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I notice a lot of guys struggling with anxiety over what to say. Awkward pauses in the conversation are a big fear. Well I'm here to tell you that it doesn't matter what you say: the actual content of your conversation is almost irrelevant. The words do not matter. What matters is how you say...

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I was considering typing a long post, but I decided to turn it into a simple question, because I'm genuinely interested in your answer. Excess stress can cause heart problems, a weakened immune system, a shorter life expectancy, and of course: emotional pain and psychological disorders...

I think a lot of people on this site are coming to the same conclusion and wording it differently: 3rd person => 1st person inside head => talkative state internal focus => external focus manual => autopilot state B => state A Previous threads on this topic: NewPoster111 on defeating the...

Have you ever noticed how, sometimes you're phenomenal at keeping a conversation going - you might even be surprised at the simplicity of it? Everything just flows effortlessly. It might not happen that often, but if you think back, it's happened at least once in your life, maybe long ago, as a...

*Edit: the purpose of this game is to really put yourself out there and feel some rejection, to realize that it's not a big deal to be rejected. You don't have to really mean it when you reject someone, it's just part of the game.* Social phobia is the fear of social rejection. Facing rejection...

The human mind is something that has always fascinated me. Our emotional circuitry is particularly amazing. It's interesting how a tragic event can remind you of a painful memory, which reminds you of another, and another. The memories are always stored there, in your file system of a brain...

Have you ever felt too anxious, depressed, lazy, or just FED UP to face a social situation? I know I have. So let's fill this thread with motivation to get out of the house. Post inspirational words, videos, audio, pics, links, or anything that motivates you to leave the house. And then any...

The thread was closed before I could explain some things, so here are my replies. Touching is normal. Attraction is normal. There's nothing out of the ordinary here. Uhh if a girl doesn't want to end up in bed with you, she won't. If she does end up in bed with you, that's because she's...

Ask any question about girls, I don't care how crude it is. This will be straightforward and to the point, I don't beat around the bush. I've studied psychology with a major focus on evolutionary psychology and abnormal psychology (particularly social anxiety and depression). I've studied...

LMAO :D All right, my son, I will bless you with my wisdom. :cool: If you've been talking to a girl for a while, and suddenly you want to start touching her, she's gonna deny access. The trick is to start touching her immediately, as soon as the conversation starts. That doesn't mean walk up...

Social anxiety cuts off external reality. It puts us in the state of "inside our head": our body is present, but it's like an empty shell. Our mind is somewhere waaaay deep inside our head. Our senses get dull - it's hard to see because everything is out of focus. It's hard to hear because...

Our beliefs are the root cause of social anxiety. Medication can dull the symptoms, but it's not a cure. Here's an example from another thread to illustrate my point. Problem: It feels like others see something in me that makes me less worthwhile than everyone else. Is this social anxiety or...

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*****EDIT - IMPORTANT: Look guys, the anxiety doesn't go away until we do something about it. Before you know it, 10 years can go by and nothing will have changed. I KNOW SAD ****ing sucks, trust me I know. It makes this shit 1000 times harder, but it CAN be done. This stuff opened my eyes to...

Small Mind and Big Mind Our minds are more powerful than we can imagine. We are choosing, moment by moment, what we focus on. As you read this sentence, your mind might be a million miles away, remembering the past or predicting the future, stop. "Stop" is an extremely powerful word used in...

The topic "who would you like to be" was in the social anxiety forum. I raised this point in that thread, but I have a feeling people will just continue posting who they'd like to be. So I'll repost it here because it's something I'm interested in. This notion of "being someone else" has always...

Looking back at my journey of overcoming social anxiety, I realize there is one simple thing that changed my life. Of course there were a lot of lifestyle changes I had to make, but this simple component really freed my mind: self talk. We all have an almost constant stream of thought...

Fear doesn't just happen for no reason. We become afraid when a thought flashes through our mind. Here's how our consciousness works to an extent: Belief. Deep down we have our core beliefs about reality. One belief might be "people are scary." Beliefs are the hardest to change because they're...

Is life beautiful enough as it is, or is the belief in an afterlife helpful to feel a sense of purpose? Is it beneficial to consider this life just a test - that the real fun begins after death? Is life less valuable if you believe you have all of eternity to exist? A thought-provoking...