Adulthood

Subpop

Subpop

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People develop routine and routine shapes people's lives, it is a kind of love/hate relationship, one that is necessary but can become overwhelming . I frequently imagine what it would be like to buy a plane ticket , pack a backpack, and embark on a life on the road and just keep travelling. I have met people whilst I was overseas who have done exactly this and travelled for 5+ years, only stopping to work and earn enough money to keep on travelling. They had next to nothing in a material sense but possessed an unfathomable wealth of life experience and sense of themselves. To me that takes incredible courage and mindfulness....to live in the moment and not 'worry' about the future, kind of like being very young again. This is the reason why I want to live overseas next year, to break routine.
 
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Flanscho

Flanscho

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It seems to me that you see what you want to see. You have certain prejudices regarding adulthood, and, subconsciously or on purpose I don't know, try to see your surroundings behave like that. Which is pretty unfair regarding those people.
It's as if I'd have prejudices regarding teenagers, and give you absolutely zero chance to prove me wrong.
 
Lea

Lea

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Subpop said:
People develop routine and routine shapes people's lives, it is a kind of love/hate relationship, one that is necessary but can become overwhelming . I frequently imagine what it would be like to buy a plane ticket , pack a backpack, and embark on a life on the road and just keep travelling. I have met people whilst I was overseas who have done exactly this and travelled for 5+ years, only stopping to work and earn enough money to keep on travelling. They had next to nothing in a material sense but possessed an unfathomable wealth of life experience and sense of themselves. To me that takes incredible courage and mindfulness....to live in the moment and not 'worry' about the future, kind of like being very young again. This is the reason why I want to live overseas next year, to break routine.
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Well good luck, hope you don´t get bad disilussionments. This lifestyle is for extraverts, otherwise it´s extremely hard and unsuccesful. Moreover people are shit everywhere you go, they only seek how to take advantage of others, there is definitely nothing handed on a silver plate and I guess only extraverts and sociable people can pull up living the romantic dream of working travellers, like hippies.
 
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jc972

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I like certain aspects of being an adult, the rest of it - the bills, the worries, the day to day crap sucks. I tell my children to sit back and enjoy being kids. We watch cartoons and kid movies together and they even got me coloring pictures. I forgot how fun that can be. As I'm sure most children are, mine constantly ask questions and I always answer them as best I can, albeit on a level they understand. But unlike some of my daughter's friends, I will not allow her to have a cell phone. She's six! I just don't understand some parents. But I agree with you, just because you're legally an adult don't mean you can't have fun.
 
Bronson99

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jc972 said:
I like certain aspects of being an adult, the rest of it - the bills, the worries, the day to day crap sucks. I tell my children to sit back and enjoy being kids. We watch cartoons and kid movies together and they even got me coloring pictures. I forgot how fun that can be. As I'm sure most children are, mine constantly ask questions and I always answer them as best I can, albeit on a level they understand. But unlike some of my daughter's friends, I will not allow her to have a cell phone. She's six! I just don't understand some parents. But I agree with you, just because you're legally an adult don't mean you can't have fun.
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And the other thing... video games (especially those that deal with mature themes) are not toys. Even if you're in your 30s or even your 40s and playing video games, you're not fiddling with a toy. Video games have become a complex art form much like movies, where it often takes millions of dollars and serious labor from talented people to create them, weaving storylines like novelists and creating brilliant environments like designers.

So if TV and movies are "toys", then I would say you can call video games "toys." But only then. And then it would prove that the vast majority adults play with toys, and pretty often at that.
 
Rogue

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sometimes i feel like adulthood is just the fading of curiosity, creativity, and vulnerability. When i grow up I want to be a kid.
 
theslowesthand

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I also cringe when i see adults hush a child who is trying to express themselves verbally in a group...we cant dare interrupt the important adult conversation now can we
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Nor can we allow the child to express themselves or their feelings, due to think to possibly never being allowed to do so as we were children.

I also fantacise about alien invasion .. so that (hopefully) they could "take me away" from this horrible, dead existence i'm stuck in for eternity it seems.
 
theslowesthand

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Agent_Violet said:
Personally I love being an adult. I absolutely adore being out of my teens and twenties! Being 31 is the most liberating age thus far
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Oh no .. its "Agent Positively-Optimistic" again! ::p:. AV, you too positive & upbeat for this forum! lol (nah, just just kidding) :)

But personally, my 20s were really bad (start of depression & alcoholism). Early-mid 30s were a temporary reprieve, in which i felt i were actually improving. But late from 30s to early 40s (now) the sh*t has REALLY hit the fan, even more so than my "terrible 20s". At this rate i'll be lucky to make it past 2014 or 15 (or 13 tbh) alive! (yes, life is that bad now; but maybe it's just another major crises, which has lasted for past 2-3 years .. and it's severity is higher than ever before)
 
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theslowesthand

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Agent_Violet said:
I'm looking forward to all of it:) Each age has something fabulous to embrace. Even when you're old and wrinkled and feeble ...you can do crazy sh*t then blame it on senility ;)
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That's entirely dependent on the individual, as to whether each "age" is good or bad. There's the possibility for either. Of course being healthy, vibrant, positive, joyous, etc is for sure the preferable option ... but for some (or many?) people they just can't seem to manage to get to that state of living :sad:
 
theslowesthand

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Hellhound said:
I was thinking about grown people. I remembered some days ago, when I went to the cafeteria, I watched them, I often do. They sit there, watch the football channel, have beers, have a straight face, toy with their phones, talk to their table buddies...

They all behave in a way I can't really describe, I can't find the wording. I can only say it's an atmosphere that feels... dull, boring, robotic. A drawing would help me describe it better, but I haven't found any accurate image.

I go there almost everyday, I see different people but the atmosphere never changes. It's the same feeling in the streets as well.

There's not a single person who doesn't drink alcohol in there. No, they don't get drunk, nor I hate them, but it's always alcohol or coffee. Mostly alcohol, beer to be specific. When a family reunites, the parents drink alcohol while kids drink coke
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My take on it, is that when one becomes "adult", all the pressures/etc start to take their toll at some point. So they take drugs/stimulants to handle that high stress, which is ever-present. And these drugs/stimulants further exacerbate things, so that it dulls their minds, so then they can only talk of ultra-simple stuff (ie with ~zero real thinking involved). But even before these chemicals, their minds are burnt-out. so whenever they can, they try to "chill-out" (have a break from the constant stress), which means no serious, interesting conversation, just easy, no-stress, non-left-brain, most feel-good (to them) conversation.
And drugs/chemicals & junk foods & stress & overworked/unhealthy lifestyle, seriously reduces ones creativity, passion, enthusiasm, etc ... and means they talk more of fairly extremist stuff, as that's all that stimulates/soothes them - stuff like partying, sex, drugs, sports ... and other stuff that involves very little thinking (they can just blurt it out without thinking at all; =small-talk?)
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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The later stages of hood. Oldhood. Ancienthood. Geriatrichood.
 
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