Why is shyness considered by most to be bad

Do you think most people view shyness as a negative characteristic?

  • Yes.

    Votes: 14 38.9%
  • No.

    Votes: 10 27.8%
  • I have no idea.

    Votes: 1 2.8%
  • I don't care.

    Votes: 2 5.6%
  • It depends entirely on your definition of "shyness."

    Votes: 9 25.0%

  • Total voters
    36

Labyrinthine

Well-known member
When I was merely shy, I didn't have many problems. Quite a few people actually found it endearing. I figure it depends more so on the level of shyness. However, there will always be someone who looks negatively upon you, no matter if you're shy or outgoing. You can't ever please everyone, so why bother?
 

satstrn

Well-known member
Shyness is generally misinterpreted in two ways. One, that the shy person is lacking in confidence, and two, that the shy person is cold, unfriendly, or too self righteous to make conversation. Shyness is not a negative characteristic in and of itself but I think we can agree that low confidence, unfriendliness, and self-righteousness are. The thing is that most people that lack confidence are also shy (probably like many of us on here). People that lack confidence are always looked down upon, which I think is unfortunate. But I don't think its the shyness that people look down on, its either the perception that the person is either lacking in confidence or just plain cold.
 

1BlackSheep

Well-known member
I was once called a snob because I barely talk. It made me laugh - so - hard...me? better than anyone else? heh..almost cracked a rib :)
People are ignorant about what they do not understand, and have no intention to try and understand...and that's sad.
This has happened to me a lot too. Because I can be initially very quiet, it takes a while for people to see the "real" me, which can be quite the opposite! I'm just not very talkative with people I barely know.
 

Bustn Justin

Well-known member
I am shy myself.

I think that people view shyness as negative since they are concerned that we feel negative of them.
 

Flowers-Of-Bloom

Well-known member
shyness is fear is weakness. humans are pack animals. don't be the weakest in the pack.

Humans certainly think like pack animals, with the alpha, omega and everything in between.
I don't like social hierarchies. I'm more of a lone wolf... People seem to hate that.
 
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