Yes I'm still virgin
Are you a virgin?
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DarkAngelos
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It's better to be a virgin for a 50 years than to lose your virginity, just because ''you thought you should lose it at the age of 15''.
Gaucho
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I think you are wrong, the 50 Year old person can have lived a depression, Social phobic life because of this.
Wile the 15 year old may just have had a bad experienced but probably learned about it.
Ofcourse there are exceptions, but id say 90% of the time its like I said
Other people would define me as one if I said my situation, yeah.
But I think its a state of mind anyway. I mean theres no true way to measure it anyway or no clear definition of what counts. Just as Vampiro said above.
I mean I'm telling this partly to myself because since Ive gone for so long without doing, I don't want to start believing the "lablel" and become defensive of it If I do get the chance to do it.
As for the before or after "marriage" thing. To me thats fine if people WANT to do that. But it seems silly to have it as a rule and follow when really you don't want to. I mean, apparantly we're on a spinning rock in the middle of an infinite universe of possibility. It doesn't seem likie there'd be a "wrong" or a "right" in that way to me.
But I think its a state of mind anyway. I mean theres no true way to measure it anyway or no clear definition of what counts. Just as Vampiro said above.
I mean I'm telling this partly to myself because since Ive gone for so long without doing, I don't want to start believing the "lablel" and become defensive of it If I do get the chance to do it.
As for the before or after "marriage" thing. To me thats fine if people WANT to do that. But it seems silly to have it as a rule and follow when really you don't want to. I mean, apparantly we're on a spinning rock in the middle of an infinite universe of possibility. It doesn't seem likie there'd be a "wrong" or a "right" in that way to me.
Felgen
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Not in 2012. The fact that a person is in his 20's and still a virgin might scare away a lot of potential girlfriends who might otherwise be perfect for him.
MikeyC
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That's true. I know one girl who found my virginity a turn-off, and there's probably plenty more out there.
OceanMist
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Very good statement.
Virginity can be seen as a giant red flag if a guy is a virgin in his 20s.
The key reason why for many of the women is normalcy. Most guys in their 20s aren't virgins so when many of these women hear that a guy is a virgin their reaction can be something along the lines of "what's wrong with him?" or "why hasn't any women ever liked him enough to sleep with him?"
Then there is the experience thing, too. Many women don't want to have go through what they went through already in junior high or high school (first time sex for one of the partners).
InvisaLady
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Yep, 30 and I still am. I have never found a guy willing to touch me.
MikeyC
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I'm sorry. :
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MrSunday
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In my culture, if a women or a man has slept with many different people outside of marriage, they are unlikely to get married. It shows they cannot control their urges and are likely to be unfaithful.
I know a female relative of mine who slept with many guys. When she wanted to get married to a responsible young man, none approached her.
Same with another close relative. He slept with loads of women. Soon he wanted a wife to take care of him, but no women accepted his engagement proposal.
Overall, it's likely you will be banished if you fornicate or date in my family (I have a very big family). You will have to pack up your belongings and leave. Bye bye.
I have to agree that most people that fornicate and date in my culture end up being very unfaithful to their marriage partner.
I know a female relative of mine who slept with many guys. When she wanted to get married to a responsible young man, none approached her.
Same with another close relative. He slept with loads of women. Soon he wanted a wife to take care of him, but no women accepted his engagement proposal.
Overall, it's likely you will be banished if you fornicate or date in my family (I have a very big family). You will have to pack up your belongings and leave. Bye bye.
I have to agree that most people that fornicate and date in my culture end up being very unfaithful to their marriage partner.
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Gaucho
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from what country are you if i may ask. turkey?
Rembrandt Broam
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That seems to be a rather unsound conclusion to reach. Someone may have had many partners and been absolutely faithful to each of them, while another person could have slept with far less people but cheated on them all.
As to urges, well I wonder how healthy it is to repress them. Sex is a perfectly natural urge, and one that the vast majority of humans experience, but people have different levels of sex drive. As long as people are careful, I don't see why it's a negative thing to have had a number of different sexual partners.
Maybe they need to seek relationships outside their culture, as it doesn't seem like they fit in very well with its values and ideals, at least with respect to sex.