lonelee1
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okay, so i started dating someone and he pointed out that i don't listen well. that's a problem because i'd eventually like to become a therapist. that's the plan..i think.
anyway, he's right. another complicated issue to recognize and try to change. part of the larger picture.
there are reasons why i don't listen. one- i'm scanning other people's words for criticisms.
2- i'm already anticipating not knowing what to say next
3-i feel incredibly self-centered and 'know' its all about me
4-i find it hard to really listen when my mind is racing a mile a minute looking for danger.
5- i feel dumb, i'm worried about how my voice will sound, etc.
i could be an avoidant personality.
i do better through text, i can generate responses. i don't know what to do. he's been nice to me, and i feel like a horrible selfish person. i call it social anxiety and he calls it 'mean'.
how do i become a better listener?
anyway, he's right. another complicated issue to recognize and try to change. part of the larger picture.
there are reasons why i don't listen. one- i'm scanning other people's words for criticisms.
2- i'm already anticipating not knowing what to say next
3-i feel incredibly self-centered and 'know' its all about me
4-i find it hard to really listen when my mind is racing a mile a minute looking for danger.
5- i feel dumb, i'm worried about how my voice will sound, etc.
i could be an avoidant personality.
i do better through text, i can generate responses. i don't know what to do. he's been nice to me, and i feel like a horrible selfish person. i call it social anxiety and he calls it 'mean'.
how do i become a better listener?