hey, i wonder how do our eyes look like when we are staring. Could someone make a vid for this and post on youtube? Then we have a sense of how other people think about us. ::
^And smile! I don't think most people would feel comfortable talking with those girls, the first one looks scared and the second one looks drunk
That top pictures is from the show weeds
OMG, i have the same thing! I thought i was the only one. In class, i always sit on the right side of the room to avoid having people in my line of sight when i'm writing, bc i tilt my head to the right when i write, so i feel people in the row over think i'm staring at them. I guess i'm a little diff than you though, bc i dont ever look at the person all the way, just out of my peripherals, but i CANT stop it. Im WAYYY to scared to look at their face to actualy see if they notice me. But!...worse than in class, is when im watching tv with people, even friends, i get distracted by being in other people line of sight, and i cant pay attention to the tv, bc all i can think about is if im making this person uncomfortable, and if they notice how uncomfortable i am. ALSO, in the car its bad for me, especially when im drive, and then ESPECIALLY when i need to change lanes, and look in my side view mirror, forget about it, thats terrible anxiety i get right there.
And, also this only started happening to me in college, when my SAD started happening, never even thought about these things when i was younger. I am guessing it just goes hand and hand with the self consciousness of SAD.
OMG, i have the same thing! I thought i was the only one. In class, i always sit on the right side of the room to avoid having people in my line of sight when i'm writing, bc i tilt my head to the right when i write, so i feel people in the row over think i'm staring at them. I guess i'm a little diff than you though, bc i dont ever look at the person all the way, just out of my peripherals, but i CANT stop it. Im WAYYY to scared to look at their face to actualy see if they notice me. But!...worse than in class, is when im watching tv with people, even friends, i get distracted by being in other people line of sight, and i cant pay attention to the tv, bc all i can think about is if im making this person uncomfortable, and if they notice how uncomfortable i am. ALSO, in the car its bad for me, especially when im drive, and then ESPECIALLY when i need to change lanes, and look in my side view mirror, forget about it, thats terrible anxiety i get right there.
And, also this only started happening to me in college, when my SAD started happening, never even thought about these things when i was younger. I am guessing it just goes hand and hand with the self consciousness of SAD.
I've suffer from this problem for almost over 5 years now. What worst is that I look extreamly scary. Imagine yourself meeting someone like me with a stareing problem and looking like a serial killer at the same time... God. You can't imagine how many times i want to put a bullet in my head. If I was to cry I would cry out rivers of blood.
Its great (actually not) to see other people having the same problem. One thing I notice is that you HAVE to RELAX your eyes while also forcing yourself to look at people and never look down even when you are extreamly embarrass. But forcing yourself to look at people is still not enough you have to talk to people and do all the things that you are scared to do in order to gain a bit of norm in your life. No matter how hard or painful it is to look. You have to FORCE yourself.
Its really important to RELAX your eyes everyday. Don't think. Just go with the flow and just focus on your primary objective. Whenever you feel confuse or extreamly nervous, take a deep breath and remember to RELAX and focus.
ALSO its really IMPORTANT to NEVER focus on MOVING OBJECTS. MOVING OBJECTS (PEOPLE) is your main problem. FORCE yourself to RELAX and FOCUS while not paying attention to MOVING OBJECTS (PEOPLE, CARS, ETC...)
just my 2 cents.
I posted this on another thead..wish you people on facebook would use continue to use this forum as well.............If I join that facebook group will it be blasted all over my wall?
I wear sun glasses on the train to avoid eye contact with other people....maybe you should try it and see if it works for you