Bo592
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What comes to your mind when you hear this do you think good advice , bad advice or just wishful thinking.
I think bad advice and this is why. Imagine this you have a weird habit that childish and everyone find it foolish and wrong. But this weird habit make you feel confident and creative. It help you feel on top of the world. it give your life purpose and meaning. You feel like you have a bright future in writing , drawing or anything that requares thinking skills. But as great as it is it starting not to feel very fulfilling. because now you are starting to starve for a relationship. But now we have a problem because the people find your weird habit unacceptable. they don`t won`t you they won`t a strong man like someone that can fight and protect himself and the people around him. This strength requares confident and the ability to think fast and know what everyone likes and be fun to protect them from boredom and misery. And he also feel unneedy and he does not depend on other for happyness.
So I think about this and think o.k great this is how I felt with my weird habit I felt powerful and I forgot about the world when I got engage in it and I could even be protective if I wanted to be. strength come from the power of purpose. But wait a minute people find this unacceptable. Meaning I have to drop it and droping mean droping these strengths. so I did drop the habit but now their a new problem coming into play. Now my confident is shader and now I really depend on other for happyness I did not before when I had my weird habit I bariely thought of them accept when I started getting hungry for a relationship That weakened my happyness for my weird habit. I tryed other things like going to a place to meet people or trying a new hobbies out. But the way people prejudge other made life hard the way they wanted me to become would take along time to become and staying on task would take confident and some kind of fulfillment to keep me charged and happy so I would be able to keep enduring the task intell I finally become they way they wanted me to be. But they want me to have good social skills But they won`t let me get colse enough to practice socializing. Everyone want perfect and perfect take practice You can`t get better at basketball with out a basketball or a hoop. You can`t get better a building houses without having tools and wood. How is this suppose to play out with me not being able to practice socializing and everyone expect me to be perfect or else I won`t be aloud to breath a single word to them.
So I give up and go back to my weird habit the one everyone rejects. BUT "YES anther but" Now somthing is wrong with my weird habit. I don`t feel happy about it anymore. the confident the creative is not working anymore. Something blocking me from feeling the same way That I youst to feel about this habit. The guilt of me dying alone and never accomplishing my goal and finding a relationship was stopping from getting the same feeling that I youst to get. "So is this good" I don`t think it is so. I feel this huge emptiness in side of me My self esteem is gone and the one thing that I youst to be able to rely on my weird habit is now usless to me. This mean I am now loss and can`t find my fulfillment and it all because I tryed to make a real friend in the world.
I think bad advice and this is why. Imagine this you have a weird habit that childish and everyone find it foolish and wrong. But this weird habit make you feel confident and creative. It help you feel on top of the world. it give your life purpose and meaning. You feel like you have a bright future in writing , drawing or anything that requares thinking skills. But as great as it is it starting not to feel very fulfilling. because now you are starting to starve for a relationship. But now we have a problem because the people find your weird habit unacceptable. they don`t won`t you they won`t a strong man like someone that can fight and protect himself and the people around him. This strength requares confident and the ability to think fast and know what everyone likes and be fun to protect them from boredom and misery. And he also feel unneedy and he does not depend on other for happyness.
So I think about this and think o.k great this is how I felt with my weird habit I felt powerful and I forgot about the world when I got engage in it and I could even be protective if I wanted to be. strength come from the power of purpose. But wait a minute people find this unacceptable. Meaning I have to drop it and droping mean droping these strengths. so I did drop the habit but now their a new problem coming into play. Now my confident is shader and now I really depend on other for happyness I did not before when I had my weird habit I bariely thought of them accept when I started getting hungry for a relationship That weakened my happyness for my weird habit. I tryed other things like going to a place to meet people or trying a new hobbies out. But the way people prejudge other made life hard the way they wanted me to become would take along time to become and staying on task would take confident and some kind of fulfillment to keep me charged and happy so I would be able to keep enduring the task intell I finally become they way they wanted me to be. But they want me to have good social skills But they won`t let me get colse enough to practice socializing. Everyone want perfect and perfect take practice You can`t get better at basketball with out a basketball or a hoop. You can`t get better a building houses without having tools and wood. How is this suppose to play out with me not being able to practice socializing and everyone expect me to be perfect or else I won`t be aloud to breath a single word to them.
So I give up and go back to my weird habit the one everyone rejects. BUT "YES anther but" Now somthing is wrong with my weird habit. I don`t feel happy about it anymore. the confident the creative is not working anymore. Something blocking me from feeling the same way That I youst to feel about this habit. The guilt of me dying alone and never accomplishing my goal and finding a relationship was stopping from getting the same feeling that I youst to get. "So is this good" I don`t think it is so. I feel this huge emptiness in side of me My self esteem is gone and the one thing that I youst to be able to rely on my weird habit is now usless to me. This mean I am now loss and can`t find my fulfillment and it all because I tryed to make a real friend in the world.