so hard to just 'get going'...

its pathetic, i had the day off today so that was a plus..i got up at 8 am, surfed the net for a few hours..started feeling lazy and tired so i take a short nap..wake up an hour later, eat and surf the net some more..then i grab every ounce of motivation i have and go for a quick run for 30 minutes..i feel better ans shower and watch some tv, get restless so i surf the net..im getting restless but i have nothing to do, no reason to even leave the house..no real friends to see, i have some buddies i guess but no reason to go visit them..i surf the net some more, its 5 pm and i take a hot shower again, this makes me feel good enough to go to the store..thing is, i have nothing to buy, im just going to kill time..i walk up and down the rows just blank, somewhat anxious but its like i have an itch i cant scratch..i go to mcdonalds, go in and eat..waste as much time as possible and then go home..ive been surfing the net and watching tv for the past 3-4 hours..im not enjoying it, i just do it to pass the time until i go to sleep and wake up for work..

this is my life when i dont have to work or have something planned(which is rare).anymore these days i have no good reason to even leave the house..im not sure what im doing anymore, not much purpose to my day to day life other than to sustain it.

try a nols class and train for it.... or get a pet.... or both

sounds like me plus searching for a job :/

i have 2 dogs and a lizard.i just have the absolute worst time in motivating myself.its literally like i need speed just to get going.

I know exactly how you feel, bsammy. Motivation seems to be in low supply.

That's exactly how I feel almost every day!!

the problem is also, its not only motivation, its also 'pep' and enthusiasm..its a struggle to find the motivation, and then i have to somehow force my way thru whatever activity it is.if im around people i have to fake happiness or enthusiasm for whatever im doing..i rarely ever truly feel enthused to be doing things..all this ends up with me feeling exhausted and drained and wondering 'why am i doing this again?'...'whats the point?' comes to mind very often..

Basicly like everyday I have off too, except I still live with my Mom, so she gets a fire under my butt sometimes, beginning to fear days off cause they are kinda depressing.

^yes, it is depressing to just waste away off days but i simply cannot just work 7 days a week either.5 days and im taxed from that.but yes every off day starts the same with me just unable to find the sparkplug that will get my day started.

bsammy said:

^yes, it is depressing to just waste away off days but i simply cannot just work 7 days a week either.

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No-one can, and I think it's against the law, anyway (at least in Australia). However, earlier this year I did work 29 straight days and that was mentally and physically draining. You've got to have days off where you don't think of work, just so you can recoup and recover.

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but yes every off day starts the same with me just unable to find the sparkplug that will get my day started.

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some days i do absolutely nothing. i mean i move around the house, watch some tv, eat, look online for nothing very interesting usually, but nothing is accomplished.

i just hope that maybe the next day something will get done.

i, too, feel the need for speed (not possible), or energy drinks/pills (those never work for me anyway). coffee sure doesn't help - are there people out there who actually get energy from drinking coffee?

believing you are worthless and not good enough is the pure reason for procrastination (procrastination being the symptom) and laziness (Ive been there and used to do the exact same as you day in and day out)

PM to bmsammy: plesae can u make room for more PMs, as your inbox is full

This is how:
1) Go to your messages (via spw's email if that your way)
2) Tick all message that want to delete (or save to pc)
3) Bottom .. "Selected Messages" --> click "Move to folder" drop-down menu --> select "Delete" or "Download as TXT" --> "Go"
* with PMs, i just backup to pc the "2 weeks ago" PMs (& go into "Jump to Folder:" --> "Sent Items..." & do same for them)
* If "Download as TXT", then have to go: Alt-f .. Save As, to save it as a file somewhere
* I normally do this when top/right of spw screen say "Your PM box is ~90% full"

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some days i do absolutely nothing. i mean i move around the house, watch some tv, eat, look online for nothing very interesting usually, but nothing is accomplished.

i just hope that maybe the next day something will get done.

i, too, feel the need for speed (not possible), or energy drinks/pills (those never work for me anyway). coffee sure doesn't help - are there people out there who actually get energy from drinking coffee?

