Alcohol saved my life

[vancouver24]

okay seriously i never thought i'd say this but now whenever i need to go to a party, i have a drink at home and im so happy and talkative at the parties....i had a great time yesterday at this place i went to!.. i can easily go out and do my things without getting nervous..my only problem was going to parties and meeting new people..but now when ever i need to..i just have a drink and im all set! i feel like i solved my problem............im not alcoholic i hate the taste or alcohol... i force it down.. and btw i only go to parties and stuff every few months...so i only have a drink every few months... what you guys think? my friend who was a model used to do the same, she used to have a drink before going to a show,,and im pretty sure she didnt have SA..

 

[userremoved]

A little drink every once in a while wont hurt anything. Just don't become dependent though.

 

[CosmicNeurotica]

^
well I can certainly relate to that. Only I still drink. My life sucks with or without it, so that's how that goes.

Here's to alcohol: the cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems. -Homer Simpson

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/562272/david_hasselhoff_drunk/

 

[Arthur_Dent]

As you keep it moderated as you say, good for you.

A couple times I've been drunk like a fish, and it didn't had any effect on my personality wahtsoever. Shy as usual.

The only drink which I don't dislike its taste is beer, but I'll rather spend my money on books.

 

[CosmicNeurotica]

^ Do you ever get panic attacks the morning after drinking? It's the "OMG, what the hell have I done!" feeling. Well, that's what happens to me, except it's magnified. A panic attack that lasts all day is not fun. Between that and getting in trouble with the law I got the kick in the ass I needed. Oh and I've had plenty of Hasselhoff moments.

My best and worst times have happened while drinking.

No, can't say I get panic attacks the morning after. In fact besides feeling a little brain dead, needing to piss and drink water, I'm fine.
I mostly drink alone though nowadays. I'll still go to a bar and drink with people or to a park/get together (mostly family),
but at a time about 6 years ago I would get drunk alone and then walk to the bar and that was an absolute nightmare for me. I just acted a fool and so desperate. A couple of times I'd go home with or walk with random strangers. I knocked on peoples apt doors and who knows what I did. I was supposed to be arrested once for public intox and disturbing the peace, but the cops just laughed at me and sent me to the hospital instead. Had to walk home the next morning from the hospital about 10 miles, sick and throwing up.
So yeah, I drink alone and don't go out these days lol. I'll be ok if I'm with someone I know drinking, but keep me off the streets if I'm drinking alone.

 

[funkyy]

i turned very violent once when i drank too fast, kept wanting to self harm .. and was sent through ambulance to A&E to the psychiatric ward.
i know i made a fool of myself many times when i drank. it was very embarrassing.

 

[funkyy]

Alcohol saved my life and screwed up my life.

I used to drink to be comfortable around people...then I became a full blown alcoholic. It got to the point that I would start drinking at 8 AM, drink at work, drink on my lunch break, drink on the way home....you get the idea. After doing enough things to screw up my life I stopped drinking heavily 6-7 years ago. Ironically enough, that is also the same time that I stopped dating. It seems drinking is what allowed me to be with the opposite sex and not be socially awkward.

If I were to start dating again, I'm sure drinking would not be far behind.

dont u worry how people look at you if they know you drink during work? wont you get tipsy? i just wonder..because i wont dare to drink during work

 

[funkyy]

if alcohol is the only solution to ease anxiety..i guess i shall just use it to deal with my everyday life..whats the point of staying healthy when anxiety is limiting us.

 

[Nanita]

I can understand how alcohol helps.. it does for me too. I drink sometimes, when I´m going out, but I don´t drink if I´m just going to a casual sober thing.

Never become a person that can´t handle feeling true feelings!

My father who was an actor & theatre director, became an alcoholic, because he began drinking when he was stressed about performing/self criticism.
Then it became everyday... He drank everyday because he couldn´t handle himself, his surroundings, etcetera.

 

[Thelema]

A pint of beer everyday is actually good for you in prevention of some diseases.

Noooo. Alcohol every day is definetly not good for you. Once a week is more like it.

 

[sahxox]

Each to their own, but I really try to avoid using alcohol as a temporary relief to my sp - it can be a very dangerous trap.
But if you're only having 1 or 2 before parties (not getting completely wasted on a regular basis) and this helps, I don't see a problem. Alot of extroverts I know would be taking shots pre-party, so this sounds mild. If it makes you happy, go for it.

 

[Falkor]

Yeah don't use it too much, then it's fine

 

[MotherWolff]

Drinking alcohol is definitely NOT a solution for SA. You should want to get rid of it permanently. Alcohol is just a temporary fix. It covers up the SA. I don't think that drinking this stuff is good at all. I say that because I see the damage its done to my mother.

 

[OceanMist]

Haha, well if the alcohol covers up the SA, then it is a solution.

Whether it will be effective or not depends on the individual.

If you are mean alcohol drinker, it could go pretty badly. If you are a nice drinker, alcohol can be the best thing in the world for a shy person.

It's a sensitive topic because so many people misuse it and drive drunk. The amount of responsible drinkers is a minority, unfortunately.

I've had some success socially with alcohol, but most of the time it really didn't help me that much. I was known as the quiet guy whether I was drunk or not.

 

[vj288]

Alcohol can be an aid as well as an enabler, depending on how you use it. If you use it just as an ends, meaning that you decide you cannot function socially without it and plan on using it as a self-medicated cure then it will only make the problem worse, covering up the SA and making life much more difficult when you aren't drinking. Unless you plan on being drunk all the time, that mentality won't help in my opinion.

I think it can be beneficial if used as a sort of handicap instead, being used to help you toward your overall goal as opposed to the solution itself. Alcohol can sometimes help to make that first step, or get your foot in the door for some things. Or maybe to help you see that you can do things, or get experience with things that at first would be to hard without alcohol, but over time you could do without it. In short it should be there to help you do things, not to do them for you.

It would be even better to just do things without it, but a lot of us need a little help, and this is one way we can be helped.