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After two years of sharing an apartment with my brother, I’ve decided I should get my own place. Although improving our relationship was good, I know this is the next step for me to take. What I’m unsure about in taking this next step is whether to rent an apartment or to rent the room of a...

I'm attending the wedding of my friend who I grew up with. The wedding is to take place this Saturday and, as one on this website might expect, I'm feeling extremely apprehensive about it. My apprehension went up tenfold today because I discovered that it will be a 6-hour event minimum...

I can do normal everyday things like go to the grocery store and have a job. However, I still feel anxious around people a lot of the time. For example, when I get to the checkout I feel anxious just being around the cashier. And, at my jobs, I tend to feel extremely anxious interacting with not...

I hear people there are more reserved and shy. I don't know how true this is. It seems anywhere you go in the world, you have your mix of people, but I guess this is some cultural thing. Do you think you'd feel more comfortable there in society and fit in better?

I'm thinking about leaving my job because I've had some bad social problems working there. Some people there view me as an *******, some weird, and some probably just unconfident. One guy even wanted to assault me. He said "I'll kick your ***" in a non-joking way. I didn't say anything mean to...

I have been thinking about starting my own business because I'm tired of working for other people and making them richer as I do the grunt work. I want to do something I enjoy. No, something I LOVE. I know I love to use my creative energy to create something that others can enjoy. So, I have...

Anyone else notice that they get more compliments because they're shy or display SA? See, even at the job I work at, I got compliments from people like "You're awesome" and "You're beautiful" or "You're so nice." My belief is that I'm getting these because I don't talk much and have been so shy...

We all have physical imperfections. That's true. For some of us though, they seem too 'imperfect' or noticeable to the point where it affects our confidence. I am one of these people. My ears stick out a lot. It's not like crazy a lot, but it's definitely a lot. Every time I look in the mirror I...

Before I tell you about this experience I had when I was 15-years-old, I want you to know that it is 100% true. I am not making anything up. You have my word; I don't lie. I just want to make that clear because some of you may think that this sounds too impossible to be true. Also, I'm not...

I think I saw a fact that said women say 4 - 6 thousand while men are only like 2-4. Do you think women tend to be better communicators, and this is why? Also, if below 2 thousand, do you think this lack of practice is what makes you more socially anxious/shy?

Many of us try to control our feelings of social anxiety to lessen them or make them go away. For example, if we're in a social situation, we might tell ourselves things to relax us. Is it better to try to control them like this, or to let them ride out freely - to sort of just accept what...

Like many of you I'm sure, I've become very frustrated over SA and shyness. Every single day, I feel that I fail when it comes to socializing and connecting with others around me. Many times I just feel socially retarded not knowing how to start conversations, keep them going, or even how to...

A girl I work with invited me to her birthday gathering tonight at a bowling alley. I feel good about getting invited. It's a good opportunity since I have no friends. At the same time, I'm obviously very nervous. Other coworkers will be there and they all know me as very shy and maybe sometimes...

I'm sitting in class the other day and, as the teacher is talking to the class, I have ideas coming to mind about what I'd like to say in response to what my teacher is saying. In this class, the teacher is very open about allowing people to speak their minds whenever they want. It's very...

I think I've come up with an awesome plan to attack and defeat social anxiety. I've been thinking a lot about it and what causes it. I'm not an expert on the subject, but I believe it is a learned behavior that's caused by a number of factors. Also, socializing is a learned skill that we learn...

Hey guys, I came across a website that has a program designed to help you and I become more confident and care less about what others think. It's exposure therapy. Challenges, which progressively get more challenging, are aimed at getting you to not care at all what others think. For example...

All of us on this site struggle with SA and most of us want to overcome it because it decreases your quality of life in a number of ways. I'm here to figure out how to overcome SA by discussing the topic with others. I'm not here to talk about anything else besides beating SA because doing so...

Most of us here have probably heard of self-affirmations. If not, they are positive statements you say about yourself over and over again, repeatedly, or ones that you listen to. For example, some are "I am intelligent", "I am confident", "I have much to offer the world", "People like me", "I...

Sometimes I have trouble letting go of the past. I made so many mistakes that got me to where I am today. Recent mistakes are especially hard to let go of. I know it's not good, and I know I should forget the past, but I still beat myself up sometimes over it. I think about what could've been if...

I'm taking acting classes starting January of next year. There's this school of theatre arts nearby that offers free classes so I thought why not give it a try. I've never shown an interest in acting and never actually tried it, but I'm open to any new experiences now. If anything it might help...