21 and basically a loser

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Vangelis

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Title says it all. I'm 21 have no friends, I'm fairly unattractive, I have no social skills, I've never worked a day in my life (infact I reject any interviews due to fear and if I do go to them I fail because im too nervous), I flunked out of community college remedial classes, and i'm still living at home without a license.

Nobody knows I have a social anxiety, I just lie and say I'm a lazy and unmotivated. I have zero goals in life aside from playing vidya games, looking up porn and being on the internet. I've had girlfriends but never gotten all the way and most of them were online. The furthest I got was web cam sex with a girl I met on an MMo who lived in the same state as me. We were planning to meet up too...but I couldn't handle it when push came to shove and all the lies I told her started coming too.

I wanna change but can't. I like living in my ubble because I know it's too late to change. All my former friends from HS are now graduating College some are married and most are happy and successful. But not me. I'm 21 havent even finished a semester, have zero friends or social life, and rotting away getting fatter each day in my room.

I would have killed myself but I'm too much of a failure to do so. I can't bring myself to do it.

I want to change but i don't know how.
 
PurpleOne

PurpleOne

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Vangelis said:
Title says it all. I'm 21 have no friends, I'm fairly unattractive, I have no social skills, I've never worked a day in my life (infact I reject any interviews due to fear and if I do go to them I fail because im too nervous), I flunked out of community college remedial classes, and i'm still living at home without a license.

Nobody knows I have a social anxiety, I just lie and say I'm a lazy and unmotivated. I have zero goals in life aside from playing vidya games, looking up porn and being on the internet. I've had girlfriends but never gotten all the way and most of them were online. The furthest I got was web cam sex with a girl I met on an MMo who lived in the same state as me. We were planning to meet up too...but I couldn't handle it when push came to shove and all the lies I told her started coming too.

I wanna change but can't. I like living in my ubble because I know it's too late to change. All my former friends from HS are now graduating College some are married and most are happy and successful. But not me. I'm 21 havent even finished a semester, have zero friends or social life, and rotting away getting fatter each day in my room.

I would have killed myself but I'm too much of a failure to do so. I can't bring myself to do it.

I want to change but i don't know how.
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:eek: oh my god we have a lot in common except i am a female and i didn't have a job before. Oh yeah i don't look at porn also. But really, oh my god!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:eek:
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Try an interview, the four three interviewees I went to asked if i was nervous and went terribly. The first I started tearing up which was not good. On the form I said I was "outgoing" even though i'm not. It doesn't get easier exactly but if you happen to get an interview on a day you "feel good" there's a chance. :)
 
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AutonomousAutomaton

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I don't know if this is an option for you, but maybe someone can get you a job without an interview. Like maybe your uncle's office needs a file clerk or something. Making money might make you feel better about yourself. I don't really know though.
 
lunaticbinge

lunaticbinge

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This is my life, almost word for word, only one year older. I can say I relate but can't offer any words of advice since i'm still trying to figure out what the hell to do.
 
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Interzone

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I'm 19 and a loser. Just gotta keep on waiting for better days, even if not knowing when better days will come is the hardest thing in the world. Things will get better eventually.
 
Blaze

Blaze

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I am 20, 7 months until I am 21. I share your woes with the exception of having a job/license. That's something I was forced into, otherwise I would have gotten kicked out of my parents house right when I was 18.

I have the same conundrum where I observe all the people I used to know, and envy their successes. Some already are married, have children, and are graduating college all while I work the same **** job and sit on my ass all day.
 
awkwardamanda

awkwardamanda

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I'm 25 and I feel like a loser. Not very close with the couple of friends I have. Shatty retail job. No motivation to go through the hell of finding something better, despite having a university degree. Well, no motivation to do much of anything. Bum around on the comp all day. Meh.
 
Sammie_Kay

Sammie_Kay

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YOU ARE NOT A LOSER!
We have so much in common.
I am also 21 and never had a job, hardly any friends.
I have very little social skills, still at home and no license.
It sucks I know. No one knows I have social anxitey either, im sure it comes off as im lazy.
My mom sure makes me feel that way. I know how you feel. You can change. It just takes a while.
If you can do small things everyday then it will start getting easier.
Like just going out side and talk and get to know the people who live around you.
 
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