Rent a Friend

pebblesdundee

pebblesdundee

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It sounds so ridiculous, but my therapist has said he'll find someone like this, to get me socializing. I had someone like it before, it went ok, so who knows
 
Sprunk

Sprunk

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pebblesdundee said:
It sounds so ridiculous, but my therapist has said he'll find someone like this, to get me socializing. I had someone like it before, it went ok, so who knows
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I know the concept is bit out there.Though when you have tried everything else who knows?I guess you have really hit rock bottom when you have to pay people to like you:)
 
pebblesdundee

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Yeah, mine's slightly different. It's volunteer work, so people volunteer to do it. So not quite as degrading as having to pay someone. There was a german guy I hung out with for a year, and now my therapist's going to try and find an older man for me (ooh err). The first few weeks it felt like I shouldn't get too attached because he was doing it because it was work, but after a few weeks I sort of settled in and it was nice to just have human companionship
 
Sprunk

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twiggle said:
I've not heard of it before but I've just had a look at the website and it seems like a really degrading thing to do to yourself. Paying somebody to hang out with you? Are you sure that's the kind of thing that would help your self-esteem?

I'm in a new town so have resorted to websites to try and find people too but I wouldn't try the above... not only is it costly but its not a real solution to the problem.

Have you tried other websites, that are free, but have the same intention of getting people to meet new people and socialise? I'm currently registered with Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup - its free and you can find people in your area with your interests. And you go to meet each other, not just meet some rented friend. It's a world service so hopefully there'll be something in your part of Australia.

And you're bound to have similar websites unique to Australia. Just type in, 'how to meet new people in ______' and see what comes up.

Good luck! :)
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Thanks for your input.I will do a search and see what i can come up with.I do agree with you that it is degrading though like i said i am at a low point and i guess i am pretty lost
 
pebblesdundee

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Sprunk said:
Trust me i don't have much left after bills.But thank you for making me feel twice the looser:)
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Aw, don't worry, if I had the money I'd be renting people left and right lol.

I meant I'd let my ego die by spending time with such a cool dude as yourself of course, and that's why I'd have to be desperate for money to do it :D

And if you did hang out with me, you'd spend most of your time frustrated that I'd be pointing things out like "it's loser, not looser".

Grammar nazi, sorry
 
BlueDays

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Apart from the fact of morality; it makes people a commodity, I would not mind it.
I think sometimes you get so deeply lonely your ego no longer comes into the equation. Or is there something wrong with me!?:rolleyes:
 
Sprunk

Sprunk

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pebblesdundee said:
Aw, don't worry, if I had the money I'd be renting people left and right lol.

I meant I'd let my ego die by spending time with such a cool dude as yourself of course, and that's why I'd have to be desperate for money to do it :D

And if you did hang out with me, you'd spend most of your time frustrated that I'd be pointing things out like "it's loser, not looser".

Grammar nazi, sorry
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Damn grammar nazi:D
 
WeirdyMcGee

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I checked out the site briefly but couldn't put my postal code in to do any further research-- it freaked me out a little. XD

Since it's 'rent' a friend, I guess it costs money? I have none. I also don't have any live non-rent a friends, so I guess it'll just be me until I win the lottery or something?
haha

Sometimes people are just too shy or busy (or any number of other things) to have the time (or courage) to make and keep friends... so I don't hate this idea completely... although as another poster stated- it makes people a commodity, which I don't like.
I guess all the friends you can rent are just doing it for money, since they are not volunteers. Volunteers have a different type of kindness. They genuinely want to help you because helping people makes them feel good. A person who is being your 'friend' to get paid seems to have a less kindness towards you initially. That's how I feel about it, anyway...
 
Sprunk

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twiggle said:
Sorry to hear that ::(: Though, try and look at the bigger picture. It won't be this way forever, but do you always want to be thinking about how you once paid somebody to be friends with you? The worry is that it may make you feel worse about yourself; another of those bad points you remember when you're thinking about how much things suck (we all get those moments, right?)

I think the website is a good idea if say, you're travelling somewhere new and want somebody to show you around a city one afternoon but on a long-term scale I don't see how it could work without costing a fortune. I read somewhere $10 an hour. What's the point in paying that if after the service you don't see them again.

Sorry, I'm not trying to tell you what to do, its your life - but I just thought I'd give you some feedback as you consider whether or not you want to join the site.

Focus on becoming a friend to yourself first - that's the first step :)
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Thanks.Guess at the moment i don't really know what i want.I'm just tired of what i have.When i think about it,it is kind of social prostitution which can't be a good thing.But like i said i am just frustrated.
 
Ladystardust

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How can a person buy anothers friendship? It sounds more like paying some one to help you through a diffecult event than making friends. I have not looked at the site so i do not know how it works. But what a very sad world we live in when people feel they have to pay peple for a bit of support.
 
Luke1993

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I do like the idea, if I had the money and maybe if I was a bit older so more close to their age range, I would defintely rent a friend, searching I found four in my county. If I have to resort to underhand methods so be it!
 
Pookah

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I think it might be more fitting if this was a social thing arranged by a therapist, like group therapy. That way everyone is in the same boat.

I don't see the appeal to this, as I would want people to like me for me.

Then again, I don't really LIKE to socialize like a lot of people seem to want, so it may be different for me. I just want a couple friends who are like me, too many people is over-stimulus for me.
 
upndwn

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This kind of thing just makes me sad and angry. It's just a ploy to take advantage of lonely and desperate people. What kind of person (apart from a prostitute) would sell themselves anyway. These people have to be really shallow egoistical persons or they're really broke. It may all be a scam though. If anyone wants to rent a friend, come visit me, I'll be your friend for free.
 
IGotSeoul

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If I actually make a friend of the person I rent, do I have to keep paying them? That would be awkward.
 
LazyHermitCrab

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You shouldn't have to pay someone to be your friend, and it wouldn't even be a real friendship. Oh and I haven't tried this site myself so who knows! I've tried online dating and it went some ok some not great though. What kinds of things do you want to do that you can't do alone? I'm sure there's other ways! If you can find one good friend you will be set, don't worry about the number :D
 
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