So hard to take compliments

Bustn Justin

Bustn Justin

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Graeme1988 said:
I think it's because I tend to brush off most compliments I get, even geniune ones. I also have a tendency to question it - like what did I do deserve that compliment? Ya know what I mean? Then, on the other hand, I constantly put myself down - telling myself I'm not worthy of praise. But then that is my dark/depressive/self-loathing side.
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Yea I hate myself hard core and feel I deserve to be hated on. That is what alienation and bullying does.
 
Kat

Kat

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It’s hard I’m still like this from time to time and I’m a bit reluctant to give compliments because they may think I’m weird or I’ll embarrass them but when I do give them it’s genuine and part of me gets annoyed when people just fish for compliments not that that person doesn’t have anything valuable most good people do but I want it to be sincere not just them using me as some tool to stroke their ego. . Good things deserve to be appreciated there’s not enough and eventually if you allow it will sink in.
 
bcsr

bcsr

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I usually have a nagging little voice in my head that says "they're just being nice" also. It's hard to accept a compliment as genuine usually.
 
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Agent_Violet

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psych said:
I learned to simply say thank you when I get a compliment.
People are giving you something nice, whether the compliment is true or not... They are telling you that to be nice &/or make you feel good, so I just accept it. :)
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE this comment!!!

:) So simple.So true.
 
lonely_drummer

lonely_drummer

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i think why i can't accept compliments is because my parents never really complimented me while growing up. No matter how I did at something, there was always room for improvement from their eyes. So now, when someone compliments me, I usually just think its them trying to be nice, which is nice but in all reality, they're just words to me
 
XxXWhiteRoseXxX

XxXWhiteRoseXxX

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Agent_Violet said:
I blush lol

i don't know why but i feel put on the spot when someone goes out of their way to thank me or compliment me. even if I deserve the gratitude.

I get SO redfaced when someone pays attention to me. it's super awkward.
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I get really shy whenever someone thanks me or compliments me in any way & i blush like crazy ::eek::
 
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laure15

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I have trouble accepting praise because it makes me feel embarrassed for some reason. When someone compliments me, I often blush and say, "Oh, it's nothing" and try to shrug it off. It's probably because when someone compliments me, they shine the spotlight on me and I try to avoid being the center of attention whenever possible. Moreover, I was raised to be modest so acting cocky and holier-than-thou is frowned upon.
 
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