If anyone here truly wants to change the way they think, and I mean truly, then you should realize that you have to give yourself good influences. I will be giving a proposal shortly, albeit it might seem like a silly, insignificant proposal, but it is important nonetheless!
If you would be so kind, please click on the "PostReply" function.
Hello! Once you've made it this far (you're in the PostReply screen), please direct your attention to the right of the screen. What do you see? Smilies! Now, I want you to take a look at a few choice smilies if you don't mind. Pick out the ones that seem a little... contradictory to you. I will lay out the ones that seem most depressing and contradictory to me.
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Now, what do you notice about these smilies? The two characteristics I notice most of all are reluctance and embarrassment! I don't know about you, but these smilies give me the impression that I'm supposed to second guess myself for giving someone a thumbs up or a wink! These are important body signals that should be all around pleasant to give. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of problems with social anxiety have to do with a reluctance or an embarrassment to show kindness and who you really are! If you want to wink or give someone a thumbs up offline, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or reluctant to do so. The same concept applies to online! You shouldn't have to give half-assed winks and smilies. Come on! Look at the depressing, reluctant little look to the ground that the "thumbs up" smilie gives before actually giving the thumbs up. Look at the forced smile on its face. Outrageous! You also shouldn't feel ashamed for not knowing something. Shame is the type of impression I get from the "I don't know" smilie.
I know this sounds unimportant but I think that it can be very important! Who's with me!?! Make some changes! One step at a time!
If you would be so kind, please click on the "PostReply" function.
Hello! Once you've made it this far (you're in the PostReply screen), please direct your attention to the right of the screen. What do you see? Smilies! Now, I want you to take a look at a few choice smilies if you don't mind. Pick out the ones that seem a little... contradictory to you. I will lay out the ones that seem most depressing and contradictory to me.
:thumbup: ------
------:idontknow:Now, what do you notice about these smilies? The two characteristics I notice most of all are reluctance and embarrassment! I don't know about you, but these smilies give me the impression that I'm supposed to second guess myself for giving someone a thumbs up or a wink! These are important body signals that should be all around pleasant to give. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of problems with social anxiety have to do with a reluctance or an embarrassment to show kindness and who you really are! If you want to wink or give someone a thumbs up offline, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or reluctant to do so. The same concept applies to online! You shouldn't have to give half-assed winks and smilies. Come on! Look at the depressing, reluctant little look to the ground that the "thumbs up" smilie gives before actually giving the thumbs up. Look at the forced smile on its face. Outrageous! You also shouldn't feel ashamed for not knowing something. Shame is the type of impression I get from the "I don't know" smilie.
I know this sounds unimportant but I think that it can be very important! Who's with me!?! Make some changes! One step at a time!
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