I used to be HORRIFIED to speak to women, even though i grew up with 2 sisters and was raised by my mom most of my life. Well see, i had to deal with all of their bitching and PMS, and i was a shy kid and it only seemed like to me that when i would talk to them, they would PMS and yell and scream and complain, hence the fear of women began.
I thought of women as my enemy, i knew i had to find a mate in life sometime to start a family, but their was no way i wanted to deal with them so i avoided them for a long time, pretty much up until I was in 8th grade, and off and on in highshool I was still araid of them. I didnt really get over my fear of women until i seen that they arent that big of a threat to me.
My friends and i were daring, excitable and dangerous kids in my highschool years, (behind the scenes) so my friends were the girl crazy guys, they almost always had girls around them and they always flirted with every and any girl, even if she wasnt attractive, that was just their personality.
Years of being friends with these guys eventually rubbed off on me and I copyed them and learned how to be playful with girls and i got over the fear of women being complete you know whats all the time. I also realized that if you said the wrong words to a girl, you can easily piss her off... lol.
You would be surprised what you could say to a girl and not actually offend her, its not really what you say that matters, but how you say it. In my early days of copying my friends flirting skills, i noticed my responses just gave me blank stares and weird looks, becuase i wasnt delivering my playfulness with enough energy, or the wrong tone, or i was too serious and i didnt even realize it.
So trial and error eventually made me very comfortable around woman to the point where i could just talk to them in a serious conversation, or i could playfully tease them, or i could talk about mindless things like celeberates, dreams, and other miscelleneous information. I got to the point where i would walk up to any girl that looked intresting and i could confront her and get a giggle out of her, or just introduce myself and tell her she looks like an interesting person to talk to.
Hmm but then i got involved with marijauna and lost alot of my memory, which im slowly getting back, so recently i havent been out there on the dating scene, but you can bet your momma's betty crocket apron i will be once i get my life straghtened out again :lol: .
To all your guys out there, women may be intimidating to look at, but most of them are just as afraid of you as you are of them, and once u realize that women arent out there to turn you down, and that they are more fun to talk to then you think they are, you will progress in meeting girls and getting better at holding conversations... and most of the time girls dont really care what you talk about, they just like the attention.