"disillusioned of first appointment with psychiatrist "

[DespairSoul]

Hey Everyone,

Today i was having first appointment with psychiatrist. If i saw him already i felt uncomfortable coz he wasn't making on me good "first impression" but i don't give on first impression. SO i said to myself "Ok girl give him chance maybe he look only like that but he is different as he looks coz looks and facial expression can be not so likeable but that's don't mean anything" so i start talking and say how i feel with people=/ and he says: " Oh but on you isn't seeing any anxiety"!!! God how he can say this mine goodness he see me few seconds and by the way meds. i use already around 2 months ya so they calmed me and if i talk one on one is much easier if i talk to group!! He should see me in crowds and in shops, and more full places where is so crowded that i can't breath!! How he judge in few minutes like that really propably i should come with heave tremors and shaking as grass if is wind and he will be satisfied! I just have to vent guys please do tell what u think about it??Do u have similar experiences? Tell me your story about your experiences i would be glad to know that i'm not only one who was been told that i'm almost healthy ha! I'm frustrated from that meeting. Thanks for reading and any inputs.

 

[DrN4n0]

It happens. Sometimes the psychiatrist and patient are not "compatible". I think you should just try to find another one (easier said than done, I know. I've never been able to go see one). If you're not feeling it, there's no point in forcing yourself to go, because it'll only add to your anxiety. Chances are that if you go see another he/she will take yourself more seriously.
Just my two cents.

 

[dyingtolive]

do ppl actually get better from psychiatrists?

 

[Nanita]

This psychiatrist is bad!!!!
You don´t have to believe what he told you!

I hate when those psychiatrist judge someone within a couple of minutes!!

The first psychiatrist I ever saw (12 years ago) told me after just 5 minutes that I was psychotic and very ill and that I should take anti psychotic + anti depressive medicine. I didn´t trust that guy at all! Weeks later I went to another psychiatrist whom I talked with for 2 hours, and then he said I probably had anxiety + light depression.

 

[DespairSoul]

It happens. Sometimes the psychiatrist and patient are not "compatible". I think you should just try to find another one (easier said than done, I know. I've never been able to go see one). If you're not feeling it, there's no point in forcing yourself to go, because it'll only add to your anxiety. Chances are that if you go see another he/she will take yourself more seriously.
Just my two cents.

Thank u for your input. I think u are right. Do u really think is about being "compatible" together? Well i don't have choice i have to go there yet for now. Well he invited me three weeks later anyway. Do u think i should tell him frank that he make me frustrated with his fast judging and opinion? Well would be hard say it but it's on mine chest and i want to rid of it...Well i have been not able go to see one 8 years. So was damn strange and hard! I like the psychologist what i have much better she seems more nice as he and also she try help. By psychologist just 4 times but it was good decision i don't regret it. But this psychiatrist i do regret:/

 

[DespairSoul]

This psychiatrist is bad!!!!
You don´t have to believe what he told you!

I hate when those psychiatrist judge someone within a couple of minutes!!

The first psychiatrist I ever saw (12 years ago) told me after just 5 minutes that I was psychotic and very ill and that I should take anti psychotic + anti depressive medicine. I didn´t trust that guy at all! Weeks later I went to another psychiatrist whom I talked with for 2 hours, and then he said I probably had anxiety + light depression.

::WTF? What a bad experience u have i'm sorry to hear that damn. Why they even work as psychiatrist if they aren't able do it the work as they should. The first psychiatrist what u met sound like he needs help alone :/ The other sound realistic good u find good one after

 

[DespairSoul]

do ppl actually get better from psychiatrists?

Hmm good question! Do they? Some do and some not. Is about clicking and meet the right one. Do we not suffer enough that they yet dare to act to us like that? The courage and the strength which we should find to go there. How long i was fighting with mine self and for what? For those judging which i can have of every individual outside and yet psychiatrist please shoot me really! Now i have to yet worry if i will meet next time other super psychiatrist as this one. And how much power this will stand me! No wonder i was so long considering do it so!

 

[DrN4n0]

Thank u for your input. I think u are right. Do u really think is about being "compatible" together? Well i don't have choice i have to go there yet for now. Well he invited me three weeks later anyway. Do u think i should tell him frank that he make me frustrated with his fast judging and opinion? Well would be hard say it but it's on mine chest and i want to rid of it...Well i have been not able go to see one 8 years. So was damn strange and hard! I like the psychologist what i have much better she seems more nice as he and also she try help. By psychologist just 4 times but it was good decision i don't regret it. But this psychiatrist i do regret:/

Well, maybe not "compatible" per se, but what the patient feels is important. If you feel so uncomfortable with him it's likely that it's not going to work anyhow.
And yes I think you should tell him what you feel and if possible ask that he sends you to another specialist. He should understand, and if he doesn't, well, there's no regret to have. And if you have trouble finding a new one ask your psychologist to send you to someone she thinks is a good psychiatrist. From what you said she seems nice and I think would be glad to help.
Anyway, no matter what anyone may say, no professional can establish a real diagnosis after a few minutes of conversation. This is why there are tests. This is also why Nanita's second psychiatrist only talked about a possible diagnosis after 2 hours...

