Recent content by Rainman

There is a herbal remedy called Kava Kava that comes from the Pacific Island, that particularly helps with anxiety and social anxiety. The following benefits are reported: A state of relaxation, without feeling drugged Muscle tenseness is less Peacefulness and contentment More sociable...

A work collegue of mine is really irritating me and making me cringe at everything he does or say. I feel I am not being fair to him through, that perhaps I am just jealous of him. He hasn't said anything wrong to me, but it's just his behaviour that really gets to me. He's what you could call...

It's almost as if another personality takes over. I've noticed when I talk to people now, I seem to say things in a way that it sounds too serious or arrogant. I laugh and giggle at pretty much everything and say things that I don't really want to say. I think, because I don't know how to hold...

You would think, that because we understand how difficult it is for us in social situations, we would be able to emphathise with other SPers and shy people in general. We can become good friends with each other and begin our own social circles. Funnily though, I don't think it works that way. I...

Has anyone tried any NLP? Has it been helpful?

First of all, I am going to rant/complain, something I try not to do, but I am going to make an exception right now. So anyway I have found that many a times I am the quiet one in group conversations... actually the invisible one. Once in a while thought, they actually talk to you and you...

I am not at all sporty. I was always chosen last at school for any sports, and besides, I myself did not show any interest in sports. I wonder what it would have been like if I had been sporty. I think I would have been a lot more energetic, than I am today. I would be enjoying life much more...

I don't literally mean fighting. I am referring to the fight or flea/flight response, that is when you are in a crisis situation, you either escape it or you stand and fight. In the case of SA or SP, most of us escape those situations that cause us these feelings and confine ourselves to a...

How often do you go out, who do you go with and how do you cope in social places, how do you feel, like pubs, clubs, parties etc? I myself go out rarely, so everytime I go into a busy pub, club or party, I feel like I am visiting from another word. It actually leaves me stunned and dazed to see...

Once in a while, you are in a conversation where you may elect an opinion or belief that is very different. For example, you may say you believe in UFO's, Aliens, Angels, psychic powers or may argue about conspiracies or religion/politics. Somethings, from experience, people do not usually take...

I was wondering, if anybody has taken a course in communcation skills or can share resources on improving communcation skills or tips/advise. I think lack of of interpersonal communcation skills is one of the main contributing factors to SA. I have often found, that I communicate much more...

Hi, I use to lurk on these boards a time ago, when I was jobless, house-bound. At the time, I could identify with all other SAers, but didn't really know how bad I was, or whether I suffered from SA at all or a case of lack of social skills and shyness. I did not go the psychotherapist route...