DanielLewis
Well-known member
Like many of you I'm sure, I've become very frustrated over SA and shyness. Every single day, I feel that I fail when it comes to socializing and connecting with others around me. Many times I just feel socially retarded not knowing how to start conversations, keep them going, or even how to respond to other people. It leaves me feeling angry with myself and frustrated every day because it sucks to live like this.
In order to compensate for feeling like a complete failure socially, I try to improve myself drastically in other areas of my life. In particular, I study, read, and workout a lot. I don't attend college, but I still study and practice mathematics and music in my free time just to try to get smarter and become more skilled. It does make me feel better and takes the focus more off of failing socially.
Do you also dedicate your time to working hard at something in order to compensate for social failure? Do you sometimes think "Oh, if I become really good at this, or I achieve this, I will succeed socially in the future?" So, in the case of working out, do you think having a fit body will draw more people to you, and so that's part of the reason you do it?
In order to compensate for feeling like a complete failure socially, I try to improve myself drastically in other areas of my life. In particular, I study, read, and workout a lot. I don't attend college, but I still study and practice mathematics and music in my free time just to try to get smarter and become more skilled. It does make me feel better and takes the focus more off of failing socially.
Do you also dedicate your time to working hard at something in order to compensate for social failure? Do you sometimes think "Oh, if I become really good at this, or I achieve this, I will succeed socially in the future?" So, in the case of working out, do you think having a fit body will draw more people to you, and so that's part of the reason you do it?