What gets me is many people, current generation and past, still have their heads in the sand, especially on the bigger picture like what Blaze mentioned.
You would think people would take into consideration the effect on the world we have, where we all have our own places, when its not totally necesary.....when your married and have 3 kids is one thing, but where theres 3 people (me, my wife, my dad) is a totally different picture. Why just add to the emissions we put out being alive when its one less imprint?.
I just dont get how we all seem to know this yet society still clings to its outdated ways of thinking, and refuses to change. Has anyone else bothered to look through history and see what gradually happened to societies that didnt change or adapt to the changing situation?. Ever wonder why most of them arent around anymore?.
Sorry, i kinda got off topic in terms of S/A...but in addition to our situation, and me and my w ife's mutual S/A, i DO think its relevant. Otherwise, eventually we may meet the dinosaurs sooner than we think.
Ive got alot of pent up frustration as i type this. We went to see her folks for new yrs eve, my idea, im trying to build bridges i guess as her dad and me almost came to blows on my front lawn the night before our wedding, and of course, this was all we heard about. Sometimes i just dont know why i bother..... Everybody seems to forget that shes in uni full time, 7 courses a day and she doesnt have time to work full time....if i point that out apparently im supposed to "make more money" or "get a better job"...right, ill get right on that, just run down to the grocery store and pick one up....
seriously!!!!
Anyways, i do appreciate the constructive feedback
. Makes me feel a little better knowing were not alone....that and the unwavering support of my dad. I just wish that her and me living with him hadnt been responsible for his breakup with his gf....she was pressuring him to boot us out so he could sel the house, and he could move in with her. She was nice to us but it always felt like in her eyes we were just an inconvenience. And she was always in a rush rush rush to get things done, when she knew how long we have to wait for our plans to get off the ground. just not good enough for some people. Put alot of strain on all of us.
My hunny tried to step up and do her part workwise, much to my objection on the grounds that shes already got enough on her plate, and somthings gotta give. She got a job, still continued her classes, and then she (my dads gf) tries to force us to start house hunting, and the pressure just caved. My wife had just started this new job, was working a full courseload, now her home enviroment was maybe changing, add to that the fact that her rents had told her that "now that your married, its your husbands responsibilty. We wont be helping you out anymore. you need to cleave the bond with the parents". She had a breakdown, and was reduced to a trembling, crying, bundle of nerves on my couch. I think i realized then just how much i disliked my dads gf, without even realizing it. My dad saw all this, that we were trying, and it was just too much, and he broke it off. I feel so terrible for it, i wish that it hadnt come to that, i want him to be happy, he hasnt been with a woman in almost 25 yrs. But i also understand the decision. I persuaded my wife to quit the job, and jsut focus on the university stuff. She did, and luckily, she only failed one course of the 7 due to all the drama on the home front. But its all still left a bitter taste in my mouth.
Luckily were both getting the help we need, and my dad still is understanding and supporting of what were doing. He basically said we were here first and if she (the ex) is going to try to push things like that, she wont be around anymore.
Crazy crazy times.
