Rainman
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A work collegue of mine is really irritating me and making me cringe at everything he does or say. I feel I am not being fair to him through, that perhaps I am just jealous of him. He hasn't said anything wrong to me, but it's just his behaviour that really gets to me.
He's what you could call an alphamale archtype. He is the centre of attention, almost everybody likes him and allow him to take charge and he leads.
Why do I not like this guy, surely I want to be more like this archetype?
Here is why:
When he speaks, he speaks loud enough that everybody can hear him in the room. When his conversation partner is sitting right next to him.
When he talks to you, he talks to you as if he's your leader and is more adult than you.
When he walks, he walks fast and you can even hear his footsteps, which are almost as loud as he is.
When you are having a conversation with somebody, he can easily interrupt it or join it and suddenly it is about him.
When he sits, he takes up as much space as possible and sits down very aggressively.
He will walk around the room and start conversations with anybody he wants, no matter what they are doing.
Everything he does is important. He yawns and it's an event.
He practices social exclusion i.e., he has drawn away from you possible friends, because he wants to keep them to himself. You find people you talked to earlier, no longer talk to you, instead talk to him al the time.
Does this kind of person sound similar to you? Is this an example of a true confident person? Do you know similar people like this?
He's what you could call an alphamale archtype. He is the centre of attention, almost everybody likes him and allow him to take charge and he leads.
Why do I not like this guy, surely I want to be more like this archetype?
Here is why:
When he speaks, he speaks loud enough that everybody can hear him in the room. When his conversation partner is sitting right next to him.
When he talks to you, he talks to you as if he's your leader and is more adult than you.
When he walks, he walks fast and you can even hear his footsteps, which are almost as loud as he is.
When you are having a conversation with somebody, he can easily interrupt it or join it and suddenly it is about him.
When he sits, he takes up as much space as possible and sits down very aggressively.
He will walk around the room and start conversations with anybody he wants, no matter what they are doing.
Everything he does is important. He yawns and it's an event.
He practices social exclusion i.e., he has drawn away from you possible friends, because he wants to keep them to himself. You find people you talked to earlier, no longer talk to you, instead talk to him al the time.
Does this kind of person sound similar to you? Is this an example of a true confident person? Do you know similar people like this?