That, sir, is an excellent question! ::
I'll bet if I wrote a book titled 'How to find women with no standards' I could make a lot of money!
No doubt!
Attempting to date without having school, a job, or a social life.
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No doubt!
Yup, I agree. There's a difference if you say 'all women are like that' or 'it has some truth to it'
Some or even perhaps many women can have certain expectations or wishes.. All women are different though..
Also, women in different cultures can have different expectations and perhaps even different standards.. (people who live with less than 2$ a day can see you a rich man with 300$ or 3000$ or so...?)
It also depends upon your resourcefulness..
Someone in my country built an eco house with 1.000 EUR or so.. (with the help of friends and acquaintances.. and natural/pre-used materials) Normally houses are much more expensive here... Though cheap in comparison with some places like London or NY or LA.. There are differently expensive places worldwide..
Things are rarely black and white..
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Bah I'm sick of trying to date... I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life . Women are too complicated for a poor sap like myself. It's like when you're trying to find a job and all the jobs ask you for experience, then how the hell are you supposed to get the experience if they don't hire you? xD
. Women are too complicated for a poor sap like myself. It's like when you're trying to find a job and all the jobs ask you for experience, then how the hell are you supposed to get the experience if they don't hire you? xDBah I'm sick of trying to date... I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life
LOL Have an internship?
student work experience or such? Volunteer? Take a break from dating if you wish.. almost everybody gets burnt out sometimes and may need a rest..
LOL Then take a break from trying to date, and continue dating itself?
(Maybe dating himself? There's a cool saying 'Take yourself out for a date'...? Treat yourself like you'd like to be treated...? Maybe in the book Artist's Way, or found on another forum... Someone couldn't do songwriting anymore, and another lady told him to take himself on a date...?
hmm..)
theblank
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There's nothing wrong with trying to date when you have nothing going on in your life...just don't get your hopes up too high. Better to get your priorities straight and get a job, your own place to live, self confidence, etc. and try again when you're in a better position. That way you'll have more to offer and improve your chances of getting someone you really want to be with.
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In my opinion having a job and a social life is a plus,but it all comes down to if she likes you,if she does she probably will not mind and will forget,they will forget when they like guys who are cheaters,women beaters,I have seen it happen,so something like jobless or no social life could be forgotten if you bring something good to her or add something to her life.
I'm not an expert on conventional dating, but I know it's possible to have a relationship without those things. ''Moral support above financial support'', to put it very simple. ;3
I guess it really depends on the person you're trying to date/see. Some really care for a stable partner (including decent finances and stable future), but others don't really care as long as their partner is a nice and loving person.
So yes, I do think it's possible. As long as you pick your partner right. A good friendship seems to be a good base for a relationship (or somebody else you know well). That's how I did it. :3
I guess it really depends on the person you're trying to date/see. Some really care for a stable partner (including decent finances and stable future), but others don't really care as long as their partner is a nice and loving person.
So yes, I do think it's possible. As long as you pick your partner right. A good friendship seems to be a good base for a relationship (or somebody else you know well). That's how I did it. :3
I agree with this a little,but if they like the guy,the guy can pretty much **** their mothers and they wont care,so I dont really take their opinion on what they want or dont want,what they would do or wouldnt do,because if they like the guy all that goes out of the window IMO.
There are plenty of girls that just want a kind, loving boyfriend they can get along with and don't care about money. The problem with this situation is having something to talk about. Without school/job or the relationships in your life to talk about, conversation is very hard unless you have a lot of other things in common.
Finding someone to date isn't that hard, you just have to be in the right place at the right time. A lot of you guys are looking at it too intensively. If you think you can't get women because you're not rich or amazing-looking then you live in a fantasy world. All you have to do is put yourself out there more. You need chance meetings, opportunities to get to know new people, and a positive enough mindset to make yourself interested and available to these folks.
Of course some women will say they want this and that in a man, but it's all stereotype nonsense that doesn't apply to the real world. In fact, I would go so far as to say that these women are the ill-adjusted ones. Don't let anyone influence you as far as what you have to have or who you have to be - you're fine just the way you are. This is what people mean when they say 'just be yourself' - it's a cliche for a reason.
It's easy to say the dating world is impossible when you're hard on yourself and don't often leave the house. But things change once you switch it up and put yourself in situations that are conducive to finding potential dates. If some aspect of your life is not working for you, change it, but do it for you, not for some future partner you may or may not meet.
Of course some women will say they want this and that in a man, but it's all stereotype nonsense that doesn't apply to the real world. In fact, I would go so far as to say that these women are the ill-adjusted ones. Don't let anyone influence you as far as what you have to have or who you have to be - you're fine just the way you are. This is what people mean when they say 'just be yourself' - it's a cliche for a reason.
It's easy to say the dating world is impossible when you're hard on yourself and don't often leave the house. But things change once you switch it up and put yourself in situations that are conducive to finding potential dates. If some aspect of your life is not working for you, change it, but do it for you, not for some future partner you may or may not meet.
girlinthecorner
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I tried a dating site a couple of months ago and I had felt like I wasn't really good enough since I didn't have a job or a social life. I was going to school but I still felt like it wasn't good enough. I ended up quitting the dating site but I've started wanting to try it again since I've gotten a job now and feel a little more worthy. I'm still scared of trying dating sites though because I feel like I'm not normal enough. I don't have friends, I avoid going outside as much as I can, I can't drive, can't talk on the phone and I can barely talk in person. I can't put that stuff about me on a dating site even though they're the most important things someone thinking about dating me would need to know, so I never know what to put and without mentioning that stuff I feel like I'm pretending to be something I'm not.
fitftw
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I can't have a job because after a week it's the same boring **** day in, day out. I don't think I'll make it far in life once school is over. I literally can't stay at the same job for more than a few months. And I'm 26. Only job I stayed at was the Navy for 4 years. I hated it, but I had to get through it. I don't see me staying at any job for 20+ years ever.
Pookah
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I'm going to be devil's advocate and say that it would be good to work on something like schooling or employment to at least show the opposite sex that you have your future in mind. Having to rely on someone else whilst not "pulling your own weight" can become a toxic situation.
I have severe SA, I barely go out except for work and essential shopping. I find it hard to phone strangers. I have a job though, because there is no way I would survive without one, I have to pay my way or I'll have no where to go. Some fear overrides other fears. If you fear being alone, maybe you need to take steps to meet your potential partner half way.
Disability or other benefits would be a start too. I've been hoping to maybe get schooling in a medical transcription or billing position. Not very social, you type up things all day.
I have severe SA, I barely go out except for work and essential shopping. I find it hard to phone strangers. I have a job though, because there is no way I would survive without one, I have to pay my way or I'll have no where to go. Some fear overrides other fears. If you fear being alone, maybe you need to take steps to meet your potential partner half way.
Disability or other benefits would be a start too. I've been hoping to maybe get schooling in a medical transcription or billing position. Not very social, you type up things all day.
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Personally I think that the thing that'll kill your chances the fastest is not your employment status, education, or social life but social anxiety. I've seen way too many dudes that were broke, stupid as hell, and not to mention lazy, but they still had women hooking up with them. But those guys didn't have social phobias. It's kinda hard to have a relationship when you have trouble relating. It's not impossible though, some here have success, but working through your fears should probably be you main focus. Since it is the source of your problems.