yeah its definately challenging to walk into these places, its a mirage of awkwardness and its apparent the one of the reasons sa people are reluctant to frequent a pub or bar is because of this forced nature of it, i know that many people would give this as a reason for being unhappy, that you dont go out "to the pub for a drink and a dance or a snog", but one thing you have to remember is that these extroverted people(by the way introverted people do as well, i know, it depends on comfort levels) who attend the clubs every week are no better than you at all, and in fact the statistics of introverts/extroverts are around the 50/50 mark, i challenge everyone here to go to localised clubs/bars/pub, whatever on your own or with friends and order a drink and just focus on the fact that really you are the same person as you are at home with your family and that potentially there is a good chance that you will meet someone on your level, and not going to these clubs doesnt make you a bad person at all, its just a recreation and if you dont drink then its kind of pointless anyways, am i wrong? you can meet people anywhere its just that the "pub" is the socially acceptable way of doing it in most peoples eyes, but it doesn't mean that its the right way, dont feel that you have to buckle under the pressure of other peoples expectations of yourself, i asked my sister about clubbing the other night and i asked her what is it that makes it such a "must do" action, she said that she has changed her tune and that she prefers having friends over or just visiting an art gallery, i was "shocked" she went on to say that she didnt like the music and that she only went because all her other friends were there but now she's seeking other interests and has a different attitude to it,
TBC, i have to go but ill add to this later on