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I think coffee is sometimes handy to snap out of that "morning blurriness" I experience. But yeah, just sitting around and waiting for the coffee to work doesn't help. You keep drinking more and more, and it will become a vicious circle as I've experienced. You must snap out of your inaction yourself, without having to rely on caffeine. Go for a walk outside the house, go running, enough healthy sleep will also give you a lot of natural energy, as well as exercise. It doesn't help to keep focussing inwards and dwelling on negativity and in turn trying to escape those feelings by procrastinating and watching TV etc. Wanting to do too much at once certainly doesn't help either.

Try setting up a positive working environment, play some music if it helps you, and work in little steps towards your goals. Acknowledging you are working towards your goals, gives a lot of satisfaction and you will enter a nice flow of positivity and productivity.

well it's winter where i am now, so people hunker down (except for the winter sports fanatics, & i wouldn't even pretend to be in that group). obviously i can be w/o energy even in the warmer months tho.

i've found i can't really force myself to do stuff i don't want to. maybe it's cuz i had too much of that as a kid (forced to do stuff i hated), so for the rest of my life i'm rebelling.

I think u started great....wake up at 8am on a free day is not everyone...u may just got a bit lazy to be surfing on the net...i make that mistake a lot...and then normally i just take a nap for a few more hours...and the days i already on half...try to invert your daily schedule, go for a bath, run and shop...and just after that go to web! make a provation for the morning if u think it can helps u!

Bsammy -
that is my life every day. I got laid off in '08 from a good job that kept me busy and my SA under control. Now, I have had to move in with a relative, take care of their son (3 yr old) and I re-enrolled in college to finish my degree. But since being out of work, I am very restless, I am tired, yet a terrible insomniac at the same time, I run around the house all day with the toddler, but that still does not satiate my restlessness. Just after I lost my job, I was endless searching for work, temp work, part time - anything, and I got a couple bites but at that time it was just either temp or VERY part time work. That soon ran out and now at my age, I feel like a failure, feel depressed, sad, lonely, lost most of my friends, menopause doesn't help either, yay!

Lately I find myself coming here to the boards and reading and sometimes posting but I do find some comfort in it. I think i my case, and perhaps yours is that maybe you need to try to get a hobby (obviously having to figure in the SA thing) or a meet up group for SA may help?

take care of yourself!

This is exactly why Sodini went nuts. In his video he spoke about this. You can find all the hobbies in the world, but nothing substitutes for personal relationships in real life. If you don't have any friends or a g/f that you regularly hang out with, you can't possibly find true happiness.

Excitement and entertainment comes from other people, even for people who don't like people. I often feel empty, bored and alone so I know exactly what you felt today. The reason why is because I have no friends or g/f that I consistently hang out with. You have to have positive personal relationships or life will be a struggle and painful. It is for me. That's why I've been trying to meet people, or at least trying to try to meet people.

^i have hobbies that fill my time but it all feels hollow and repetitious.i just seem to be missing the 'motivation' gene.even on days when i have stuff i have to do(non work stuff) just getting in the gear to do it takes alot of effort.

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^i have hobbies that fill my time but it all feels hollow and repetitious.i just seem to be missing the 'motivation' gene.even on days when i have stuff i have to do(non work stuff) just getting in the gear to do it takes alot of effort.

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Exactly. It feels hollow and repetitious because these hobbies don't consist of hanging out with real live people. Look around at people that seem happy. People that smile or laugh when you pass them. They are always with someone, whether it be a friend or spouse or whatever.

You don't lack motivation. You are just like me, you don't have enough connection with people so it has left you feeling empty inside. People fill that emptiness when they are connected with on a personal level.

That's the problem with people like me on here, it's so difficult to connect with people and get people to hang out with successfully.

Whether we like it or not (I don't like it), we as humans are programmed to find happiness in other people.