'Da World Just Hates Nice People'
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I think maybe it's the nice people that are also "pushovers" that get screwed. Because I think you can be assertive and still be "nice" to some extent. You just have to know how to stand up for yourself.
To a certain extent,doesnt make me want to go out and do mean spirited things though as I believe in karma.Theres a line between being nice and being a pushover..Being nice while having your dignity and self respect is the best way...
SickJoke
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gsmax5
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It's true. Nice people aren't appreciated.
Dirty hippies
No. I don't know if 'Nice' is DA RIIGHT WURD. You can still have to power to be a nice and friendly person, while not letting people walk all over you. It's different. You just have to let people know that there is a limit, and that they can't totally use you for whatever you want. Those are more like people who just can't say NO to anything. Yeah, like pushovers.
No. I don't know if 'Nice' is DA RIIGHT WURD. You can still have to power to be a nice and friendly person, while not letting people walk all over you. It's different. You just have to let people know that there is a limit, and that they can't totally use you for whatever you want. Those are more like people who just can't say NO to anything. Yeah, like pushovers.
DontSleepOnMe
Banned
Being nice ALWAYS and NEVER assertive that's a problem. Just niceiness (is that a word?) is not an issue I guess
freestylemonster
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naw nice people really finish first I'd say. most people would rather hang out with someone who's nice to them more than someone who's rude to them right??
But like everybody's saying, be nice but don't be a push over. If someone wants you to do something you don't wanna do, just say you don't wanna and leave it at that. Don't let people walk all over you BUT be as nice and friendly as you can and people will love you!
But like everybody's saying, be nice but don't be a push over. If someone wants you to do something you don't wanna do, just say you don't wanna and leave it at that. Don't let people walk all over you BUT be as nice and friendly as you can and people will love you!
Errordotocx
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One time I googled something along the lines of "Does being a nice person mean you will finish last." Basically what it came down to was instead of being the non assertive, pushover, too nice, taken advantage of nice person be the "good person"...I think it actually said "good guy". I tend to occasionally find myself being way too nice to people. I have no problem with giving people respect and politeness where it is deserved but i've been learning to not let people walk over me. I'll choose the stance of the "good guy".
Theoretic Chaos
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Eh, well I don't want to sound mean, but majority of humans just care for themselves and are pretty mean, so yes, this world just isn't for us nice, intellegent, peaceful people.
Chrysalis
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I'm starting to think that the good, decent people of the world are being trodden upon.
Years ago, it meant something to be a person of upstanding character, but now seems that the world is dog eat dog, and keeping up with the Jones'.
Sad really, but I still wish to continue being a nice person - just have to work on my confidence and learning to associate with fellow nice, like-minded folk.
Years ago, it meant something to be a person of upstanding character, but now seems that the world is dog eat dog, and keeping up with the Jones'.
Sad really, but I still wish to continue being a nice person - just have to work on my confidence and learning to associate with fellow nice, like-minded folk.
Chrysalis
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I too was raised to respect and show manners - especially to my elders - which set about much inner conflict within me as many elders I encountered weren't always respectful, admirable people or even kind to me, so I still struggle with that.
Just because you're told or conditioned to be nice and polite to someone, doesn't mean they deserve it - if you know that I mean.
I think it involves knowing when to assert yourself and when to genuinely be open and kind to others who show you the same courtesy - easier said than done.
newbie
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yes nice works great but for example
there is this one guy who has been pickin on me, and so i stood upto him and hasn't bothered me since, if i had stayed nice and hoped for the best it just would of kept going
be nice all you want, give the other person some space, make sure you get your fair share of opinons through and if you belive what is happening is wrong and its your business then make it right
there is this one guy who has been pickin on me, and so i stood upto him and hasn't bothered me since, if i had stayed nice and hoped for the best it just would of kept going
be nice all you want, give the other person some space, make sure you get your fair share of opinons through and if you belive what is happening is wrong and its your business then make it right
toothpastekisses
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Come on
Woah, where did that come from?? Well I guess you aren't very nice lol.
Woah, where did that come from?? Well I guess you aren't very nice lol.
Errordotocx
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Not sure exactly what your getting at. SickJoke's post are generally pretty legit. All I see him doing is trying to help.
