Well-known member
As for the question, no. A part of me likes something about me though which I can't quite make out. But generally no. Sometimes I'm like "no way am I this guy..."
 
I don't look myself on the mirror any more, makes wonders :p lol anyway beauty is relative and chances according to the ideals mass media perceive as perfection and promote and that we all tend to follow.
 

Damaged

Well-known member
Sometimes i feel happy with myself, but i think thats more of an act of trying to make myself feel more positive about my looks.
Deep down i'm disgusted by my looks so much that i freak myself out about food sometimes but again i used to love myself so much but my ex stripped all that away.
 
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