An Ugly Girl

Hello, I'm a newcomer here, I'm 22 years old, an ugly girl.

Initially, I was born as a child who confident to achieve the dream, though my early life wasn't far as now, the problems to socialize and always make trouble, but I always optimism to pursuing my dream.

When I was junior high school, I began to realize that my face wasn't pretty, but it didn't matter to me, because when I saw my pretty friend, she often seduced by men who are not known, I feel grateful that they didn't tease me, yeah, and I know because I'm not pretty like my friend.

After high school n I grow up, my heart began to confusion, I began to feel that my ugly face is a problem, and at that time I was madly in love with my classmates, but my love was rejected indirectly by him, I could notice when he's away from me and looks disgusted with myself (I think he already knows that I like him), and nothing else, it's because of my ugly face, because I've been a good student and mediocrity in my class than the bitches who busy with their bf, I was pretty smart in class because I was trying to get his attention, but he liked my classmates that she certainly is a beautiful girl!

Then I start to focus on my face, all the treatments and the way that I can still run, I always try to be pretty, but until now it doesn't work at all, because a beauty comes from genes, but I was born in this way, the only way is get plastic surgery, and the problem doesn't stop here.

My ugly face had ruin my life, my soul has been destroyed, I lost my enthusiasm for life, passion and sense of optimism like before, of course, I lost hope. I know the only way to plastic surgery, but it's not cheap, to get a satisfactory result I had to spend a lot of money, I'm not from a rich family, and I knew I had to work for all expenses, like I said before, I dun even have the passion to do anything, I could only stand by and shut myself.

This is the one of the biggest influences that led to my social phobia, and then I dropped out of school because I felt so ugly, when I saw another girl, my heart is broken, I wish I was as pretty as them. I feel the people look with disgust feel.

To be continue~
 

WeirdyMcGee

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A person can buy a pretty face but all the money in the world can't FIX bad PERSONALITY.

My mom told me to say this to all of the girls and boys in school who called me ugly-- and although it didn't help me much back then, I do believe in it, now.


Welcome to the forum!
 

Boby

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Hi and welcome to the forum.
I agree with McGee.
You don't need to work on your face ,you need to work on your confidence and self esteem.
 

DeadmanWalking

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You are pretty, but you have to believe in it first. People see us the way we portray ourselves (most of the time, I believe). If you begin to believe that you are attractive (which I am sure that you are:)), then others will begin to see it too. If one person rejects you, then move on and find someone who will because there's someone out there who finds you attractive, I promise. I used to think that I was hideous (still do really), but, well, being on this site has shown me that I can be attractive::eek::. In summary, love yourself and you'll soon find others will love you too.

Now that my spiel's outta the way::p:, welcome to the forum. I hope you enjoy it here.
 

Waybuloo

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If you had already hit rock bottom with your thinking and self hatred then there is nowhere to go but up, as in develop yourself in other ways. If you think no one will want you because you think you are ugly, then what else can you do or contribute in this world while you are alive? If the concept of beauty and preference are void, what things would you find meaningful to pursue? The worst that can happen is you go on as you do and never achieve anything because of hatred for your face. But that is what you are already doing.
 

Srijita52

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Hi, I'm sorry about your classmate and also you're feeling such way.
I know how you feel, back in highschool most days I'd come home, look in the mirror and cry. One thing that helped me was I tried to look my best and there was nothing else that I could do. However I look, this is who I am.
I agree with Deadman, if you think of yourself as ugly that's what you'll see. I've noticed this myself. I'm sure you're not ugly in any way. There must be a guy who will like you for who you are.
Welcome to the forum btw. :)
 

Daniel089

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Hello and welcome to the forum!
You are the same age as me. I thought I was ugly too back then, but I realized that isn't the real problem, I had some other issues that didn't allow me to get friends.
Even you were may mocked back then, you are a grown up person now and you should realize there is nothing wrong with your face, it's just your confidence that needs some boost.
You seem like a smart girl, and I find it sad that I barely meet girls like that today. You must have an unique personality too. What I'm trying to say is: you have to accept yourself first, even if it's the hardest part. Even your a girl and have hundreds of times more emotions than a guy which is normal, you should not listen to people who are negative on you.
 

Ashiene

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I find comfort in wearing latex masks of different characters, like monsters or creatures or fantasy characters. It helps me be someone else. Maybe you can try too.
 

dyingtolive

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hi i know how u feel..and dont know if i can even give good advice becoz im not successful either.. but i know how it feels to lose your passion for life, optimism, enthusiasm, to wake up day in and day out thinking nothing will ever change and lose hope and feel ugly.

i still have trouble accepting myself. I once was able to years ago and i dont know how i did it, but i hope to again. we are only human not perfect i guess, and we all have good things in us and we all have imperfections, and some people are luckier than others, but some also have it harder than us. I know its easy to say.

One thing that helped me b4 was turn that pain into compassion and understanding, for myself and for others who i know face the same situation.. i would try to stop focusing on myself and imagine feeling the pain of others and know that many people are suffering in the world and that if im strong, i am not only strong for myself but for the others as well. i wish i could still do this but the past couple of years have been challenging for me as well so i lost a lot of my peace of mind but that really helped me, as radical as it may sound.

As mentioned above, personality is a big deal and if you have a beautiful personality it will far outshine a beautiful face. It is difficult though and i envy and admire the people who see through their own imperfections. But it is possible.

Focusing on what you love, on the things about you that you find beautiful, you can maintain your enthusiasm too. Health is beautiful too, what we do is also beautiful, so if we are doing the things we love, taking care of ourselves, we can maybe find beauty.

Some people can also translate their suffering into art, expression, if you can find an outlet to unleash the pain. I also wish to do more of that and i wish to find strength in that and i wish u find strength as well and see the beauty in you, both outside and inside.
 
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