one comment which has affected your confidence

MaliceInWickedland

MaliceInWickedland

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During an argument with my friend the other day, she said this:

"You want to hear the brutal truth? You blame the world for your problems when the fact of the matter is that you're a little hermit crab who's afraid to put her heart on her sleeve."

It really hurt my feelings when she said that, but the hardest part for me is knowing that she's right...
 
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redmatter

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MaliceInWickedland said:
During an argument with my friend the other day, she said this:

"You want to hear the brutal truth? You blame the world for your problems when the fact of the matter is that you're a little hermit crab who's afraid to put her heart on her sleeve."

It really hurt my feelings when she said that, but the hardest part for me is knowing that she's right...
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I don't know about you, but wearing our hearts on our sleeve is how some of us got further into this mess to begin with. Damned if you do, damned if you don't? At least for me.

I heard this somewhere and it always stuck, "Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." We all belong here just the same as those who stand in crowds to feel important. If they don't let us in I guess we'll stand alone to feel human...
 
CZi

CZi

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Hahahaha, now THIS I have a healthy pool to pick from. Let's see, I've had situations similar to what Sara explained earlier in the thread:
-Overhear a group on opinions of classmates
-Hear name used for contrast\outlier\what about?
-Cue female laughter

I couldn't go every other day, let alone a week in elementary(primary) school without getting picked on. Stuff that seems silly now, but it set the foundation. (Stick, four-eyes, gay, and so on)

The groaning\fighting over having to pick me for whatever gym team. I'll give ya a hint, it wasn't cause I was good. LOL

Honestly, I've blocked most of the stuff out by now but I still remember one really specific example because it occurred more recently. When I was in College/Uni I ran for our Track team. While training, running a route around the campus, some big dudes were all: "Run Forest! Ruunnnn! HAHAHAHAHAHA!"

I cheerfully waved and replied "Why *EXPLETIVE* you too! :D" Still hurt though lol...
 
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Nitro

Nitro

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I know there have been many bad things that have been said to me but I can't think of them right now. I think my mind represses those memories because they hurt.

The only one I can remember was my mother shouting at me and calling me stupid when I couldn't do a math problem when I was 12/13. I can't help it if I have an artistic mind rather than a mathematical one.

As I've grown I seem to have developed a mental barrier because hurtful comments don't affect me nearly as much as they used to.
 
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redmatter

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los77, yes! How could I forget, there is nothing more infuriating to me than the confidence line. They take your confidence, then tell you how you need it. All the while, perplexed how the hell they could have it. I mean, who do they think they are? Lol, we know them pretty well don't we?

After a certain point, you can sense them loving to irk you with the confidence jab... I've thought for a long time that most people present themselves as confident people because they have so little to work with- they're maxed out- and don't know the difference.
 
Katty

Katty

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I was put into time-out when I was 5 and my teacher told the whole class to point and laugh at me for crying..
 
Purplepixies

Purplepixies

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Lets seee:

-Fat
-Dirty (because i wan't black nor white so i was dirty)
-My kindergarten teacher once hit me with a book when a girl lied saying I had stood up while she was gone.
-My 4th grade teacher accused me of writing a paper in which I 'supposedly' wrote the names of 2 of my friend and my own saying we were the stupid girls in the class. Till this day I can't believe her ass.
- Just plain ugly.
- Lesbo ( Which I don't see how that's bad but I'm not a lesbian just because I had short hair :[ )
- Alien/Martian/Weirdo/ etc
- "IT"
We can do this all night.
The latest insult is being a virgin. This is the newest thing to get made fun about.
 
jazy

jazy

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Home move of me as a baby crying. My father says "I can't wait to show you this when your older so you can see what a horrible child you were" and when I watched our home movies and that part came on he would look at me and say "it's true you were" every time.

"I tell people that I don't have any children because I'm embarrassed by you" My Dad.

"Don't eat that your fat already" Dad again.

Got into a fight with my father. I screamed at him and he mocks the way I screamed at him. Then laughed and said I sound like a retard because that's the sound they make"

In high school a girl would go up to the few friends that i had and ask them Why they hang out or talk to a worthless loser like me.

A teacher in high school told me that I would never go to college or become anything. That I will always be nothing because my final grade in his class was a B+

The same teacher didn't like freshmen and wouldn't let anybody use the bathroom during his class, and if you did he would write it up as being absent from his class. So I had to wait 5 minutes until class was over to use the bathroom and I almost wet myself. I hated him.

In 4th grade I didn't know how to solve a math problem and I guess it was a simple math problem, and the teacher asked me to come up to the chalkboard. Shes asks me what's the answer, and I looked at the teacher and said "I don't know" and she rolled her eyes at me and made a uhh sound like "look at this idiot" "can you believe it". Then made another girl in my class come up there to solve it, and help me with it while I stood there embarrassed.

