How bad was ur first hart break?
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shakethelight
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Well, we dated for roughly two years and it took me like 3 yrs to get over him. He was pretty much my first in ever aspect so I think thats why it was so bad for me. I thought my life was going to end, & that I was never going to meet any one else. Not true though.
I am sorry if your going through something like that. Its important to remember that in time it does get better.
I am sorry if your going through something like that. Its important to remember that in time it does get better.
Flowers-Of-Bloom
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Three months for a relationship that lasted... three weeks. Seriously. -_-"
I was severely depressed after the breakup and I thought about suicide every day. It was a horrible time in my life that I'll probably never forget but somehow I got past it. I was already emotionally fragile to begin with so that probably didn't help either. But he was a great guy and his reasons for leaving me were in everyone's best interest. I still doubt I'll find another guy like him.
I was severely depressed after the breakup and I thought about suicide every day. It was a horrible time in my life that I'll probably never forget but somehow I got past it. I was already emotionally fragile to begin with so that probably didn't help either. But he was a great guy and his reasons for leaving me were in everyone's best interest. I still doubt I'll find another guy like him.
KitKat2
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In my 20's...he was my first boyfriend, i fell in love, took me many years to get over him and I have never loved that way again. Guess i was very innocent if I had met him now, I would probably have dumped him. He was a bit of a jerk and made me feel like I wasn't good enough for him.
this_portrait
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It lasted 11 months and it took me 5.5 months to get over it.
1BlackSheep
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Has it really been 6 years since I did that? :
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hidwell
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Has it really been 6 years since I did that? :
I always knew you were a heartbreaker :
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KiaKaha
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I always knew you were a heartbreaker :
Pfff - she broke mine. Well I had it coming... I guess that's what you get when you take people for granted. Fool - the ONE woman that actually gave a crap about me and accepted who I was completely... and I manage to screw it up. She was so into me... she hurt me... but I hurt her first. If I had just reciprocated her feelings just a little more things would be different. I deserved it.
It's a good thing I am capable of learning - I would like to think I am a little smarter since then.
I should have eaten the prawns...that was the deal breaker.
Is this too serious? this is probably too serious...
I am a serious guy dont you know.
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1BlackSheep
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I always knew you were a heartbreaker :
I think he was referring to me! :
:You should always eat the prawns! Always!!!
THeCARS1979
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What were you doing with someone like that . Why do i think you deserve better?
KiaKaha
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I think he was referring to me! :
You should always eat the prawns! Always!!!
She BBQ'ed these prawns - took her like an hour to prepare. She made it with love and I didnt eat them. That was the final insult. The next day (christmas eve of all things) she dumped my ass.
My first heart break lasted... well i dont really remember haha, it was like 2 years tho, i jever eveb dated this person, but i was trying to, but my anxiety got in the way. When it happened tho, i couldnt eat, or sit still, almost impossible to sleep, for about 2 weeks strait, i even lost 15lbs cause of it
Rembrandt Broam
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You should always eat the prawns! Always!!!
If there's one piece of advice I could give someone for living a happy life, I think that would be it. Wise words, 1BlackSheep.
ghostgrrl
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My last heartbreak was a month ago and it tore my world apart. The 2 prior to that was easier to deal with because they weren't big communicators and didn't wear their emotions on their sleeve.
The last one took me deep inside my emotional vulnerabilities like no one has ever done before and so did she she but she ended up being a user and a liar with a cheating heart and cheating mind. I gave everything I could to her, she broke me, she literally broke me. and if she wanted to in the past month to come back I would've let her back into my life even though it would be a terribly wrong decision.
I cried several times a day, everyday for the past month and that includes crying quietly at my desk at work. I look at the textes, the emails, the pictures, the tangible memories left behind in my room, picturing her with me in all the places she was around picking me up from work, outings, at home. The way we were loving and caring to each other.
I'm starting to cry now. My online friend who's known her longer than me says to think of all the shyt she's done to you to help me get over her. When someone fulfilled you so emotionally, how can you constantly think of the bad. She had a g/f 2weeks after we broke up then that fell thru and less than 2weeks later after that, she has a new online girlfriend. What hurts the most is not the breakup but knowing the betrayal that she was trying to hook up with other girls online while we were together and that she didn't even take time to mourn the loss of our year and half relationship. She is and always will be the worst heartbreak for me.
The last one took me deep inside my emotional vulnerabilities like no one has ever done before and so did she she but she ended up being a user and a liar with a cheating heart and cheating mind. I gave everything I could to her, she broke me, she literally broke me. and if she wanted to in the past month to come back I would've let her back into my life even though it would be a terribly wrong decision.
I cried several times a day, everyday for the past month and that includes crying quietly at my desk at work. I look at the textes, the emails, the pictures, the tangible memories left behind in my room, picturing her with me in all the places she was around picking me up from work, outings, at home. The way we were loving and caring to each other.
I'm starting to cry now. My online friend who's known her longer than me says to think of all the shyt she's done to you to help me get over her. When someone fulfilled you so emotionally, how can you constantly think of the bad. She had a g/f 2weeks after we broke up then that fell thru and less than 2weeks later after that, she has a new online girlfriend. What hurts the most is not the breakup but knowing the betrayal that she was trying to hook up with other girls online while we were together and that she didn't even take time to mourn the loss of our year and half relationship. She is and always will be the worst heartbreak for me.
WeirdyMcGee
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My mom always says; 'the first cut is the deepest' when it comes to heart break.
She had a similar situation as me-- childhood friends and sweethearts; but she had 2 babies and a marriage; whereas I did not. Same length of time, though.
When I had my heart broken, she told me that when she left my dad-- she had to treat it as if he had died. Mourning a loss. The loss of her first relationship.
I didn't have children and I refused to get married so young, so I suppose I'm not as bad off as her but I can't really pretend he's dead.
So, it's hard for me.
4 years in August, then his birthday is going to be the same day that my sister gives birth to her first daughter-- so at least I can overwrite his birthday every year and think about something else...
Every day is a struggle.
The point is that we're supposed to move on with life no matter what happens and I have been unable to.
So-- do yourself a favor and keep living.
The pain will go away eventually.
She had a similar situation as me-- childhood friends and sweethearts; but she had 2 babies and a marriage; whereas I did not. Same length of time, though.
When I had my heart broken, she told me that when she left my dad-- she had to treat it as if he had died. Mourning a loss. The loss of her first relationship.
I didn't have children and I refused to get married so young, so I suppose I'm not as bad off as her but I can't really pretend he's dead.
So, it's hard for me.
4 years in August, then his birthday is going to be the same day that my sister gives birth to her first daughter-- so at least I can overwrite his birthday every year and think about something else...
Every day is a struggle.
The point is that we're supposed to move on with life no matter what happens and I have been unable to.
So-- do yourself a favor and keep living.
The pain will go away eventually.
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da_illest101
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Never more than a few minutes, mind you those are girls I have a crush on but never do anything about it, then I found out they have a bf. My longest and only relationship was a week long and I ended it. When it comes to relationship I have no experience at all