I just realized that I acutually planned most of my dates!
And I tried to get him to plan this one...but what happened? I planned again, lol. But his interests was in mind when I did plan. Does that count as him planning?
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I just realized that I acutually planned most of my dates!
And I tried to get him to plan this one...but what happened? I planned again, lol. But his interests was in mind when I did plan. Does that count as him planning?
LazyHermitCrab
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I can't be the only one on this board who doesn't think this is true... lol.
I guess it depends on context? In other words, are these actual, official "dates", or just, "Hey, wanna hang out as friends?"-type of get-togethers?
Edit: Even with official "dates" (even 2nd and 3rd dates), a person could say yes and not really be into things. There's a lot of reasons people say yes even if they're not enthusiastic about the other person.
In friendship, it's much easier for the girl to plan the next hangout. In friendship there are no games. However if it's romantic then the thoughts of oh the guy has chase me muahaha comes in. It's hard to determine because most people don't say hey want to hangout as friends? I guess if you hug a lot it's a date? If someone says what a great date then you know
-.-..... or if you say what a great date and the other person says uhh were just hanging out then you know also
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MsBuzzkillington
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Soo, mind if I ask how things went? I am a bit curious now since it was date number 3
LazyHermitCrab
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Soo, mind if I ask how things went? I am a bit curious now since it was date number 3
If you insist
We met infront of a theature....Him: Hey how was your weekend
Me: Good, yours
etc.
He bought tickets, i said thanks i'll buy us slushies. He didn't know my last name yet so he looked when i sighned the check which is good because he didn't ask before.
We walked up the elevator. We talked about actors and movies coming out. We sat down and i picked the seat which was located in the middle. He put his arm next to mine but not around me. The movie was starting already so we couldn't really talk. He bumped me during the movie and said something and i'm not sure what he said so i just smiled -.- After the movie he said it was a great movie and i said yeah it was etc. He asked if i wanted to get coffee and we did. He gave me a pat on the back lol. We talked about the book i was writing and how he wanted to make a poem for it and i said sure. We walked back to my car, which was far from his. He asked for a ride back to his car and i said ok. However, i remembered i didn't clean out my car and then told him to look away so i could clean it :S had oatmeal packets, etc all over the place. I drove him back to his car and he gave me a hug and said he would put the radio station to this classical channel mentioned. No kiss though oh well better to go slow then too fast
he said had a good date and i said me too and that was that
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Rembrandt Broam
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He bought tickets, i said thanks i'll buy us slushies. He didn't know my last name yet so he looked when i sighned the check which is good because he didn't ask before.
We walked up the elevator. We talked about actors and movies coming out. We sat down and i picked the seat which was located in the middle. He put his arm next to mine but not around me. The movie was starting already so we couldn't really talk. He bumped me during the movie and said something and i'm not sure what he said so i just smiled -.- After the movie he said it was a great movie and i said yeah it was etc. He asked if i wanted to get coffee and we did. He gave me a pat on the back lol. We talked about the book i was writing and how he wanted to make a poem for it and i said sure. We walked back to my car, which was far from his. He asked for a ride back to his car and i said ok. However, i remembered i didn't clean out my car and then told him to look away so i could clean it :S had oatmeal packets, etc all over the place. I drove him back to his car and he gave me a hug and said he would put the radio station to this classical channel mentioned. No kiss though oh well better to go slow then too fast
This post made me smile.
You sound like you're going to be a very sweet couple.
LazyHermitCrab
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You must have some interesting dates
Well it's going to end up in heartbreak eventually :/Rembrandt Broam
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LazyHermitCrab
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Don't say that. There's no reason to think things won't go well. Be positive!
Heh ok will try
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LazyHermitCrab
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DATING: IT'S SERIOUS BUSINESS
I feel like i've seen this picture before didn't know it was dating related ;p
LazyHermitCrab
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I'm not sure if anyone wants to answer this but i think it's over. He called me and left a message 3 days ago and i got it late at night so just texted "thanks for the message have a good night." Then I accidently called him at 12 :S I tried to hang up quickly The next day i sent him a page of a story and he didn't say anything. It's been almost four days but we talked about 3 times after the last date, so thought it would be ok. Now i.. don't think so.. Should i just leave it? ....
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I think so. Just a quick....break. If he comes around, ok. If not...yea. It's hard to get the communication thing just right, in my opinion. And that's been a problem with me. But the break gives you time to see if he'd actually seek you out after not hearing from you.
With the guy I'm seeing, I was open about a lot of things. Not on purpose but he was there when some things happened that involved my...problem. He understands my quirks and...he's been great about it.
Some people aren't and don't understand. And if he's one of them, then too bad for him. I'm sure you're great and someone that's more understanding may come along.
MsBuzzkillington
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Just leave it a bit and see what happens.
I was texting some guy for awhile and I had said hey what's up? and I didn't get a reply and then I accidentally sent something that said "yeah that sounds great".
I have no idea how that send message sent but I didn't want to send ANOTHER one saying sorry especially after I had already sent a couple without a reply.
I have definitely been there... the waiting for them to call you is kind of torturous. Especially after you do something "stupid". Not saying what you did was stupid at all, just saying the way it makes us feel.
Sometimes it seems like forever when they don't text for a few days. He could be busy. That same guy I was texting didn't talk to me for like 6 days and I was moving on and then it turns out his phone was shut off.
So just see what happens. Remember to breathe and remember that if he doesn't call you again, he just freed you up for the next sexy dude that you are interested in. So get get 'em tiger.
I was texting some guy for awhile and I had said hey what's up? and I didn't get a reply and then I accidentally sent something that said "yeah that sounds great".
I have no idea how that send message sent but I didn't want to send ANOTHER one saying sorry especially after I had already sent a couple without a reply.
I have definitely been there... the waiting for them to call you is kind of torturous. Especially after you do something "stupid". Not saying what you did was stupid at all, just saying the way it makes us feel.
Sometimes it seems like forever when they don't text for a few days. He could be busy. That same guy I was texting didn't talk to me for like 6 days and I was moving on and then it turns out his phone was shut off.
So just see what happens. Remember to breathe and remember that if he doesn't call you again, he just freed you up for the next sexy dude that you are interested in. So get get 'em tiger.
LazyHermitCrab
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Alright thanks for the advice !