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8 Keys to Instant Charm as a Woman | Attraction & Love for Women Found this link and realised that 'charm' encapsulates everything I'm missing with social anxiety. Too scared to talk because I feel I can't match the 'energy' of others, therefore I'll be rejected. It makes making connections...

Some people have kids, not realising they'll grow up one day lol Why do people plan out having babies, spend 10 years giving them story-book birthday parties, bed-time stories, helping at school, then decide that their role finishes when ****rty starts? It's like they lose interest in their...

My biggest insecurity is the fact that I don’t talk enough and am hard to get to know. The majority of people’s insecurities are based on physical appearance with weight being the main issue. Why is it socially acceptable (and something i have to put up with) for people to point out my...

Seriously, the title says it all. I think everyone is always assessing me anyway, and takes effort to be friendly and social, let alone when being judged! I've only been to one and I didn't speak lol so obviously a big fat fail. Got offered to go for another one as a Christmas Casual position at...

I cannot consistently perform in social situations; it takes so sooo much effort. I'm left with this feeling of apathy - it won't leave. It's like everybody hates me and is always out to get me, so I disengage. I'm working on it at the moment by smiling and trying to live in the moment, not in...

I show symptoms of anxiety, depression, sp, avoidant personality disorder, obsessive thoughts etc should I go see a psychologist or a clinical psychologist or what's the difference? Had a gut full after years of fighting on my own. I don't even know what my problem is, just incredibly unstable...

WOW... mixed messages from both of us. - Topic How this girl views this situation, is how I view every social situation... overthinking it, stressing, without the active involvement of the other person. 'Normal' people used this as a mocking example, and unfortunately I can relate, although I am...

I start a lot of threads, but oh well lol I can become very apathetic towards others, or I can get extremely anxious and chicken out of conversation efforts. My effort rate is about 50/50, which is awesome cos it used to be 0. Basically I'll give you a scenario. One of the people at work (I've...

I've learnt many strategies to help with my SP over the years but have trouble making myself make an effort to do such things. It's like I ditch myself and go on autopilot, resolved to a state as the 'lone wolf' who just goes with it. If people initiate effort with me, I usually pay it back and...

The lines are blurred regarding generalized social phobia - it seems so customised for everybody. I've just been reading about Avoidant Personality Disorder and think this is what I'm battling. I'm not sure if this is a type of social phobia? But this describes what I'm going through more than...

So I'm joining the Army... Don't know where I'll be posted, don't know what I want to do - whether it be logistics/planning, truck driving or the military police. Three weeks til final interviews, so I should have made a decision by then. I figure I'll have SP and the potential for depression in...

Ok so I guess the following is what I'd usually write in my diary... I'm scared of the people who I think are the best ones at work and I'd like to get to know the best. I don't want to stuff things up with them, which causes anxiety when they're near. I freeze - muscle tension and all. Even...

Hi After roughly 7 years of social phobia absolutely dictating my life, I've really been working on keeping the anxiety down in social situations. After a couple of years on and off of practise, I can proudly say I go to my new workplace feeling minimal levels of anxiety. I actually enjoy...

What is the point of living? "Born to blossom, bloom to perish" - too true. I spend my entire life waiting... waiting for next day of work, waiting for my shift to end, waiting for dinner, waiting to go to sleep etc. Not really doing anything meaningful... but then what is meaningful? o.O It...

Hey, So I find that if I'm feeling nervous, I tend to shut down and go all robotic. E.g. I can't think or walk with 100% fluidity like I would when relaxed. This can be during small talk, walking in the store, being infront of strangers etc. Which ofcourse leads to the old paranoia that everyone...

Hey guys, Just wondering if anyone has been in a similiar situation. Today I saw a co-worker I just met last week in public and didn't recognise her. I stared right through her as she waved kinda uncertainly at me. It was only after sitting across from her at the next table in the restarant did...

Hellooo One simple issue I have is saying goodbye to a room full of people. It is so awkward cos I'm not confident doing it I don't want to be rude and not say goodbye, but when I do, it comes across unconfident and weak... :/ Then this gets me down and the negative sp thoughts conjure -...

Hey guys, Just need to unload - came back from 2nd shift ever at a new workplace and everyone at home is asleep Basically I have trouble being myself - I become almost robotic and hypersensitive to my surroundings. The first shift I was proud of myself in not being like this - what I'd consider...

Hi I feel kinda isolated from most people, even some social phobia sufferers. I say this because it is almost like I have my 'normal self' and then my 'social phobic' self. I don't have multiple personalities, but for the sake of the metaphor, I believe this fits. i.e. naturally when I'm...

Hey guys just outta curiosity I was wondering what the general reaction to going out to nightclubs/bars or whatever is... especially dancing... my motto regarding this is "unless u look like a total douchebag on the floor, you look like a total douchebag." Totally suits the overbearing...