I'll stop here because there are so many things people said to me that I can never forget, and it would be a really long post.
 
panicsurvivor

panicsurvivor

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People are nice to you and agree with you because you intimidate them. ::(:::(:
That's the great thing about SPW.......no one here knows what I look like. ;)
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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A few days ago when I ventured out to get catfood at the store across the street, I ran into some trouble in the parking lot.
There were several cars zooming around infront of the store so I stopped and waited properly.
One of the cars suddenly slowed down infront of me and a guy hung the front half of his body out the window to say something to me.

I had my headphones in but I could still hear him clearly;
"You're just standing there like a retard! Get a life!"

'nice', I thought.
Not only did he say I'm slow, but I'm a loser-- and he put so much effort into leaning out the window that I could practically smell his breath. Why bother getting so close to a stranger whom you're doing a drive-by-insult to?
Why me?
What the ****?
That really hurt my feelings.
I hate myself for letting something so stupid and juvenile get to me so easily-- but as usual; everything gets to me easy.
I was crying before I could manage to leave the store with my catfood- but I played it off like I had something in my eyes. Both of them. -__-
Then I went home and flopped down on the floor and cried for 2 hours.
It was wonderful.
I haven't gone outside since.
 
alwaysrunning

alwaysrunning

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In ninth grade a bunch of football jocks in class were talking about how wierd i was for never talking. Then all of a sudden one guy stood up for me and looking my way said "Hey stop talking about her like that" For a second it made me feel good until he followed up with "Dont you know the quite ones are the ones who usually come back the next day and shoot up everybody that made fun of them" and then smiled at me while everyone laughed. WTF i was 14 and shy, not a sociopath. It messed me up because i never knew people would look at my shyness in such a threatening and demeening way =/
 
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mikebird

mikebird

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After some exams when I was about 10, a teacher said that, in summary, "Mike only ever does just enough". I used to think it was quite a good measure getting it right, and not overdoing it.

Now, because of your post, I remember it well. I never took criticism seriously. I always have pride in myself, and the way I do things. If I had listened carefully when I was 10, and ever since, I might have done better.
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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A year ago, a couple of my mom's friends came over for a lunch and one of them (having known about my 8 year relationship which had ended) said this:

"Oh, you were together for that long and lived together but never made a baby? That's a big surprise!!"

...um... is that not a good thing?
It's a surprise that two young adults can actually be responsible or...
I'm not sure what she meant.
Was it supposed to be a compliment?
Whatever it was, maybe it sounded good in her head or maybe she just her verbal diarrhea but it made me feel like maybe there is something wrong with me since I never got pregnant.

There is a high percentage of girls who graduated from my class in highschool- a good 75% who are married now. By 23 years old.
And out of that 75%, half of them have more than one child.

I never wanted to get married or have children so young.
I wanted to be able to be financially stable and maybe even have a career before I worried about having a baby but somehow I feel like my point of view is discriminated by people and it makes me feel like complete ****.
I don't look down on anyone who chooses that road for themselves.
So why would someone look down on me for deciding not to?
I don't understand.

Whatever it is- I don't fit into any of society's molds and because of that, I'll always feel uneasy and out of place. (and an irrational part of me feels really ugly somehow- for not having gotten pregnant. Also, for having my boyfriend leave me without a reason. very ugly.)
Stupid.
 
MagicPotion

MagicPotion

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"You're the ugliest person I've ever seen!" :D - This guy from a band my mate played with. I got a little hot under the collar and almost fell out with my mate over it as well. Probably the worst as it was more or less then that I decided to turn from somebody who occasionally went out, into a total shut-in.

"You're a nerd" - My therapist under her breath. Not so much the insult but the source.

[Expletive deleted] - My social worker under his breath. I thought he was alright up until then.

"Maybe your mother is embarassed because she wishes she had a normal son" - A close member of my family

"Just get a life [magic potion]! Get an effing life for crying out loud!" - my ex during a row. I thought I already did! ::(:

As you can see these sting not because I was insulted (it happens) but because of the person insulting me. A succesful peer group member I envied, medical professionals I trusted, a family member I wanted to respect me, and the only woman I ever loved.

Ah but whatever, I know I'm awesome really :D
 
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eatamoose372

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After Graduation last month:
MOM- Wow, this is too surreal! I never thought I'd see this day... I don't think any of us did. I mean, no one actually expected you to graduate..
You're so dimwitted and unambitious that I thought you would have given up by now.. kinda like how you do with everything else you've ever done.
DAD - Congradualtions! You've FINALLY accomplished something in your life!

It's comments like those that make me reclusive and unispired to do/stick with anything...
 
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