Anyone think they give off weird "vibes" ???

[chained]

I think it's just that because we dont want ppl to know how we feel(weak, scared), our defense mechanisms work in a way of showing ourself to the complete opposite..strong, but mean. cuz if we were to show feeling, the only feeling thta would come out would be fear and anxiety..
i make weird faces, a girl told me this yesterday, f her!

 

[redski]

...f her!

That's the spirit!

 

[Falkor]

Wow talking about aura's, I think I can feel aura's , I feel how negative mine is, but I also feel other aura's, sometimes when I meet someone for the first time I really can feel if he is a good or a bad person.
But about my own aura.. vibes.. When i'm positive, and smile alot, people really seem to like me. You know when I'm cycling and I say HIII! happily to everyone, people smile and say Hi back. But when I look shy, sad, and anxious, and when I say hi, nobody reacts. Or atleast a few people.
So people really seem to not like me when I'm anxious or not feeling well.
Or just don't want to spent time with me, because when i was in a teenage club, and everytime when i felt anxious nobody asked me to play games , but when i was happy they always asked me.
Maybe it's just fear by people that they can't get along with anxiety, it scares them too, cuz it's sensitivity that people can't get along with,
People just want to get in the normal vibe of life
That's also why people let me down, anxiety makes people feel insecure, only strong people who have gone through a hard time will
understand you , people have let me down alot.. some people just can't handle it

 

[DanFC]

I'm the guy that when he walks into the room everyone stops their conversation and stares.

 

[PhillyFlyersGrl]

I can relate to this completely.
Its not as bad as it was, because Im working on it. Just to be around people and not think anything, just go about my business, basically teach myself to feel natural as possible. I have good days and bad days though.

 

[Richey]

yeh i think alot of this is just being aware of perception, we don't really know what others are actually thinking at all..i mean perhaps its true that if you are quiet then your presence may affect others in some way but what does that say about them? ...it means they must be insanely impressionable to behave like that...the only way to help this is to seperate each element into seperate compartments, so compartment 1 you can store your negative feeling of the pressure of the job but seperate it from your self worth and fun side, compartment 2 can be your true relaxed honest self detached from compartment 1, compartment 3 can be emotion ...so this way you arn't throwing everything into one box and allwoing the negative/cold emotion to overide everything else...one of the tests in NLP is to try not to hold a negative thought for 7 days and if you have a negative thought dont hold it, so that means if you're thinking "i dont want to be here right now, i hate this so much" ...don't let the thought stick in your head, so after a few seconds change the thought to "i love myself, i'm funny, i'm happy, this is great" or a song lyric... ...this is really hard at first because once you change to a positive thought you won't necesserally believe it at all in fact you may say something positive but you believe the opposite and immediately return to a negative thought as if its automatic...

so this will take alot of unwinding and playing around and gritting your teeth to work ....but its something to ponder...

 

[Liberty]

When people approach me to talk I always feel I'm giving off a strong negative "aura" or weird/strange VIBE. It feels so strong that I think I've become the embodiment to my thoughts, therefore actually CAUSE the negativity to happen!! I get confirmation of this when others start to walk away or look uncomfortable. Now I would understand it if I was disfigured in some way, but I don't "think" that I am (fortunately not yet at least).

Yeah I do. I've been noticing that for quite a while now. I'm amazed at how sensitive other people are to fear or anxiousness. Almost everyone that I'm around instantly becomes anxious and starts fidgeting or bouncing their leg on the ground at 100 rpm's a second. It's pretty embarassing. It's also frustrating because I've put a lot of work into controlling my anxiety and I can walk in to a waiting room and take a seat and not budge an inch or fidget at all but the person next to me will immediately start shaking their leg.

I'd like to start videotaping it to show my therapist with my phone or something. It happens several times every day at least.

 

[dead24]

Yeah I do. I've been noticing that for quite a while now. I'm amazed at how sensitive other people are to fear or anxiousness. Almost everyone that I'm around instantly becomes anxious and starts fidgeting or bouncing their leg on the ground at 100 rpm's a second. It's pretty embarassing. It's also frustrating because I've put a lot of work into controlling my anxiety and I can walk in to a waiting room and take a seat and not budge an inch or fidget at all but the person next to me will immediately start shaking their leg.

I'd like to start videotaping it to show my therapist with my phone or something. It happens several times every day at least.

I'm the same. If I dont move at all, the person next to me feels awkward and anxious making them uncomfortable so I have to move myself or do something like write something on my notebook or talk to my other seatmate etc. It sucks because I cant make people be comfortable with me.

 

[badeyes]

When people approach me to talk I always feel I'm giving off a strong negative "aura" or weird/strange VIBE. It feels so strong that I think I've become the embodiment to my thoughts, therefore actually CAUSE the negativity to happen!! I get confirmation of this when others start to walk away or look uncomfortable. Now I would understand it if I was disfigured in some way, but I don't "think" that I am (fortunately not yet at least).

What the hell kind of sickness is this? My brain is just so programmed for self-destruction that I often feel helpless and out of control. It seems to just want me to fail. To not be liked. To be hated and alone. WTF?!?!? Maybe it's just my karma. Or maybe someone has put a curse on me.

HOW in the world does one obtain an EGO??? Look at people like Clinton or Obama, they have enormous egos, whether it be real or fake. But they have the power to make others believe and like them and look up to them. I wish I had at least 1% of this. I have ZERO ego.

Hello,

This problem is NOT related to any phobia or things like that.