(oh and you're welcome by the way )

 

[DespairSoul]

Well, maybe not "compatible" per se, but what the patient feels is important. If you feel so uncomfortable with him it's likely that it's not going to work anyhow.
And yes I think you should tell him what you feel and if possible ask that he sends you to another specialist. He should understand, and if he doesn't, well, there's no regret to have. And if you have trouble finding a new one ask your psychologist to send you to someone she thinks is a good psychiatrist. From what you said she seems nice and I think would be glad to help.
Anyway, no matter what anyone may say, no professional can establish a real diagnosis after a few minutes of conversation. This is why there are tests. This is also why Nanita's second psychiatrist only talked about a possible diagnosis after 2 hours...

(oh and you're welcome by the way )

Yes i understand. I know u are right. It will never work anyhow if he is on start already behaving like this. It's unprofessional in mine eyes. I don't see him like a good psychiatrist at all if he can judge after so short talk i talked far from two hours. Was just some minutes coz he don't have time this is just variant what i have now available coz i'm not in mine homeland. SO he will even not test me but only ask if i'm better or alive. I told him also i have been suicidal=/ That's why is test and all of those procedures find really out what's wrong! U know maybe he worry i fake it and i'm one this lazy type what want it reach some money or some variant available only not work. I'm amazed forever from this man.

 

[Remus]

Get a second opinion

 

[DespairSoul]

Hey DS
Nice to hear from you after so long! Though I regret your disappointment with your session. Some 'experts' see you as something they must squeeze into their limited textbook understanding, others think they know it all, then you get normal human beings that can LISTEN. Don't beat yourself up about it. His appraisal is not gospel, he only exposed his ignorance, which is actually quite embarrassing on his behalf! I hope you are doing better outside of this issue, all the best ^_^

::Thank thank u Aristocrat. Haha that's totally correct expression "limited textbook" yes was exactly small book where he write about me. And yet so unprofessional everyone see it even this rude nurse what is so bad behaving://to people which wait in waiting room coz this is connected with normal doctor for health you know. Oh yeah that's also correct his ignorance he exposed yup! Thanks for wish!!

 

[MollyBeGood]

Hey Everyone,

Today i was having first appointment with psychiatrist. If i saw him already i felt uncomfortable coz he wasn't making on me good "first impression" but i don't give on first impression. SO i said to myself "Ok girl give him chance maybe he look only like that but he is different as he looks coz looks and facial expression can be not so likeable but that's don't mean anything" so i start talking and say how i feel with people=/ and he says: " Oh but on you isn't seeing any anxiety"!!! God how he can say this mine goodness he see me few seconds and by the way meds. i use already around 2 months ya so they calmed me and if i talk one on one is much easier if i talk to group!! He should see me in crowds and in shops, and more full places where is so crowded that i can't breath!! How he judge in few minutes like that really propably i should come with heave tremors and shaking as grass if is wind and he will be satisfied! I just have to vent guys please do tell what u think about it??Do u have similar experiences? Tell me your story about your experiences i would be glad to know that i'm not only one who was been told that i'm almost healthy ha! I'm frustrated from that meeting. Thanks for reading and any inputs.

Hey DS How are you? still have to get you that email *smacks*

after reading this ... The key word is "First" imho and just because this man cannot read you right doesn't mean someone else won't. But if he's all you got then maybe try again and see what he comes up with a second time. I had an experience similar where this man was thinking he could size me up in 15 mins and I was shaking I was so nervous and freaked-out at that time inmy life I couldn't explain myself very well so I think he really just wanted me to feel better by saying something simple and profound and he even didn't think I should come back which blew me away LoL
Therapy can be very frustrating is what this boils down to. Be patient with yourself and try to be as honest as you can about whats going on so they have a good idea of what advice to give, which is so hard if your talking to a stranger but try to have some faith in the process, OK? I am soo glad you did it though cuz I know you were strugglin so much so *Hugs* for you for the efforts to get better!!

Take care and please keep us posted. There will be setbacks but it's totally normal

 

[Mickery]

Was that the only thing he said that made you feel he didn't understand?

 

[Leticia]

I had a very very bad impression of my first (and only, so far) psychiatrist. He was an *******. I coudn't talk, I was shy and I felt he was mocking me. Like...he said to my mother "see? She can't even stare at me." I felt like ****...and then he prescribed some weird dose of the medication..."Ok...so you take it hmm...you can take it 3 times a day...if you feel sad." I could take the whole bottle of that **** and would feel nothing... I didn't even went back there.