And it's a bad thing if you do?
I'm sure you can, and I don't think it's a bad thing.
If you continue to look at your solitude as a failure, then you will never be happy with it... but it isn't actually the solitude that is hurting you, it's the sense of failure. And you can let go of that.
If you look at most of the posts on this forum where people are expressing despair, they're not actually upset because they're alone, they're upset because they don't have things that they believe they want, or that they think would make them happy, or feel more accepted or understood by others. Longing for these things is hurting them far more than being alone.
Most of what we consider to be success or failure is social pressure and nothing more-- we respond to it because our instincts tell us to be social, but your mind can temper that... and if you actually embrace it, there is a clarity and perspective in being alone that people with a lot of friends/relationships don't have.
One of the hardest things to do is content yourself with who you are and what you have, no matter what happens. You can't always control your life, but you can control how you feel about it. Maybe not all of the time, but probably enough to make you feel like you're worth it.
I hurt because i cant communicate or engage with others very well and feel lonely because of this, but i also need alot of time alone and can feel agitated by others invading my space. This unfortunately confuses others. X
I'm sure you can, and I don't think it's a bad thing.
If you continue to look at your solitude as a failure, then you will never be happy with it... but it isn't actually the solitude that is hurting you, it's the sense of failure. And you can let go of that.
If you look at most of the posts on this forum where people are expressing despair, they're not actually upset because they're alone, they're upset because they don't have things that they believe they want, or that they think would make them happy, or feel more accepted or understood by others. Longing for these things is hurting them far more than being alone.
Most of what we consider to be success or failure is social pressure and nothing more-- we respond to it because our instincts tell us to be social, but your mind can temper that... and if you actually embrace it, there is a clarity and perspective in being alone that people with a lot of friends/relationships don't have.
One of the hardest things to do is content yourself with who you are and what you have, no matter what happens. You can't always control your life, but you can control how you feel about it. Maybe not all of the time, but probably enough to make you feel like you're worth it.
It depends... Some people enjoy being lonely, for example me. But, there is a limit to this and I mean I don't like being alone all the time, just occasionally. We need people around to feel good despite the fact that some people might deny it.
I think it depends.
My brother has always preferred loneliness but I can't tolerate it.
If I feel lonely for too long it affects me in a bad way, mood and energy wise.