Do you think it's possible to be happy alone?

elek2ronik

elek2ronik

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I apologize if this has been discussed before, but I was recently talking to a friend about being alone versus having a girlfriend/boyfriend or being married.

So do you think it's possible to be happy single, or do you believe that we all should at some point find that perfect person for us? Or our "soul mate" ?

Do we NEED a significant other in order to be happy?
 
A friend

A friend

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My answer is no. It's entirely possible to be happy alone. If that wasn't the case, then why do I see tons of happy people living their lives without someone holding their hands as they walk along the streets with smiles on their faces?

LIFE IS NOT DESIGNED TO BE ONE FAIRY-TALE STORY ABOUT ROMANCE!!!!!!!

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Having friendship is important though (in my opinion).
 
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TheSanctuarian

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elek2ronik said:
I apologize if this has been discussed before, but I was recently talking to a friend about being alone versus having a girlfriend/boyfriend or being married.

So do you think it's possible to be happy single, or do you believe that we all should at some point find that perfect person for us? Or our "soul mate" ?

Do we NEED a significant other in order to be happy?
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Not at all! Being single allows you to be much more "open" with your relationships . they are two different lifestyles, So I would say they are incomparable, as they both have their perks.
 
elek2ronik

elek2ronik

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I agree. I don't think we NEED someone else to make our lives happier. We should be happy with ourselves first, and then we can allow others into our loves as benefit for both people. If we use others to fill a void in our lives, then we're left empty again if they should leave.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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In my experience it's possible to be happy living an idependant life. And it is possible to be happy 'single'.

There is a big difference between being single and being alone.

I enjoy the company of others, and also my own company at times, but I am not alone.
 
Mickery

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If you feel you need a significant other, you should do that. If you feel you need any other kind of relationship, or none at all, you should do that. If you aren't sure what you need, you should try some things so you can find out.

Different things may make you happy at different times in your life. Maybe you will be satisfied with shorter and more intense relationships when you're younger, and something more meaningful and stable when you're older. That seems likely for most people, but certainly not a matter of "should".

I think about half the questions on the forum could be summed up with "Whatever makes you happy".
 
RoomBound

RoomBound

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Both being single and being in a relationship has its pros and cons. But if you're single you have more freedom and you're not vulnerable to the potential hurt/frustration/complications/dependancies of relationships.
 
A friend

A friend

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Kiwong said:
In my experience it's possible to be happy living an idependant life. And it is possible to be happy 'single'.
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Agreed.

Like most people on (and off) this forum, I do not believe one could be happy unless they were/are single.
 
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catwoman

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This is a tricky issue...

If we are single, we've got the feeling we are missing something (well.. not all the time). We can amuse ourselves. Each of us got his or her passion. But in every single human being their is a dessire to meet you're other halfpart.
A single life is a life that you can appreciate more your friendships. We don't need to think about our boy- or girlfriend. Maybe he/she doesn't like the fact that I'm seeing my friend at that moment, and so on. We need to give up some little things to make the other halfpart happy. Does it make you happy? You will get a lot in place: love.

Dating a lot and having 20 partners in your life doesn't make you happy. You will feel guilty and not good in that situation.

Living alone, without a partner is a choice for some of us, but not for everybody.
Some people want to, but can't; other can, but don't want to.

But after all, I think for me living together with someone is the best way to live your life; for people with other goals, like: doing extreme dangerous sports; they love to have some kicks and don't want to do their potential partner some pain when they have an accident.

You need to see what your own goals are in your own life :).
 
elek2ronik

elek2ronik

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I have had girlfriends in the past, but since then I've realized I wasn't always the best boyfriend. I realized that in order to have a healthy relationship, I need to be happy with MYSELF first.

I think people can be happy single, but being happy with yourself is the first step if you want to have someone else in your life romantically. Otherwise it will never work and will not be fair to the other person.
 
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SM1010

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I'm sure there might be some rare people out there that could be happy alone forever.

Most of us no. I know I've always craved finding a woman I was incredibly attracted to, both physically and emotionally, and making the proper moves to get her (which is the hard part for me).
 
Rufus

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Not sure. If you genuinely don't want anything more than being alone then I suppose you could live out the rest of your days as a happy loner. Even then it would be quite a sad life at times.

Mind you, I've always thought that the image of the lone wolf is quite cool but truth is the wolf will never spend a night fapping over a computer screen 'cos he can't get any ass. ::p:

For most of us though, like myself, I believe we need someone special. It's wired into us to find a partner/mate and unless we do then something is always going to be missing from our lives. That and the whole courtship stage is just....wow, awesome.
 
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doesit

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elek2ronik said:
I apologize if this has been discussed before, but I was recently talking to a friend about being alone versus having a girlfriend/boyfriend or being married.

So do you think it's possible to be happy single, or do you believe that we all should at some point find that perfect person for us? Or our "soul mate" ?

Do we NEED a significant other in order to be happy?
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Well first id say you need to have someone there for you,after that you can compare,feeling to being alone :cool:
 
A friend

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Rufus said:
Not sure. If you genuinely don't want anything more than being alone then I suppose you could live out the rest of your days as a happy loner. Even then it would be quite a sad life at times.

Mind you, I've always thought that the image of the lone wolf is quite cool but truth is the wolf will never spend a night fapping over a computer screen 'cos he can't get any ass. ::p:

For most of us though, like myself, I believe we need someone special. It's wired into us to find a partner/mate and unless we do then something is always going to be missing from our lives. That and the whole courtship stage is just....wow, awesome.
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If it's wired into us, then why was I successfully able to re-program myself and completely remove that desire?
 
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