Are you shy
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lyricalliaisons
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I come across as shy and awkward to people-- because I am. I'm way beyond shy.
Rembrandt Broam
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I tend to be somewhat shy around people I don't know, but it's situational. I'm not really shy in, say, a work environment but I can be in social situations, although even then I'm nowhere near as shy as I used to be.
hmm no never been shy, shyness is more a personality trait and social anxiety disorder is more anxiety that starts at a spefic point in someones life.
Shyness is a bad trait, how more you narccistic outgoing you are how more succesfull and happy you are in life. maybe shyness was appropiate for survival thousands years ago but now ? no
Shyness is a bad trait, how more you narccistic outgoing you are how more succesfull and happy you are in life. maybe shyness was appropiate for survival thousands years ago but now ? no
karl:-/
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Maybe there's an increase in testosterone over sed years.. I see some shyness being a case of inferiority complex, or wot we see in magazines and on tv totaly different to a mirrow at home. Anxiety due to a troubled childhood, maybe relationships gone south/abusive. Who knows maybe people just need to be a little more understanding....
KiaKaha
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I fear rejection or people thinking badly of me. I am also awkward socially. It's uncomfortable for everyone involved. My shyness manifests itself as avoidance... if I have to force myself to do something I dont want too, I have a knot in my stomach and can feel the urge that I need to escape. It is not a good feeling - and it is very obvious to outsiders.
That's about when the depression kicks in...
That's about when the depression kicks in...
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Srijita52
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Same for me and also my lack of social skills.
MikeyC
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You were fine when I met you, though. If you felt any of this, you hid it well.
OceanMist
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Yes, of course I'm shy.
I think anyone who is on this site that feels like they have a problem with anxiety is shy. I may catch heat for that statement but that's the way I feel.
The best test is to ask yourself if fear, anxiety, shyness or anything asocial effects your daily life. If it does, then you are shy.
Someone can be shy and still have a very active social life and a good job, too.
I think shyness comes down to if fear or inhibitions get in the way of your ability to operate not just socially, but in other aspects of life, things such as even sports or your job.
Statistically, most people aren't shy. It does anger me when I see people not just on here but in real life that claim they are shy when they clearly are not shy. It may sound cocky but I do believe I can tell usually pretty quickly whether a person is shy or not, especially when in person.
I think anyone who is on this site that feels like they have a problem with anxiety is shy. I may catch heat for that statement but that's the way I feel.
The best test is to ask yourself if fear, anxiety, shyness or anything asocial effects your daily life. If it does, then you are shy.
Someone can be shy and still have a very active social life and a good job, too.
I think shyness comes down to if fear or inhibitions get in the way of your ability to operate not just socially, but in other aspects of life, things such as even sports or your job.
Statistically, most people aren't shy. It does anger me when I see people not just on here but in real life that claim they are shy when they clearly are not shy. It may sound cocky but I do believe I can tell usually pretty quickly whether a person is shy or not, especially when in person.
OceanMist
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I agree. Shyness is never a good thing.
It angers me when people try to find positive things about shyness. Every positive trait a shy person has is usually is one that an outgoing person can have just as easily.
Shyness effects the most important aspects of life, social and career (financial life).
I'm Not There
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Same here; my sister claims to be shy as well, while she's quite outgoing and has tons of friends...
When we had to do work in groups at school and had to give each other feedback, it always more or less came down to:
- Yeah he seemed pretty shy at first, but after a while he actually seemed pretty outgoing (about someone else)
- Yeah he seemed pretty shy at first, and after a while.. well... that hadn't changed really (about me)
Kiwong
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It started as shyness as a child.
Sensitivity X Shyness + hostile school environment = potential for mental illness.
This anxiety I have keeps me awake at night, with fearful worrying thoughts about facing the world the next morning. It is a behaviour that is ingrained in my mind, and becomes instinctual.
I feel a cold fear talking to people.
Sensitivity X Shyness + hostile school environment = potential for mental illness.
This anxiety I have keeps me awake at night, with fearful worrying thoughts about facing the world the next morning. It is a behaviour that is ingrained in my mind, and becomes instinctual.
