So there's this girl. I knew she was shy when we first met, but the level of shyness only became clear over time. She used the term Social Phobia to describe herself, which is why I'm here seeking insight from all of you.
We've been dating... kind of... for four months now. She's more comfortable on the phone than in person, so things have been progressing more rapidly in that realm than in the physical world. We talk daily for hours, becoming quite connected intellectually and spiritually, but in person even the offer of an innocent hug had her cowering. She's brilliant, warm and kind... frankly I adore her... so I've been practising patience.
Recently things suddenly changed. We took a big leap forward in physical contact, charging over several hurdles at once. It was great, I think, for both of us and we basked in it for a couple days.
Now, though, I think she's trying to push me away. Our calls have become less frequent and cooler when they happen.
Should I follow her lead, give her some space? Or should I keep in pursuit, let her know she's still in my thoughts? If she feels things moved too fast, I'm OK with waiting until she's comfortable again. I just care a lot and don't want to lose her over something that I think we both enjoyed.
Any insight?
We've been dating... kind of... for four months now. She's more comfortable on the phone than in person, so things have been progressing more rapidly in that realm than in the physical world. We talk daily for hours, becoming quite connected intellectually and spiritually, but in person even the offer of an innocent hug had her cowering. She's brilliant, warm and kind... frankly I adore her... so I've been practising patience.
Recently things suddenly changed. We took a big leap forward in physical contact, charging over several hurdles at once. It was great, I think, for both of us and we basked in it for a couple days.
Now, though, I think she's trying to push me away. Our calls have become less frequent and cooler when they happen.
Should I follow her lead, give her some space? Or should I keep in pursuit, let her know she's still in my thoughts? If she feels things moved too fast, I'm OK with waiting until she's comfortable again. I just care a lot and don't want to lose her over something that I think we both enjoyed.
Any insight?