at what age??

[nafadda]

at what age do you think people should move away from parents home??

IMO somewhere between 18-21.

I moved out after I finished High School at 17,that may be a bit young for some ,but that is what worked for me and I just could not have imagined living at home much longer.

i think it allows a person to grow and become an adult,but now a days it seems like many just stay on indefinaltly..???

how does one ever grow mentally by doing that.??

some say they have no money or job prospect so they stay..well if thats the case perhaps the parents can take that extra money it takes to support a grown child and give it to the person so that they can get a place of their own and actually try and make a go of it???..

well it's just a question that has been on my mind for some time now.

 

[Boby]

I am 22 and still living with my parents. Sometimes i really wish i had a house of my own...but i'm a student so i don't have a job,i don't have time for one, and i need all the suport i can get from my parents if i want to have any chance of finishing this collage.And even if i finish and get a job still in my country renting is really rare and expensive most of the population are proprietors.

 

[twiggle]

Each to their own. You can't really generalise over who should be doing what and when. There are too many subjective factors involved.

I lived out at Uni. I live with my parents now because I don't earn enough money to move out. Believe me I'd love to move out and be fully independent but I'm not going to pay hundreds of pounds rent a month just to fill up some landlord's wallet and wave goodbye to all my hard-earned money. Staying home allows me to save up for other stuff (thinking of moving abroad) whilst looking after my parents and keeping them company at the same time.

I hope to move out by 28. But they like having me around because they say it keeps them young.

 

[Iluv]

Well I'm still in highschool. I plan to move out of here when I graduate. I think that's a good age for me, but each to their own. Whenever you get your life on the right track is the right time.

 

[MikeyC]

Each to their own. You can't really generalise over who should be doing what and when. There are too many subjective factors involved.

Absolutely.

I'm just shy of 26 and I'm still living at home. If I had the cash sense I would've been out of here years ago. At this rate I'll be here until I'm 35.

 

[megalon]

It must be different in other parts of the world, but in the area I live in, it seems uncommon to live with parents past the age of 20-21. Anyone who does is quickly labeled a loser. I think this contributes a lot to my complete lack of self esteem.

 

[Silatuyok]

I think people should live with their parents as long as they want to and as long as their parents want them to. If both parties are okay with it, then I'm all for keeping the family together.

 

[Feathers]

Where I live many 'young' families and 'old' folks live in one house - I never thought I would (lived away when at uni and some times later too) but ha! Sometimes the world works in unpredictable ways!
It's more eco-friendly than each generation building own house (we only have one planet!) though it can be difficult and frustrating sometimes...

My dad really wished for 'at least one of us to stay home' now he ain't happy with it though (and neither have been we lol) but it's survivable and again, makes economic and eco sense...
No one really educated us for 'multigenerational living' there can certainly be problems and misunderstandings, so it's not for everyone... But if it happens, try to make the best of it all - parents can also be a source of knowledge, may help with info and networking etc.

Most young people would prefer to live on their own, some older people would prefer having young 'uns home to take care of them as they might get 'old and ill' etc. So, it's different in different cultures and depends on the money situation too...

I think if parents have money to give to kids to live elsewhere that's not really 'independent living' - maybe if they really have LOTS of money, for many people it may just not be realistic? (And some kids could maybe try to take advantage and not really get independent then ??)

I loved living on my own/with roommates or flatmates, and there are many empty places out there...

In the old days, extended families lived and worked together on farms, many people were needed to work together... I hate to see some big farm houses empty and falling apart in some places... Big families sometimes had a lot of fun too, and there was also a Granny or aunt around to help take care of kids and/or work... I've talked to many old people (80+) who feel lonely and 'forgotten' by their families these days, like they just 'wait for them to die' or such, when they are still sources of such wisdom... I loved living with my Granny at times too... Learnt a lot from her and other older ladies I've visited as a volunteer...

So, there are many sides to this question...

What made you ask the question, nafadda?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I know alot of families who all live together in one large house- people marry into the family; and they move into the house.
That's how things used to be done, right?
...back in the olden days?
haha

Moving out is a good growing experience, usually the first time out on your own is a complete failure-- but that's what you learn from.

I don't think it's possible to say an exact age when people should move out.
I think they should be allowed to stay at *the very least* until they graduate from highschool-- or drop out and get a full time job.
My ex's mother kicked him out on his 18th birthday at 6am. He had to live with my family until he graduated at the end of the year. We both worked and paid rent/utilities to my mother. (because I always paid half the rent to begin with)
That was extremely unfair-- especially since his mother's step daughter and stepson who were both in their 20's were living in that house. Not working and not going to school.
I'm sure she regrets it now, since none of her biological children will speak to her.
---- anyway. if one must be kicked out for little reason; it should at least wait until they are done school and old enough to fend for themselves.

My mom wants me to stay forever.
I'll move out (again) when I'm able to get a job.
I prefer living on my own.

