whatisitabout
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I'm at a real loss. Ever thought about what your life theme may be? Mine is loneliness. I'm really starting to think that my destiny is to be alone....and it scares me. A lot.
I've always had a hard time meeting women. It's a real struggle. Part of it is self confidence but what comes first? Lack of self confidence so you don't get anywhere, or you continually don't get anywhere and as a result have less confidence? Regardless, it's been a real struggle. It's a perpetual cycle.
About me:
I'm skinny, have fair skin, so there's no tan there. I'll be turning 44 soon, but I look 6-8 years younger than I am. In my mind, other than what I've stated, I'm an average looking guy, in the face anyway, even if nothing else. I'm well mannered. I do to others how I want to be treated. I believe in being a gentleman. Even though I'm rather introverted, I can carry at least 50% of a conversation, even if I have a hard time initiating it. I have a pretty good sense of humor and it gets better the more comfortable I am around someone. I have a good career and get paid fairly better than average. I'm fairly well spoken and am at least as smart as the average person.
I have a handful of friends that I've had for 15+ years, but they all live far away. My social circle is zero. I can't get a date to save my life.
I don't know what else to do, so over the past 3 years, I've used several dating sites and gotten no where. I met one person and we went out for 3 months and decided to call it quits. I decided to play the numbers game and in the past month and a half, joined 3 sites. I've reached out to so many profiles, I've lost count. It's been easily 4 or 5 dozen. With the exception of one, I've gotten no response or 3 or 4 "No thanks". I just don't understand it. My profile isn't perverted. It says I try to do the right things. I believe in honesty and integrity. I'm looking for something serious and don't play games. I've thrown some humor in there. I've rewritten it several times but for the life of me don't understand why I can't get a least a little interest from a few. It doesn't seem to matter what I say in it.
I'm seriously starting to believe that it's my destiny for things to be this way. I feel like my clock is ticking and the more time that goes by, the more it's freaking me out. If I can't do it in person, that only leaves the dating sites and they're a massive fail. I just don't understand what is wrong with me and why things have to be this way. I don't mean to sound like I'm having a pity party. I just don't know what to do. Anyone have any words of wisdom?
I've always had a hard time meeting women. It's a real struggle. Part of it is self confidence but what comes first? Lack of self confidence so you don't get anywhere, or you continually don't get anywhere and as a result have less confidence? Regardless, it's been a real struggle. It's a perpetual cycle.
About me:
I'm skinny, have fair skin, so there's no tan there. I'll be turning 44 soon, but I look 6-8 years younger than I am. In my mind, other than what I've stated, I'm an average looking guy, in the face anyway, even if nothing else. I'm well mannered. I do to others how I want to be treated. I believe in being a gentleman. Even though I'm rather introverted, I can carry at least 50% of a conversation, even if I have a hard time initiating it. I have a pretty good sense of humor and it gets better the more comfortable I am around someone. I have a good career and get paid fairly better than average. I'm fairly well spoken and am at least as smart as the average person.
I have a handful of friends that I've had for 15+ years, but they all live far away. My social circle is zero. I can't get a date to save my life.
I don't know what else to do, so over the past 3 years, I've used several dating sites and gotten no where. I met one person and we went out for 3 months and decided to call it quits. I decided to play the numbers game and in the past month and a half, joined 3 sites. I've reached out to so many profiles, I've lost count. It's been easily 4 or 5 dozen. With the exception of one, I've gotten no response or 3 or 4 "No thanks". I just don't understand it. My profile isn't perverted. It says I try to do the right things. I believe in honesty and integrity. I'm looking for something serious and don't play games. I've thrown some humor in there. I've rewritten it several times but for the life of me don't understand why I can't get a least a little interest from a few. It doesn't seem to matter what I say in it.
I'm seriously starting to believe that it's my destiny for things to be this way. I feel like my clock is ticking and the more time that goes by, the more it's freaking me out. If I can't do it in person, that only leaves the dating sites and they're a massive fail. I just don't understand what is wrong with me and why things have to be this way. I don't mean to sound like I'm having a pity party. I just don't know what to do. Anyone have any words of wisdom?