No Friends At All?

[spect01]

When people tell a person who has no friends that they just have to "put themselves out there" it justs seems pathetic because I'm telling you it really isn't that easy. It really isn't. You can't just walk up to people and say hello I have no friends to my name, want to be mine? and you can't just go to some restaurant or bar or wherever and start talking to people and pushing it to where it seems like you're trying too hard and coming off as a moron. I'm going to be very blunt about this, I do think it's harder for guys. That's another subject but the fact is it's not as easy as it seems to be.

 

[psittacus]

A couple. Two really close friends. A handful of aquaintances. I get easily annoyed with others, so a lot of alone time is necessary to keep me sane. I can find myself wanting company for a brief moment and then just as sudden in need of personal space. It makes it hard to socialize for more than a few hours at the time.

 

[Section_31]

Im very picky and choosy about who i call a afriend. There are people i just know, and then i have friends.

If i really think about it, id say i have 4...and all of them are related to me.

 

[Squidward]

I have no friends at all..

 

[Rose_Red]

I had one friend. He has my cat, and which who recently passed away.
As for the human kind, I have none.
I thought I may have, or even an acquaintance but I tested this theory on facebook and the 78 friends I have, do not speak to me and they do not acknowledge me even if I make all the effort.
This is how I have come to discover I have no friends.
I have no other connection with people of the outside world as I rarely leave my house not because of my anxiety, but because I have no desire to. I have no interests which involve interaction with other people. A true introvert.

I'm not depressed by this however, why do I need friends when I am not compatible with many people, so why try befriending people I have no similar interests or similarities as a generalisation?
The people I have called friends in the past were all liars. They only felt sympathy towards me and never were good friends at all, instead treated me as if I was a second option or a doormat. They knew they could take advantage of me, so why should it bother me if I have not met one genuine person who will accept me for who I am.

 

[BiWinning]

One of my best online "friends" turned out to be someone completely different from who I thought he/she was...

he/she? gender swap or keeping it pseudonymous?
Did I even use that word right?

 

[Fletchworth]

I don't have any true friends.

The horrible part of it is that I DO have people who I talk, laugh, and joke around with every day. I wouldn't consider them friends, mainly because I know that I could never ask them for a favor, or ask them to hang out, etc.

But honestly, who needs friends? Friends won't help me reach my goals.

 

[MrJones]

he/she? gender swap or keeping it pseudonymous?
Did I even use that word right?

Haha no no, no gender swap XD
It was always the same, but I didn't want to talk about it much

 

[thomas90]

Introverts dont have many 'friends' as it would seem because, they look for close, real friends who are going to be there for them through thick and thin, and these introverts may feel like they're not good enough or that they don't have 'enough' friends. This is an extroverted view! Your not extroverted, don't pretend that you are. (if your an introvert lol)

Hope this helps.

 

[BiWinning]

Introverts dont have many 'friends' as it would seem because, they look for close, real friends who are going to be there for them through thick and thin, and these introverts may feel like they're not good enough or that they don't have 'enough' friends. This is an extroverted view! Your not extroverted, don't pretend that you are. (if your an introvert lol)

Hope this helps.

I think most people on this website are introverts ^^
How do you manage SA and the qualities of an extrovert?

 

[sucettes]

One of my best online "friends" turned out to be someone completely different from who I thought he/she was...

Same happened to me. I was talking to a guy but turned out that it wasn't really him on the pictures He lied to me for over a year.

 

[thomas90]

I think most people on this website are introverts ^^
How do you manage SA and the qualities of an extrovert?

Well im sure that there are extroverts here with SA, but i just hear alot about 'how many friends do you have' on this forum and all i have to say is, these people who feel this way are probably introverts and its perfectly normal to be the way that they are!

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I have a couple (well i could) have but im "too scared" to ever meet them because my social skills are from another world currently so my days are spent alone....really want to make some in the future though :/

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

I literally have zero friends. I never leave my apartment other than to go on the occasional walk or see a movie. My online "friends" are acquaintances who come and go every few weeks.

 

[recluse]

Sometimes i'm not bothered about having no close friends as i find people to be very tiring and demanding, i actually hate having to think of things to talk about. Other times, especially on weekends when most people do social things like parties and drinking i feel bitter and i actually feel self hatred.

Society seems to be all about being popular, if you are a loner then you are seen as scum by most people. I feel jealous when is see people with friends having fun.

 

[AsTimeBurns]

I struggle with things to talk about as well, but that's with more acquaintances. With the few friends at had at school, if i talk to them it still comes easily and we just chat about random nonsense. Thing is, I've known them for about 15 years, so i know the kind of things i can talk about with them. Very difficult with people I don't know very well when trying to form a friendship;

 

[sai]

YOU ALL sound..... damn cute to me....!! love u all

 

[mike876]

I have zero friends, i only ever talk to my mom and brother.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

People throw it around a bit: "i've got no friends", when in reality they do have 1 or 2 people they talk to or hang out with occasionally, even if it's a rarity. But does anyone else have literally no friends at all?

I have NO friends.

I hang out with my sister sometimes. But she is my sister not my friend (she likes to remind me of this fact).

I do talk to people online, and some I do consider friends...but they don't really count as friends since we don't hang out in the real world.

Do you wish you did have some, or do you just get on with life alone nowadays?

I want friends!! I want a social life so badly. I have always wanted to be a part of a group of girls. In middle school I was part of such a group; we all ended up going to different high schools though, and I never did bother to keep in touch.

Sometimes friends are more stress then their worth.

Friendships do take a lot of work to maintain. But the rewards are great.

When people tell a person who has no friends that they just have to "put themselves out there" it justs seems pathetic because I'm telling you it really isn't that easy. It really isn't. You can't just walk up to people and say hello I have no friends to my name, want to be mine?

I agree. I can manage to talk to people...but how does one take it to the next stage? I met someone about two months ago, added her on fb. She suggested we hang out, and I was like Yeah! thinking we would hang out later that week but she never did say when. It is frustrating. I think people like the idea of making new friends but many of the times they don't follow through.

I'm going to be very blunt about this, I do think it's harder for guys. That's another subject but the fact is it's not as easy as it seems to be.

It is not any easier for us girls either! A lot of girls already have their friends and they are not really interested or have the time for more. And women, when they have boyfriends or husbands and/or children, they tend to drop their friends more so than men.

Im very picky and choosy about who i call a afriend.

I can also be very picky! Growing up I had all these expectations of what I thought a friend was. Now I see my expectations were much too high and no wonder they never lived up to them. There are all kinds of friends. Not all have to be super close and know everything about me.

YOU ALL sound..... damn cute to me....!! love u all

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[JJB]

It's interesting isnt it, the concept of no friends I mean. I know a good few people online, very few I would call friends though. I've never really liked the idea of friends even when I was a kid. I've always preferred my own company and have realised over the years that people I've interacted with have generally irritated me and stressed me out. I can't talk to them for more then 30 minutes, I need to go somewhere quiet and chill out.

Weird, it was explained to me that it's a common trait with people who are introverted. But I don't think you should be upset or worries about having no friends. Some people choose not to have them. I have people I know and get on with but I'm not sure is call them friends. Can only think of two mates who are friends to me and they drive me mad.