 

[nafadda]

there was not really any reason I asked Feathers,just been observing some things as of late and got me to thinking...perhaps if a person goes out and tries to make it on their own they will become stronger

there is really no right or wrong answer and certainly is my opinion and NOt generalizing,it's how I FEEL and nothing more the MY opinion.

i think back in the "olden days" as McGee said about families living in one big house ,well that was for a few reasons..Lot's of times they needed help on the farm,now a days not many live on 'the old farm'..also in some cases there were not so many available homes or apartments as there are now.families also kept the older people around unlike today when they ship them off to homes many times and only visit them on holidays.

I have 2 nephews both the same exact age (1 month apart)..,from 2 different sisters.One moved out at an early age,went to college worked 2 jobs and then went back to school to get his masters.the other stayed living with his mother what seemed to be forever,always a reason not to move out ,but he always had a brand new truck and the latest phones and gadgets and just seemed to vegitate....oh well to each his own I guess.

I had an uncle that lived with his Mom forever and he had some major issues.

i would have gone mad living at home after a certain age.Sure I made plenty of bad choices along the way,and sure it wasn't always easy,but I if I had to do it all over again,I still would move out within a year or so of getting out of high school.It may not be for everyone but that is what worked for me.it actually helped me grow

 

[coyote]

coming of age in the time and place i did (midwestern U.S. in the late 1970's, early 1980's) you were pretty much expected to leave home soon after graduating from high school

people either went away to college, joined the military, or got a job/married and moved out of the house

living at home and complaining about your parents was a completely foreign concept

if you didn't like it, you left

life was easier then - we didn't have cable bills, internet bills, cell phone bills, credit card bills, etc. - so it was easier to cut the strings, move into someone's basement and eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, ride your bicycle, watch (free) broadcast TV, use the payphone on the corner, and play pool for beer money

no one expected to be living the high life - the point was that you were on your own

that's all that mattered

 

[MikeyC]

life was easier then - we didn't have cable bills, internet bills, cell phone bills, credit card bills, etc. - so it was easier to cut the strings, move into someone's basement and eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, ride your bicycle, watch (free) broadcast TV, use the payphone on the corner, and play pool for beer money

Do you think it's still this easy but modern-day home-leavers are too pampered with technology?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

My sister left home at 15 because she hated mom's boyfriend and wanted her to get back together with dad. (and they'd been divorced for more than 10 years)

It probably helped her to grow and become an adult faster than most of her friends-- but it also made her into a very bitter person.
I grew up when she left because I had to become the second mother for our younger brother, work to help pay the bills and still be as good as she is at everything; although I'm 5 years younger.

I grew up and became mature in the home. Learned about paying bills, doing chores, preparing meals, fixing things, saving money, work ethic, how things generally work...
Maybe kids should just have more responsibility at home growing up so that they're more prepared and eager to leave home and live on their own later on?

 

[MikeyC]

Maybe kids should just have more responsibility at home growing up so that they're more prepared and eager to leave home and live on their own later on?

It's not bad advice. Growing up my parents did everything for me so even at the age of 25 I don't know very much. Your upbringing will have prepared you even better for life outside the house.

 

[coyote]

Do you think it's still this easy but modern-day home-leavers are too pampered with technology?

i don't know if i would use the word 'pampered'

but they are conditioned to believe that they have different needs

it's hardly their fault

 

[Imaginary]

I am 22 and still living with my parents. Sometimes i really wish i had a house of my own...but i'm a student so i don't have a job,i don't have time for one, and i need all the suport i can get from my parents if i want to have any chance of finishing this collage.And even if i finish and get a job still in my country renting is really rare and expensive most of the population are proprietors.

Same here too~ But I spend all my day on my PC, just do the stupid think, something if I really2x bored n nothing to do, I watch gayporn, I'm so pathetic when I knew my another friends has more success life n more better than before. N I'm here just look so pathetic n ironic~ -___-llll

I have SA since I was kid, got worst between 17-22, it's makes me drop otu from university when I still 21 years old, now if I must get the out for activity, just once a week, every sunday I must go to the manga course~

 

[nafadda]

coming of age in the time and place i did (midwestern U.S. in the late 1970's, early 1980's) you were pretty much expected to leave home soon after graduating from high school

people either went away to college, joined the military, or got a job/married and moved out of the house

living at home and complaining about your parents was a completely foreign concept

if you didn't like it, you left

life was easier then - we didn't have cable bills, internet bills, cell phone bills, credit card bills, etc. - so it was easier to cut the strings, move into someone's basement and eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, ride your bicycle, watch (free) broadcast TV, use the payphone on the corner, and play pool for beer money

no one expected to be living the high life - the point was that you were on your own

that's all that mattered

yes ,VERY well said..people lived,they learned,they made mistakes and they grew...some went to college and held down jobs(some still do)..

it was a coming of age experience.one that most young people wanted to experience.i know i did.i left after HS,took a year off before I went back to school and had some jobs and sowed some wild oats without worrying about school that year.since i finished HS earlier then most,it was something I wanted to do instead of going straight to college.

i also met many that opted not to go to college at all and did even better then many that went.

sure i was young and made more mistakes then i can remember ,BUT..they were MY mistakes.(and i NEVER was arrested for them so they really were just dumb mistakes)..


now i look back and no matter how hard it was at the time i am thankful that i just left because i would not have been happy at all staying on.