Rainman
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I was wondering, if anybody has taken a course in communcation skills or can share resources on improving communcation skills or tips/advise.
I think lack of of interpersonal communcation skills is one of the main contributing factors to SA. I have often found, that I communicate much more coherently and lucidly in writing(particularly on the net) than I do in person. Even then, it depends on the person.
It is quite evident that SA present many obstacles when talking to person, which are considerably less than on the net, some of those are:
* You have to actually speak and effective speaking is based on tone of voice, volume, pitch, something that is affected by anxiety.
* You are constantly getting feedback from your partner/s, through verbal and non verbal language, even while you are still speaking. I know, that I am acutely aware of every facial expression when talkin, and that tends to affect how I talk.
* You cannot really revise what you are saying, at least not like how you would on the net. On the net, you have more time to collect your thoughts and revise as you type, often articulating what you want to say more clearly. While in person, you have much lesser time to collect your thoughts and much lesser scope for revision.
It is probably normal for there to be such differences, because of the different medium of communcation, but in saying that, I think for those who can communicate well in general, can adopt any medium.
Sometimes, I am left in awe of how some people can talk. It sounds like something in the movies, or in books and I realise that we can actually communicate just as well in person, if only we learn and practice these skills.
Being able to communicate effectively in most situations, in various mediums, would lessen SA's hold on us considerably.
I think lack of of interpersonal communcation skills is one of the main contributing factors to SA. I have often found, that I communicate much more coherently and lucidly in writing(particularly on the net) than I do in person. Even then, it depends on the person.
It is quite evident that SA present many obstacles when talking to person, which are considerably less than on the net, some of those are:
* You have to actually speak and effective speaking is based on tone of voice, volume, pitch, something that is affected by anxiety.
* You are constantly getting feedback from your partner/s, through verbal and non verbal language, even while you are still speaking. I know, that I am acutely aware of every facial expression when talkin, and that tends to affect how I talk.
* You cannot really revise what you are saying, at least not like how you would on the net. On the net, you have more time to collect your thoughts and revise as you type, often articulating what you want to say more clearly. While in person, you have much lesser time to collect your thoughts and much lesser scope for revision.
It is probably normal for there to be such differences, because of the different medium of communcation, but in saying that, I think for those who can communicate well in general, can adopt any medium.
Sometimes, I am left in awe of how some people can talk. It sounds like something in the movies, or in books and I realise that we can actually communicate just as well in person, if only we learn and practice these skills.
Being able to communicate effectively in most situations, in various mediums, would lessen SA's hold on us considerably.