I had this problem, where whenever I see someone they used to get discomfort(Even me ). Now the problem is not related to any anxiety or some pychology.

When I used to see someone , I used to get blurred out and had lot of unconfortable feeling.

The problem was due to heavy use to computer. Eye was used to only small distance. But when used at long, even though you can see correctly the objects, but there is a sense of pressure at the forehead and it kind of cause all sorts of mind problem, (upset, confusion, headache, blurring etc etc ).

This problem does not come when you does not concentrate on distance object, but when we see human or things we tend to concentrate on them and hence problem.

So the problem is you need to train you eye muscle.
( Before that, about bad vibs, it is true that the uncomfortable feeling gets spread in the form of bad vibs and I mean it, If you can send peace full vib's using meditative state why not bad vibs when we are in painful condition )


So simple excercise is

Try seeing very distant object for 10 minutes dialy and in about 4 -5 days you will become normal.


Bye for now

 

[Subpop]

Anyone have experience with street drugs like pot or acid? I used to smoke alot of weed back in the day; but haven't touched it since '01. And in my teenage years I did LSD many times (way back 15 years ago). Sometimes I think these drugs might have made my condition worse. I don't think they 'created' it though- because one of the reasons I started drinking and drugging was because of the social anxiety.

I always noticed that when I was stoned I used to THINK waaay too much. I would sit there with everyone and ponder every little detail of everything going on. Usually my mind would drift towards the negative. Like I would focus on someone in the room and think really intense negative thoughts about them, for no apparent reason. It was like S.A. on steroids!!! Of course this is one of the main reasons I don't do hallucinogenic/psychedelic type of drugs anymore (even though they provided me with acute euphoric effects).

I haven't touched drugs except for tobacco and alcohol for 15 years for the very reasons you described so very well. I drink very occassionally and stopped smoking last year.

 

[ForWantOf]

I know I give off weird vibes. I've been told as much. I've been told I'm scary; that I have an unnerving or enigmatic presence; that I would be voted most likely to wind up shooting people from atop a bell tower(Seriously, a coworker told me this.).

I don't try to be that way; I just am. In highschool, a girl once asked me why I was so quiet. I calmly replied, "I guess I don't have that much to say." Her eyes widened, and she responded with an offended, "Excuse ME!" I don't know what that was about; she acted like I told her to go kill herself.

 

[jaim38]

Oh yes, I give off weird vibes many times in public. Even when I am hanging out with a friend or in a group, I get singled out by strangers.
I think people could intuitively sense that I was insecure inside and that I have SA. Not to mention the clothes that I wear are out of fashion, many of them.

 

[mikebird]

Big time

This was a unsettling week

No way I can pinpoint the reason. I like it when the streets are clear. Hmm when it's really bustly and I want to reach my destination I rush my way through, never knocking into anyone. They get out of my way

The reason..? All the dainty people are so shivvery in the cold, or they're diminished due to a bad economy..???? etc....

Suit doesn't go down well! Glad to be in a car. A lot of people are walking around with music to listen to these days. I did in about 2006 for a train journey and walking. Earbuds shock me. I could never get them to stay in, and I need a subwoofer. Good to isolate yourself. Easier for me to wink at those people

Today, walking through traffic, gently, out of the way of roads, eyes pin-sharp on light signals - never activating crossings. I find my own free space. I don't slow down anyone's progress. Looks from their cabins: staring at me, COLD. Twisting neck as I walk past. And in the street. Very upsetting. Single mums with buggies, or flocks of kids around. They walk at the speed of a tortoise. I've got no time for the slow. That applies to every corner of any activity

Sun head pointed at the sky. Never downwards. Either way makes 'em glare /frown at me. Always. I look horizontally at their eyes. Nobody likes it.

Thing is: I can't see their reaction if I look away, so I'm interested. Doesn't work. I see repulsion. Same for any proximity with strangers. I'm practising. They see an alien.

Gym tomorrow morning! :bigsmile:

Lucky I've never been attacked. That's a solid fact!

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Yes. When I'm nervous, which is often.

 

[akala]

My therapist says you can confuse your thoughts and feelings. and you probably think it--- then believe it--- then feel it

 

[lonelee1]

When people approach me to talk I always feel I'm giving off a strong negative "aura" or weird/strange VIBE. It feels so strong that I think I've become the embodiment to my thoughts, therefore actually CAUSE the negativity to happen!! I get confirmation of this when others start to walk away or look uncomfortable. Now I would understand it if I was disfigured in some way, but I don't "think" that I am (fortunately not yet at least).

What the hell kind of sickness is this? My brain is just so programmed for self-destruction that I often feel helpless and out of control. It seems to just want me to fail. To not be liked. To be hated and alone. WTF?!?!? Maybe it's just my karma. Or maybe someone has put a curse on me.

HOW in the world does one obtain an EGO??? Look at people like Clinton or Obama, they have enormous egos, whether it be real or fake. But they have the power to make others believe and like them and look up to them. I wish I had at least 1% of this. I have ZERO ego.

good god, i know this feeling too well. i think i project the same vibe. it's heartbreaking sometimes.

i feel like some of this is in fact, ego, at least for me. lay terms for ego or the spiritual ego that is, like we care so much about ourselves and what others think of us that we're not able to let go and just be natural. that's one way of looking at it.

the other is just part of social phobia. our brain shoots out 'danger' and we react to people in this weird distorted way. not our true selves.

i haven't really figured a way around this 'vibe' but if im working on it. glad to hear it mentioned on here bc i relate.