I feel a cold fear talking to people.
Yes shyness does effect our lives greatly, I find myself avoiding any sort of social situation.
I really hate my reclusive side and really want people to like me but they just don't.
I even find it difficult to smile when I'm around strangers.
I'm 40 and have been single for about 4 years and really don't see that changing anytime soon. I have two children and I'm at my happiest when I'm in their company.
I really hate my reclusive side and really want people to like me but they just don't.
I even find it difficult to smile when I'm around strangers.
I'm 40 and have been single for about 4 years and really don't see that changing anytime soon. I have two children and I'm at my happiest when I'm in their company.
9407
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****ing exactly. Even though I'm almost 19 and have facial hair, people outside of the mental health field treat me like I'm 8 years old because I'm shy. If I have to deal with this when I work, I might as well go on mental health disability for the rest of my life.
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A86
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What exactly is shy?
Oxford Dict Shy
nervous or timid in the company of other people
Oxford Dict Nervous
anxious about something or afraid of something
So shy is being anxious or afraid in the company of other people?
I guess by that definition, then, yes, I am shy.
Given enough effort though I can make it seem like I'm not.
Oxford Dict Shy
nervous or timid in the company of other people
Oxford Dict Nervous
anxious about something or afraid of something
So shy is being anxious or afraid in the company of other people?
I guess by that definition, then, yes, I am shy.
Given enough effort though I can make it seem like I'm not.
psych
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Depends on whether I am intimidated or not.
I am well trained.
I know how to look you directly in the eye while speaking to you. I can give a dry, firm handshake most of the time.
Yet, there's a guy at work I've had a crush on for a very long time... Him, I can barely look at when I speak to him.
Authority figures are another area of difficulty, until I've lost all respect for them...
I am well trained.
I know how to look you directly in the eye while speaking to you. I can give a dry, firm handshake most of the time.
Yet, there's a guy at work I've had a crush on for a very long time... Him, I can barely look at when I speak to him.
Authority figures are another area of difficulty, until I've lost all respect for them...
coyote
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i'm very much like this, too
trained in proper military bearing - to always appear cool and unflappable - to keep my head when all others around me lose theirs (or at least appear that way)
but easily intimidated by people i feel are my "superiors" (whether valid or not)
and very shy with authority figures, too - until i feel i'm on an even footing somehow - but always looking for a way to skirt authority
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KiaKaha
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Shy has always been one of those words that have so many interpretations. It's almost a non word - one that barely has any meaning.
Lots of people say they are shy, but looking at them you wouldn't think it at all - there also different degrees of shyness and different ways that shyness manifests itself.
I get terribly shy and awkward when I work, but I do OK when interacting with certain kinds of people. Most of the time I am very shy and uncomfortable. You wont get anything out of me at all. - in particular when dealing with the "real" world.
I am actually exceptionally friendly. I am just...well....shy.
I do think that shyness is a very negative trait....or at the very least it is spoken with negative connotations attached. In a world that sees boldness and strength as attractive attributes.... shyness is not something people particularly wish to be associated with.
What is worse is that they shy person almost repels other people. It really is a messed up way to be. It's contradictory and mysterious... and it grips people to the point of misery and loneliness.
Shyness *is* embarrassing.
Lots of people say they are shy, but looking at them you wouldn't think it at all - there also different degrees of shyness and different ways that shyness manifests itself.
I get terribly shy and awkward when I work, but I do OK when interacting with certain kinds of people. Most of the time I am very shy and uncomfortable. You wont get anything out of me at all. - in particular when dealing with the "real" world.
I am actually exceptionally friendly. I am just...well....shy.
I do think that shyness is a very negative trait....or at the very least it is spoken with negative connotations attached. In a world that sees boldness and strength as attractive attributes.... shyness is not something people particularly wish to be associated with.
What is worse is that they shy person almost repels other people. It really is a messed up way to be. It's contradictory and mysterious... and it grips people to the point of misery and loneliness.
Shyness *is* embarrassing.
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