its not bad though, its just that people with ego and people who feel they need to talk all the time will ridicule a shy person especially if they look vulnerable and distant. i see it all the time. if you are shy but you walk around with confidence, like for instance, just say you walk around offering food or you are the photographer at a party, then you are seen as ok, because you have a role, but when people notice you standing at the sidelines quiet then louder ones will make comments eventually, usually rude criticisms, espeically egos, i think its a defense mechanism or something, doesn't always happen but it does when you bring alot of confident people together and gossip appears.
but i think most down to earth people know the shyness is just normal. i mean when you are on a train or even at work, shyness probably outweighs conversation for most people.
i am very shy and quiet, mostly because i dont initiate conversation, if someone asks me questions i will get a conversation happening, but at work for instance i don't say much, there are cliques there who mess around, but i keep to myself and do the work. given the right environment where i feel relaxed and it'd probably be a different story. I don't adapt well to environments that feel either false, fake, forced, off, around arrogant people etc. which is alot of general everyday environments.
i went to a party and even though there were plenty of quiet people there, this guy said to me "who is this guy, you wouldn't even know he is here" laughs* cackles, even though at the start of the party before he had arrived i was actually being chatty and mingling quite a bit, but i just decided to sit back and observe as i drinked a glass of beer. No big deal, but how come he singled me out? stuff like that really irks me, makes me not want to go to parties. I am happy to go out to concerts,festivals, restauratns, outings, but forced parties usually just irk me for some reason, whether its the forced converation, and i like that sometimes, parties can be great, but some just make you not want to go parties through certain interactions that occur.
one thing i know is very true, those who grow up with 3-5 bros or sisters are far more likely to have learnt group mingling skills then those who grow up with 1 bro/sis or none at all. because there is a selfishness that occurs, sort of, where as in a group environment, growing up, learning that chemistry every day, means that group social skills are very good movng into adulthood.
