basically not going to get a g/f. somehow i know i am going to die a virgin...
Considering you made this thread, this losing virginity sounds like it matters to you.
Immediately, I can tell you that your main problem is that you don't believe you can lose your virginity, and the worst part about that is that you are using that disbelief as an excuse to not try to lose your virginity.
What you need to do is look at your options (online dating, going to bars or parties, going to other types of social events, playing softball, etc.) and find the one you are most comfortable doing, and follow through with it.
The name of the game is to find some way to get out there and talk to women. That's what it's all about, is
talking to them.