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  • Thank you, bro, for accepting my friendship request. I'm from Puerto Rico. Where are you from?
    Hey, thanks for the comment! I see you are into music - does that include drums? or do you just like the shiny cymbals :D
    Very true, and I know what you mean. I have a pretty bad case of body dysmorphia, but luckily and thankfully this site has a lot of really nice people who always help me feel better about myself and the way I look :)
    I think it's all about the mood you're in. (although I'm probably wrong).
    When I'm low there's literally nothing I can think of to talk about. And I get locked in thought cycles that I just can't escape - like you said I'll be thinking "I'm boring." "This is never going to get better etc". It's horrible - the lights are on but nobodys home so to speak.
    But I find when I'm not feeling low/depressed conversation comes to me much more naturally and it isn't as much of a struggle. I don't know whether you can relate to that?
    Also I was never that into sports and stuff like that and never went to bars. But I started getting into these things and I do find it can help you find stuff to talk about. I almost always have a conversation with my friend about football on the way to school. And I find reading the paper at the start of the day always helps!
    Yeah dude I'm like that - when I'm in a low mood I find it hard to even talk about stuff I am interested in! So I find when I'm like this I just give up the ghost and this means I won't beat myself up about not performing as well as I feel I should.
    however when I'm in a good mood I find it easier but still hard. I think that the goal is to search for the common ground by asking open ended questions. I studied a very social acquaintance of mine who I'd meet occasionally because she would always get me to converse and feel relatively at home with conversation... to some degree. She would always ask me the same old questions (very very open ended): You been out lately? Is there any new gigs on in the city? Hows your study going? and we'd often talk for quite a while (usually about music). So I think the key is to find common ground - but sometimes that can be very hard (especially for us). We just have to persist and push ourselves!
    I would try and push that comment a girl made out of your mind for good. Her opinion is not definitive. As human beings we are all naturally sociable - so were all good at talking to people. I just believe that for people like us there is a block there hindering that innate ability. It's something we have to work past - and I think getting past that block is different for different sufferers but I believe that we can all get past it if we just keep up hope. (sorry this post was too long originally XD)
    You have stolen the words from my mouth :p Sounds exactly like something I would say. Except I rarely avoid. I am so determined to get past this that I can not let myself. However it is such hard work dealing with lots of different social situations when your hands are shaking and you have got literally nothing to say. That's the part I have major trouble dealing with - is a blank mind when talking to people. It's weird. It's like a persons conversation does not spawn any thoughts in me and I can't contribute. Don't know whether you can relate to that?
    Hi, less anxious today, I don't come on here often either, just signed in and had a couple of messages. What will you study at college? xoxox
    Yes,Yorkshire through and through, well not really. I just happen to live here. People are nice. I'm in West Yorkshire, small village called Holmfirth where they filmed Last of the Summer Wine. Its a TV programme,dont know wheher you watched it :)
    Hi..how are you recluse?.. Sorrry for the very late reply.. as I Just saw your message today. Well Good to hear that you learned how to manage your social anxiety. I hope you also recover and learn to deal with your depression. I am not doing good also with socialising with friends and with others. I stumble alot while having a conversation and sometimes i can not think of a right word to say to people.. I go mute most of the time. So as u can say im not really recovered from Social anxiety but im ok with it. Depresion is always there for me. I hope things get well soon. bye..take care.
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