Jesushasomeoneforme
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I feel not good enough for the opposite sex. Girls want confidence,I have anxiety. No one understands. It is so hopeless to even get a girlfriend. But I believe Jesushasomeoneforme.
Do you feel your not good enough for opposite sex?
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Nicholas
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That's not the problem. Stop thinking that way... it's not like you have to be like someone else wants you to be. You just have to be yourself.
I don't feel good enough for MYSELF, first of all. First, I try to fix myself and be proud of who I am, and then I'll see. When I feel good about myself, I am sure I'll definitely find someone who appreciates the way I am.
I don't feel good enough for MYSELF, first of all. First, I try to fix myself and be proud of who I am, and then I'll see. When I feel good about myself, I am sure I'll definitely find someone who appreciates the way I am.
mrb
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im not confident with girls , some girls are not confident with blokes , it goes both ways , but just look for a shy gal , even a confident gal might have gone through a lot of idiots in her time , but i do know this , all girls or guys want there partner to treat them with respect , love them for who they are , have a laugh ect ... its really that simple lol
lyricalliaisons
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Not the opposite sex, & I don't really feel I'm "not good enough" but just that no one would ever accept me the way that I am. They would never understand.
Edit: I forgot I was Marge Simpson. Apparently I'm already married lol.
Edit: I forgot I was Marge Simpson. Apparently I'm already married lol.
CC81
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Yeah I also feel like I'm not good enough for the opposite sex which I suppose is part of a greater non-acceptance of myself. I'm starting to change this but still find it incredibly difficult. I've only recently come to realisation of how much of my happiness I was putting in the hands of my future partner, instead of giving myself love and acceptance to just be who I am first.
jbeenthere
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It might help to be more specific. i know i have said that no one would want me but what is really underneath that very broad generalization is that I am too scared to say there is something mentally wrong with me and that I am scared to have to hide the majority of myself and not be able to handle the stress of having to do that. I feel no one could want a person prone to depression who wasn't relaxed and often distracted by evil self-doubt. but if you actually chronicle day by day what you do and think that are positive like "that girl seems to be really nice and genuine - I'll bet she would be a great girlfriend" rather than what some other guys would think like "I wonder how fast I could get her in the sack - she seems pretty vulnerable" then you might realize that the first guy - you - might not be so immediately rejected by ALL girls on the planet. and as far as the other stuff goes - it is possible to be healed by love so that you aren't as prone to depression and evil self-doubt. bottom line is you never know what is around the corner. put an add on Craig's list and say "in search of a caring person who happens to be female who appreciates quiet inner beauty - no self-involved high maintenance divas need apply" (with a picture of johnny depp of course) and see what happens.
DanFC
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It's not that I "feel" I'm not good enough, I know it as a fact. I'm short, I'm ridiculously ugly (acne scars, bad teeth despite previous braces and retainer), and I've become so used to being alone my personality has become a barrier to any chance I would have ever had. Add on to this my social ineptness and my growing pessimism on everything. I've never had a girlfriend, and every day I grow more and more sure that I never will.
x000x
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I am most definitely not good enough. 
I'm ugly and no fun to be around. I wouldn't even know what to do with a girlfriend. I've never had any experience with kissing or anything of that nature. So I'm sure I'd just make a fool of myself, if a girl were to ever get together with me.
I'm ugly and no fun to be around. I wouldn't even know what to do with a girlfriend. I've never had any experience with kissing or anything of that nature. So I'm sure I'd just make a fool of myself, if a girl were to ever get together with me.Yeah all the time,I have been dying to get a girlfriend these days,there is a girl who I have been thinking about,looks like a nice girl and I have the chance as I get to be alone with her sometimes,but I dont know if she has a boyfriend, never asked a girl also or said how I felt,to ugly....
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mrb
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Felgen
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Keep in mind that we are our own worst critics. Most girls I know are more attractive than they think they are.
Besides, even if you were ugly, there are plenty of ugly girls that have both a husband and children.
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sara1975
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Looks mean nothing in the long run, EVERYONE will lose any looks they had when younger even people who are stunning now will one day be wrinkly and saggy.
If someone is with a partner just because of looks it will never last as one day they will look over at there once stunning girlfriend and see a fat, droopy old woman so relationships have to be based on so much more than looks, you have to look over at your partner and fancy them for how they make you feel not for what they look like.
Everyone has different taste, beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say.
A friend of mine asked me to introduce her to my sister in laws brother as she thought he was gorgeous, i thought she was joking as he is very skinny, very tall,has a big nose and buck teeth but she was deadly serous so i introduced them and now 19 years on they are still together with 2 kids.
You may think your ugly but someone out there will think your gorgeous.
If someone is with a partner just because of looks it will never last as one day they will look over at there once stunning girlfriend and see a fat, droopy old woman so relationships have to be based on so much more than looks, you have to look over at your partner and fancy them for how they make you feel not for what they look like.
Everyone has different taste, beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say.
A friend of mine asked me to introduce her to my sister in laws brother as she thought he was gorgeous, i thought she was joking as he is very skinny, very tall,has a big nose and buck teeth but she was deadly serous so i introduced them and now 19 years on they are still together with 2 kids.
You may think your ugly but someone out there will think your gorgeous.
mrb
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lol i relate to this my ex wife was like a tiny model , yea good looking blokes used to stare at her when we went out , but she was a self centered idiot , in fact she still is lol , and guess what im happy shes not , the point is its not all about looks , my sonia is avarage looking , not like my ex , but i tell you this no flippin way would i swap back again ... its personality not looks that keep people together