anyone else feel this way about marriage

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morbid angel

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I'd liked to get married someday but one of my fears is that I won't have enough groomsmen for the brides maids. I know this is a weird post but this is the type of stuff I think about.
 
coyote

coyote

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Interestingly, I've even heard of people getting married without any bridesmaids or groomsmen at all!!!
 
awkwardamanda

awkwardamanda

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This is one of many reasons I do not want a wedding. I only have two friends and I'm not very close with either of them. They don't even know each other very well. I don't have any sisters and I'm not really close with any relatives. So that's not much of a bridal party there. But oh well. I'd like to get married eventually if I actually find somebody worth marrying. I'd just rather be low-key about it and not make a big fuss. I'd gladly just go have it done by a judge, just to make it official, and maybe just go out for dinner after and be done with it. I couldn't stand having everyone staring at me all day. Most women love the thought of being the centre of attention for a day. I hate it. I'd just feel uncomfortable the whole time. I hate parties anyway. They're bad enough just being there, never mind being the whole reason for the party. I'd feel pretty awkward deciding who to invite too. I don't have a lot of friends, but I have a pretty large extended family. I wouldn't know where to draw the line between who gets invited and who doesn't. And I don't like getting emotional in front of people. I don't like people to see me upset and I don't like people to see me really happy either. If I'm ever in love with someone, it's not that I'd be embarrassed about it, I'd just rather keep it more or less private. Even the thought of putting an announcement in the newspaper bothers me. Also, I have this weird sort of phobia of jewellery. I can't stand it. I hate looking at it. I hate touching it. It really disgusts me. So if I get married, I'm not wearing a wedding ring. Obviously, people are gonna find that really strange and I don't want anyone to question me and make a big deal of it. Maybe I wouldn't really care if I didn't hate the attention so much. I just really hope that if I do ever want to get married, the guy is alright with this. I hate the thought of meeting an amazing guy, wanting to get married, but finding out he wants to have a regular wedding like most people. I just have no interest at all in ever having a wedding. But whatever, the chances of me actually finding someone are pretty slim anyway.:rolleyes:
 
Iseesky

Iseesky

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Luckily I have two brothers...So that's two taken care of.

But, I don't want a large wedding anyway. Maybe even just my parents and brothers and my husband's parents and siblings. That's it. I'd hate the attention I'd get.
 
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Feathers

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lol I was a bridesmaid and didn't have a groom and guess what, it was okay!!
The other two bridesmaids had partners and the bride worried a bit about getting me a date and I said why bother? (I had bad experience with some single guys at weddings..) There was my family with me, and some old friends who I haven't seen in ages, and we talked a bunch!

There's absolutely no need for each bridesmaid to have a groom, it can be cute, of course, and if you do manage it, or find compatible people, it can be fun, otherwise, just focus on other aspects.. (It's good to talk it out with the bridesmaid/s beforehand too :) If any of them thinks it's absolutely crucial you can ask her if she knows anyone who might be a good groom, anyway!)

A more important thing to consult with the bridesmaids: the color of the dress!! (I hated mine lol!! But it was non-negotiable..)

PS I have marriage phobia and thought this thread would be about it, lol!
 
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Ed E. Haskel

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I'm glad that I read this post. I have the same concerns about getting married. It's a legitimate thing to worry about. I went to a cousins wedding recently, and he had his seven closests friends as groomsmen which he called the elite 7. It looked like they had the best time, It was depressing.
Anyway, the truth is your wedding can have any format you want and anyone who matters will not be sitting there judging "it doesn't look like he has many groomsmen, he must be a loser". You don't owe the world groomsmen, try not to worry about it.
 
mrb

mrb

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dont worry about it iv got 4 brothers and quite a few mates ..... just tell me when your getting married ill send em all round lol ;)
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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I think a small wedding is the best option. Firstly, as someone with SA, the idea of being the centre of attention is sort of...:eek:

Secondly, a wedding is about you and your partner, and the commitment you are making to one another. The two of you are the only ones who *really* need to be there.
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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Get married in the courthouse in front of a judge.... Problem solved! That is what I am going to do... Ceremonies are too expensive and in my opinion a huge waste of money and time. Not only your money, but the money and time of everyone involved. I was my cousins' best man in his wedding and tux/shoe rental was over $150. I myself would rather take the $10,000 to $40,000 and spend that on a vehicle or a vacation or something enjoyable. Sorry for the rant... I'll shut up now.
 
Elenwen

Elenwen

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I'm only having my two sisters as bridesmaids, and my fiance is going to have his brother and best friend. You don't have to have a huge wedding party to have a beautiful wedding. Besides, the most important part of it is you and your bride/groom. As long as you have that you'll have a nice ceremony. :)
 
emmasma

emmasma

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Marriage is NOT a wedding.
I did feel that way about weddings. I got married at the court with two witnesses.
 
ありがとう

ありがとう

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Uggggh... I never understood the big deal of wedding ceremonies etc... Just a simple courthouse, or at someone's home would be good enough. I don't want all that attention... I can't stand the thought of that. But obviously if my fiance (lol if I have one) wants one, I'll reconsider.
 
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