sickofbeinglonely
Well-known member
I didn't know whether to post this in the "Avoidant Personality Disorder" forum but I'n very depressed at the moment and in a state of despair. ::
I rarely post on here but this is a cry for help as I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm probably older than a lot of people here (being 35) and feel time's running out for me to achieve anything with my life.
I've never had many good things happen in my life. I was bullied at school which caused me to be suspicious of people and unable to trust them. Many of my adult experiences of people have made me even less trustful of them and I've often felt used.
I've never had a proper relationship but never thought it would be so impossible for me to even get so far as a date. I've spent the last efw years putting myself out there on various sites, only to be met with indifference, even rejection. I've tried to become friends with women on support sites like this one as I used to have a friend who met someone and got married. Absolutely nothing has worked for me. It seems the more I try, the more bad luck I have.
I used to see myself as quite a romantic person, kind, generous and caring. But that's not attracted any women. It seems as though there are so many "bad guys" who get the women, the ones who treat them like **** and probably make them think twice about having any kind of relationship again (a lot of women I've exchanged messages with appear to have known such blokes and aren't looking for a boyfriend, while I'm desperate to find a girl who will love me.)
Recently, I've become increasingly obsessed about sex. I've never had sex and have a terrible stigma about being a virgin at my age. Words can't describe the mental and emotional torment I go through daily. I feel as though everyone else is getting it including other people with social anxiety. I try not to think about it but everything I watch or listen to has some sort of reference to sex. Every time I go out I see a woman I find attractive and can't cope with my emotions. So over the years I've become more of a recluse to the point where I hardly go over the doorstep now.
I can't see any future for me. I can't even make decent friends, let alone find someone special. Even when I try to have fewer expectations of people everything goes wrong and people treat me like crap. Almost everyone I've known has been able to attract someone. I'm not even bad looking, have some interests, but feel ciompletely undesirable.
I was thinking about coming off here as I don't feel I'll be able to connect with anyone (I have so little confidence and self esteem that, whereas I used to at least try to interact with people, I'm scared to now because I think eventually being constantly ignored will push me over the edge). But when I looked there didn't appear to be any option of closing my account.
Maybe I should stay or just not look at the forums. I don't know what to do. I feel so isolated and disiullusioned. I need friends really, someone who can bring me out of myself and help me at least get some of the confidence I had back before my life fell apart.
I rarely post on here but this is a cry for help as I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm probably older than a lot of people here (being 35) and feel time's running out for me to achieve anything with my life.
I've never had many good things happen in my life. I was bullied at school which caused me to be suspicious of people and unable to trust them. Many of my adult experiences of people have made me even less trustful of them and I've often felt used.
I've never had a proper relationship but never thought it would be so impossible for me to even get so far as a date. I've spent the last efw years putting myself out there on various sites, only to be met with indifference, even rejection. I've tried to become friends with women on support sites like this one as I used to have a friend who met someone and got married. Absolutely nothing has worked for me. It seems the more I try, the more bad luck I have.
I used to see myself as quite a romantic person, kind, generous and caring. But that's not attracted any women. It seems as though there are so many "bad guys" who get the women, the ones who treat them like **** and probably make them think twice about having any kind of relationship again (a lot of women I've exchanged messages with appear to have known such blokes and aren't looking for a boyfriend, while I'm desperate to find a girl who will love me.)
Recently, I've become increasingly obsessed about sex. I've never had sex and have a terrible stigma about being a virgin at my age. Words can't describe the mental and emotional torment I go through daily. I feel as though everyone else is getting it including other people with social anxiety. I try not to think about it but everything I watch or listen to has some sort of reference to sex. Every time I go out I see a woman I find attractive and can't cope with my emotions. So over the years I've become more of a recluse to the point where I hardly go over the doorstep now.
I can't see any future for me. I can't even make decent friends, let alone find someone special. Even when I try to have fewer expectations of people everything goes wrong and people treat me like crap. Almost everyone I've known has been able to attract someone. I'm not even bad looking, have some interests, but feel ciompletely undesirable.
I was thinking about coming off here as I don't feel I'll be able to connect with anyone (I have so little confidence and self esteem that, whereas I used to at least try to interact with people, I'm scared to now because I think eventually being constantly ignored will push me over the edge). But when I looked there didn't appear to be any option of closing my account.
Maybe I should stay or just not look at the forums. I don't know what to do. I feel so isolated and disiullusioned. I need friends really, someone who can bring me out of myself and help me at least get some of the confidence I had back before my life fell apart.
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