sundaygirl
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Anyone else think theyre not good enough to go be around other people?
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Yes. But dont compare youself to others. Everyone is unique, has different goals, desires, values etc. Try to focus on living your life for yourself , dont live life to please others.
pufferfish
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i feel like this a lot. i was recently sitting down beside my boyfriends sister. some people who were at the party kept commenting on how beautiful she was, while i was right beside her; and didnt say a thing to me or about me. made me feel really low.
sleepysparrow
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This is how I feel all the time. I'm especially nervous around people my age because I feel like there's something wrong with me, I can't hide how anxious I feel and it's really hard to interact with anyone, and I never feel good enough. I've accepted being alone because it's too difficult for me to make friends with people outside of the internet.
iamthenra
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I remember when I was younger around 13 or so... I would always tell my only friend at that time, that I had an inferiority complex. I would tell him I am no better than "moose poop" or "snail slime"... Kind of half jokingly. Yeah, so to answer your question. I do feel that way allot. The friends that I do usually get are people that are not good quality people if you know what I mean. Like for example: they do drugs, drink excessively, have promiscuous sex, and get in trouble with the law. Probably has allot to do with a low self esteem?
sleepysparrow
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Birds of a feather flock together. Perhaps look for other sleepy sparrows.
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I feel I am the only one.
Lea
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It is not others fault if they don´t like me, it´s my illness (disorder) that prevents me to establish contacts and be liked. Sometimes people treat me even better than I deserve and try to make me welcome etc., but I feel unable to accept it. I would kill myself for doing so, because I´m not only punishing myself, I am also being rude to them. (Or so it seems). Even if someone liked me, I wouldn´t believe that because I don´t like myself and am not comfortable with myself. I feel like I have so much to work on that before I solve this problem I´ll be long dead.
sleepysparrow
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Yes you are unique Amie like everyone else but you are not alone. I for one will be giving you all the attention I can give.
Aw, thank you
Lea
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To me it seems you´re pretty intelligent Serafina, you don´t need to have papers for that.
Cynic
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Absolutely.
Scrabbl
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Yep I feel like a loser around people my own age. That's why all of the few friends I had in the past are social misfits. but even around them, I still have self-esteem issues. Like, for example I wouldn't even something as simple as "my back hurts" in front of my friends 'cause I'm afraid that they'll think I'm whiny / won't care - as if I don't have the right to complain.
Reiji Moritsugu
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It is not something I think, but rather a fact that I am sure of.
I am not smart, have no athletic skills whatsoever and I was not around when good looks were being given by nature. Add a total lack of conversation skills to the mix and what do you get? a winning combination, of course !! *extra sarcasm points* but recently I have started to care a bit less about it with each passing day...I guess it must be something related to age, don´t know for sure.
See you around
I am not smart, have no athletic skills whatsoever and I was not around when good looks were being given by nature. Add a total lack of conversation skills to the mix and what do you get? a winning combination, of course !! *extra sarcasm points* but recently I have started to care a bit less about it with each passing day...I guess it must be something related to age, don´t know for sure.
See you around
JCS008
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That the thing though, you are good enough. These people are human, just like you. Everyone has their own unique personality and identity. They're no better than you. And to those that do judge you or try to look down on you, just know they have their own issues and insecurities. The only respect that really matters is self-respect.
dottie
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wow. i relate with all of this, except i don't have a kid.
i'm a 29 y/o unemployed loser with a useless AA, living at home, who comes across half-retarded in social situations (especially the workplace). i am very ashamed. before anyone even begins to speak to me i already assume they will dismiss me as a joke.
Apple Strudel
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I always feel this way. I only had a failed GCSE and I see some of my classmates, they go to a reputable university and yes, it breaks my heart a lot since we used to be at the same level and yet a few years later, they are like one whole shot over me right now.
I stopped schooling a few years back because I felt really, really low. I couldn't function properly and high school wasn't the best years, it was terrible...I was a nervous wreck, I couldn't stand sitting in the classroom, I was constantly blowing hot and cold, nerves going haywire, slight hallucination, anxiety etc.
The final years were the worst and I was nearing breakdown.
I finally did, failed my examinations, went into recluse and a whole load of 'real life' sh*t started to pile on me when I started my first job.
And now, I see many of my ex-classmates, the bullies and whatnot having a blast of their life, while I sit around, feeling inferior and ugly.
I stopped schooling a few years back because I felt really, really low. I couldn't function properly and high school wasn't the best years, it was terrible...I was a nervous wreck, I couldn't stand sitting in the classroom, I was constantly blowing hot and cold, nerves going haywire, slight hallucination, anxiety etc.
The final years were the worst and I was nearing breakdown.
I finally did, failed my examinations, went into recluse and a whole load of 'real life' sh*t started to pile on me when I started my first job.
And now, I see many of my ex-classmates, the bullies and whatnot having a blast of their life, while I sit around, feeling inferior and ugly.
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shybhoy
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That's exactly how i felt before i talked to the girl who is showing interest in me i had excepted that i was to delicate to be like other "normal" people and have a so called "normal" life. But now i am all confused because i have taken a big risk and i feel so vulnerable and to make matters worse i find out she has issues like mine and also has experienced a very bad relationship in the past which makes her extremely cautious which i can understand, but, and sadly there seems to always be a but, this increases the chances of me getting extremely hurt, because chances are even though i know she has pretty strong feelings for me, she may not be ready to take the leap of faith and run away because shes scared which in turn will leave me pretty much in pieces and completely broken hearted, i mean 18 month is a long time to talk with someone online and txt i know its not, "real life" but in a way it is there is still communication which allows for a connection to be built. But i get what you are saying completely....