Do you feel your not good enough for opposite sex?
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mrb
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You're a child lol & Marge/I am not a pedophile lol. I/Marge am/is married to Homer, but he's not on this forum, I don't think.
This is who Marge/I is/am married to lol:
well thats ok lol he looks like a great catch
lyricalliaisons
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nopark
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Oh yeah. I'm ugly and socially awkward of course, but maybe worse -- I'm soooo boring.
People like to get out. But 80% of the time I like to stay in. And even when it'd be fun to get out -- my idea of a good time never matches anyone else's interests. They want to go to a rock concert, I'd rather see a symphony. They want to get high at some house party, I just want to have a few drinks with a couple of friends at a restaurant. They want to go mall shopping, eh I'll just wait in the bookstore. These things aren't generally things early-20's people like that much.
Maybe I should just find myself a cougar. Rawr. lol
People like to get out. But 80% of the time I like to stay in. And even when it'd be fun to get out -- my idea of a good time never matches anyone else's interests. They want to go to a rock concert, I'd rather see a symphony. They want to get high at some house party, I just want to have a few drinks with a couple of friends at a restaurant. They want to go mall shopping, eh I'll just wait in the bookstore. These things aren't generally things early-20's people like that much.
Maybe I should just find myself a cougar. Rawr. lol
Social_Monstrosity
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Not all girls want a confident man, there's nothing worse than a cocky bloke who thinks hes great
Some girls like shy men, they find it sweet.
Most woman just want a man that will treat her right and not lie or cheat.
Okay...but what if we're butt ugly and have the charisma of a bag of bricks?
Kat
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That's true but I also think no matter how good looking someone is after awhile you get use to how they look anyway and it comes back to who they are again as well.
Moonie
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I always end up feeling bad for my boyfriends that they are with me. It’s not that I am an ugly person on the outside, but I am extremely ugly on the inside. I’m jealous, scared, boring, depressing, angry, insecure.
I am okay in the beginning. But somewhere around the 6 month mark, I turn cold and mean. I think it’s because I realize that the guys I am with are better than me, more interesting than me, and deserve someone greater than me. So, I start to believe that they are only settling for me because of my looks or because they don’t have much luck with girls they really find attractive. So, I start to hate men. I hate it. I really do. I wish I could be the girl they want. But, I doubt they would choose me if I wasn’t that good looking.
I also feel bad for my BFs when I have to meet their families. I think their families feel bad that their son has such a weird, awful girlfriend. They probably think they deserve better than me, and I think they are right, too.
I tend to serial date. I start to pick dumb fights with these guys and eventually the relationship falls apart. I’d rather it end somewhat early, so it doesn’t get worse. And so I can move on with someone else for awhile, and experience the greatness that occurs in a new relationship. Story of my life.
I am okay in the beginning. But somewhere around the 6 month mark, I turn cold and mean. I think it’s because I realize that the guys I am with are better than me, more interesting than me, and deserve someone greater than me. So, I start to believe that they are only settling for me because of my looks or because they don’t have much luck with girls they really find attractive. So, I start to hate men. I hate it. I really do. I wish I could be the girl they want. But, I doubt they would choose me if I wasn’t that good looking.
I also feel bad for my BFs when I have to meet their families. I think their families feel bad that their son has such a weird, awful girlfriend. They probably think they deserve better than me, and I think they are right, too.
I tend to serial date. I start to pick dumb fights with these guys and eventually the relationship falls apart. I’d rather it end somewhat early, so it doesn’t get worse. And so I can move on with someone else for awhile, and experience the greatness that occurs in a new relationship. Story of my life.
Rxqueen
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Yea of course, but then I feel like I'm too picky b/c the guys that seem like they're interested me are less than satisfactory. So in essence I feel like I'm not good enough for the type of guys that I'm interested in. Like I have to look like a super model or something in order to find a guy I'm actually attracted to.
Even though I'm not attracted to any of the guys that are into me I also feel like they must be mistaken because they'd have to be pretty diluted to be interested in me in the first place. I really don't think I deserve anyone and I don't think anyone should stoop as low to like me either, if they do they are probably pretty messed up and mildly retarded. lol.
So in short, yes I have an inferiority complex and that I'm much too low in confidence for any guy that might be interested.
Even though I'm not attracted to any of the guys that are into me I also feel like they must be mistaken because they'd have to be pretty diluted to be interested in me in the first place. I really don't think I deserve anyone and I don't think anyone should stoop as low to like me either, if they do they are probably pretty messed up and mildly retarded. lol.
So in short, yes I have an inferiority complex and that I'm much too low in confidence for any guy that might be interested.
combat
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To me it's not even about being good enough... I'm pretty sure I could have a really good relationship with a girl. I'm just not convinced I'll find one to connect with well enough that she'll just accept and like me for who I am. I'm not exactly easy to get to know well, but it isn't like I'm not willing to make the effort either. But so far that hasn't been good enough. I haven't met a girl that has the patience to deal with a guy that takes time to open up and constantly misreads signals... ::
So I guess I don't really know what I feel anymore. I've become a total fucking cynic about this stuff, which depresses me because I used to be such a happy optimistic person. ::
:So I guess I don't really know what I feel anymore. I've become a total fucking cynic about this stuff, which depresses me because I used to be such a happy optimistic person. :
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Of course not. I saw a guy on TV with only half a body and walks around on his hands and he had a girlfriend. I know I don't have the greatest personality and not the desirable amount of confidence, but it's not like I'm criminally insane or something. And I've even seen guys like that with women. Our problem is we're not putting ourselves out there and if we are, we're asking the wrong people.
Uber Schnitzel
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Personally, i feel too fat and ugly to be attractive towards the opposite of sex. I can't even make it in the overweight dating world because i may be chubby, but i have small boobs compared to other girls my size.
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Firstly, I've seen your pic and you aren't anywhere close to ugly. Boobs really aren't everything, alot of the time guys just go with the group mentality when it comes to them (it's easier!) and it may seem like they're the best thing in the world but really boobs don't even enter into it. Of course there will always be some guys who do pick girls based on this but you're lucky in one respect in that you'll completely avoid them.
I think if you can't see how beautiful you are you have to just kinda trust that you are (and having guys interested is proof that you are) and get on with things.I think there's a difference between confident and egotistical.
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I agree with this. There's a lot to be said for a kind of "cool" calm confidence.
Masychefx2
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nooooo i canrt even chat to women i show 0 confidence plus i always compare myself to other men and that makes me feel bad cos i can pick out stuff and feel i cannot compete
Yes I feel so. When I was younger I thought I was very ugly, but now I think I'm an average person.
I may be average, but I know I'm not attractive or interesting, especially due to AvPD. I feel more like defective sometimes, because men aren't interested in me that much. I suppose no one can accept me as I am.
But I know some women without SA feel like defective too due to process of changing gender roles and increasing male inactivity. I did not wish to offend anyone, but in my country it's really a growing problem and many young women complain about men inactivity and lack of interest.
I think there're many females who don't mind if male isn't extra confident or if is shy, but they feel frustrated when males don't show any interest at all.
I may be average, but I know I'm not attractive or interesting, especially due to AvPD. I feel more like defective sometimes, because men aren't interested in me that much. I suppose no one can accept me as I am.
But I know some women without SA feel like defective too due to process of changing gender roles and increasing male inactivity. I did not wish to offend anyone, but in my country it's really a growing problem and many young women complain about men inactivity and lack of interest.
I think there're many females who don't mind if male isn't extra confident or if is shy, but they feel frustrated when males don't show any interest at all.