I don't see why you even want to have dozens and dozens of replies. A single one that fits is all it takes.
That always has rubbed me the wrong way. It feels as if the guy wants to get loads of messages to feel accomplished. The more women message them, the better they feel with themselves, or something like that.
Long ago, I had a member of this forum trying to impress me by saying he slept with loads of women and telling me how funny, good looking, athletic, etc. he was. I called BS. Besides, that was a big scare, really creepy.
I saw an article once and it said if you have very low confidence and are feeling desperate stay away from internet dating sites
Stay away from human beings in general until you fix yourself.
just like if you go to a singles' bar and sit by yourself in a dark corner and expect women to flock to you, i'm sure you would be disappointed
Exactly. You are not a special snowflake, so don't expect all women to be at your feet, that is nothing more but a big delusional fantasy. You want to find a good partner? then you have to work your @$$ off to accomplish it. It works like that online and offline.
I actually got a couple replies. Both were from good looking girls
This is another major issue. You expect women not only to be at your feet, but also to be good looking and to put up with your load of mental issues. I am sorry to burst your bubble, but that doesn't exist. Your partner is not your sex toy, eye candy and psychologist.
I just tried that, and it failed. That woman who rated me highly? She is a heavy woman, not attractive to me.
Again, what are you expecting? A supermodel?
What I'm looking for is something extremely short term, basically a trial. It would be fine if I met the woman for one night and never saw her again.
Well, this explain why you are so obsessed over their looks. You don't want a partner, you want an one night stand. Perhaps you should add that on your profile to spare some poor girl the pain. I mean, just imagine a girl comes across you and actually likes you, and then she finds out that you only wanted her for sex? ****ish move right there.
Or you can approach them in real life and pretend you're a j-e-r-k with muscles who likes to go bar hopping.
Lol, warped views of the real world.
You want my advice? Stop looking for a girlfriend. I don't believe in actively looking for someone to date. You should not look for a girl to date, you should look for opportunities to meet a girl to date. Basically, try to meet people as friends. Make yourself new friends, both males and females. This should prove itself to be way easier. You will start meeting new people, going out more, doing more activities, and before you know it, you'll meet an awesome girl with whom you'll fall in love, and vice versa. Let life guide you, don't try to force it.
Sadly, this does not work for some guys here. They don't look for a partner to fall in love with. They only want to score. Women mean nothing for them.
also very few girls like guys who are quiet,not outgoing in real life too,so it WILL take a lot of work
This is completely false. A LOT of people are not super outgoing and they are happily married. The problem is that a lot of you guys have terribly twisted idea of how the real world works.
Go outside a bit more.
I don't think that any woman is actually looking for something short term. Well, a one night stand? Maybe. But not actually a relationship or friends "short term", simply because it makes no sense. Why would they want to invest emotionally and in matters of time into something that you don't want to last anyway?
The OP is not thinking about the other gender's feelings. He thinks he can just take them, score and throw them away. He's not even caring about how they might think and feel.
Maybe you need to look into Swingers clubs?
I find this to be a better alternative for the OP. You want sex? Go to places where you are more likely to find that stuff.
my friend just lost his virginity at age 32 and it's just a casual relationship, it's been going on for 2 months now. My friend is not an attractive guy, he doesn't make money, and to see him with his shirt off is a horror show
Your friend is most likely a great guy who doesn't talk about others the way you do. You're a bad person. No matter how look you good, if your soul is rotten, nobody will ever like you.